What we're about

The purpose of the group is to provide safe, social meetings for anyone who is interested in polyamory in all it's many forms. We provide an opportunity to meet poly people and find out more about polyamory, socialise with others who understand the concepts and discuss anything you want to really. Topics of discussion range from how we live poly lives to the weather and even sport. Polyamory is practised in many ways, from solo poly to married/attached people dating others, relationship anarchy and many other dynamics.

When you request to join, you'll be asked two questions. Please be aware that your membership will not be approved if you appear to be "unicorn hunting" or looking for sex partners. The organisers may also contact you to discuss your application before approval.

Whether you are experienced in the poly life or just curious, come and hang out with us! This is NOT designed as a "cruising" or "picking up" event, so don't come expecting everyone to be looking for new partners. Do not send messages to other members unless you have met them at a meetup, and spoken substantially with them. If you receive unsolicited "let's meet" or other predatory messages from a member, please forward them to the admin team. We aim to be a safe space for everyone.

Our long standing Tuesday pub meetings now regularly attract 60 people or more, so they can be loud. The pub is accessible for wheelchair users, not too noisy, not too expensive, serves food, is central ... we've really tried to make the venue as accessible as possible for most people. The pub we use for the Tuesday meetup does have a couple of steps at the entrance, there is a buzzer to inform pub staff if you need assistance or a ramp. If you need assistance and if you wish, you can let the group organisers know in advance and we'll make sure the pub staff are expecting you. Do come along if you are interested in meeting poly people, if you are poly yourself, or if you think you might be. We're a friendly lot and don't generally bite. :-)

Poly Coffee is a smaller group limited to 45 people, in a coffee shop which does not serve alcohol. It's aimed at us more experienced poly folk providing support for people starting out on their poly journeys, the atmosphere is generally quieter than the pub and more focused on discussing poly topics. There is always a "poly 101" session for newbies, and everyone has the opportunity to ask specific questions or request topics for discussion.

The Poly Women's group is a specific meetup for anyone who identifies as a woman and those who have a non-binary gender identity and who have an interest in polyamory. Usually a variety of topics are discussed, not just those related to polamory.

NOTE TO MEDIA PEOPLE OR RESEARCHERS: Our members often do not appreciate researchers asking questions at meet ups. I am not a spokesperson for polyamory and I do not appreciate the endless flow of requests for information. I would far rather you sought information online before approaching myself or others in the community. Although no longer fully functioning you can try the Poly Media Association http://www.polymediaassociation.com/ If you email me with questions about polyamory I am most likely to forward your request to someone from the PMA anyway. We also strongly recommend you read this guide to interviewing poly people - http://emanix.livejournal.com/30996.html .

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London Polyamory Meetup Group

Sir John Oldcastle pub

Tables are reserved for us towards the back of the pub. If you have any difficulty finding us, look for the inflatable parrots hanging off the light fittings on the ceiling or off chairs. You can also ask bar staff for the "parrot people". This meetup group is for anyone who is interested in openly and honestly loving more than one partner - you may call yourself polyamorous or non-monogamous or any other label you prefer, but if you are interested in having, or currently have multiple romantic and/or sexual relationships where all concerned are consenting and in full knowledge, you are welcome to come along and chat with others who understand those choices. This is NOT a dating group of singles! If you are actively looking for a partner, that's fine, but the group is not set up for the purpose of matchmaking, and some of our members are pretty "polysaturated" (i.e. they have as many relationships as they want and are not looking for more!) I'd hate for anyone to come along expecting that everyone there is looking for new partners and then be disappointed. If you are looking for new partners, look out for things like Poly Speed Dating nights, Poly Cocktails and try looking online at, for example, okcupid.com. If you receive unsolicited "let's meet" or other predatory messages from a member, please forward them to the admin team. We aim to be a safe space for everyone.Come along and talk to others about how they found their partners, too, if you like. We are a friendly group and not known to bite. ;-)

Poly Coffee

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PLEASE NOTE NEW VENUE AND START TIME FROM MAY 2018 From May 2018 we will be using Pure, 85 Gracechurch St near Monument tube station. This venue is more accessible than any we've used before for poly coffee. The time is also changing to 1pm to 4pm. Poly coffee is a monthly meet started in 2015 aimed at complementing our long-standing pub meets by giving peer support to those who are travelling the poly journey. Unlike the pub meet it is a place where the focus is on learning and it aims to be a welcoming starting point for those starting on a poly lifestyle. Experienced poly people are welcome too but must be prepared to answer questions and share their experience for the benefit of the less experienced. It is NOT designed as a "cruising" or "picking up" event, so don't come expecting everyone to be looking for new partners. Do not send messages to other members unless you have met them at a meetup, and spoken substantially with them. If you receive unsolicited "let's meet" or other predatory messages from a member, please forward them to the admin team. We aim to be a safe space for everyone. Please try to arrive promptly so you do not miss any of the discussion. The format tends to begin with informal chats while people arrive with brief introductions from around 1:20pm

Poly walk: City Of London - The Unofficial Tour

The Barrowboy & Banker


This event is organised by PolyLondon member Virpi, who some of you will have met at poly coffee and poly pub. Come for a walk around the City of London - The financial centre of London - a city within a city. On the tour you get a chance to: - follow in the footsteps of power, including a visit to the ancient body that runs the city - The City Of London Corporation - Discover how companies like Goldman Sachs and the Bank of China get to vote every year in UK elections - Understand why for centuries, money flowed into the city of London and why today much of it is going offshore - The tour starts close to London Bridge and ends near the Guildhall, and lasts around an hour and a half. Your guide will be Susie Steed, a comedian and accountant. Susie has a blog at HuffPost and written for publications like The Guardian. She has also appeared on TEDx talks, the LSE podcast and in a few documentaries including The Spiders Web and In Transition 2.0. She guest lectures at several universities s around the UK. The walk will start in London Bridge at 3:30 and end in Guildhall. There is an £8 charge per person (cash) Meeting place: The Barrow Boy and The Banker at 3pm. The walk starts at 3:30pm sharm (but come for 3pm if you want to grab a coffee/drink and have a chat) After the walk the organisers would like to go to the pub and hear your views on what kind of walks/explorations you would like to attend in the future! Please remember to cancel you RSVP if you can no longer make it so we won't wait for you!

Poly Speed Dating

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**Please note, you MUST sign up through the eventbrite link below or buy a ticket through an organiser in person at one of the free poly meetups in order to book your place: https://www.eventbrite.co.uk/e/february-poly-speed-dating-tickets-54913664248 This is why meetup RSVP is limited to the hosts to avoid confusion** What? As organisers for the polyamorous community, one of the most frequent questions we get asked is "where can we meet other polyamorous people?" This is a regular speed dating event for everyone who knows that happy, healthy and honest relationships don't have to be monogamous. This event will be gender blind (so you will meet people of all genders, quite possibly including ones that you are also not romantically or sexually attracted to). Schedule Please arrive by 7pm. Instructions will be given at 7.15pm, following which we will immediately be seated and start at 7.30pm. The event will finish by 10pm at the latest, but we will have the space booked until 11pm so feel free to stay to keep chatting with interesting folks, have dinner, or for drinks. How much? Tickets are £10 plus eventbrite fees and available before the event only (see eventbrite link above) - there will be no tickets on the door and no concession tickets. Tickets are available in person without eventbrite fees at any of our free monthly or coffee meetups.

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Poly Speed Dating

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