This amazing event is Wednesday nights 7:30 - 9:30 PM Raleigh, NC time zone and Thursday mornings 9:30 - 11:30 AM Melbourne, Australia time zone. ONLINE!

### **RARE Series: Body Image, Belonging, & the Need to Be Wanted**

*A 4-week journey into appearance, connection, and feeling "enough."*
At RARE, we know that how we feel in our bodies is never just about looks — it’s about **lovability, safety, and how this effects access to connection**.
We live in a culture that teaches us to measure our worth by how we look, how desirable we seem, how well we “fit.” Many of us carry **appearancism wounds** — the ache of feeling unwanted, overlooked, judged, or not enough. These wounds cut deep. They shape how we relate, how we show up, and whether we believe we’ll be met.
This 4-week RARE series creates a space to **gently explore and transform** the ways body image and appearance-based pain have affected our ability to connect. Through **Transformational Connection**, **Authentic Relating**, and **attuned group practices**, we’ll create the safety needed to reveal what’s often hidden — and to be held exactly as we are.
This is not a space to fix your body.
It’s a space to come home to it.
To reclaim your presence.
To remember that you are already worth loving.
Together, we’ll begin to untangle shame from connection, and rewire the belief that love must be earned through appearance.
Because **you are already enough to belong**.

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RARE: Radically Attuned Relational Encounters

K.L. Thigpen

Body Image/Appearancism Series: A Radically Attuned Relational Exploration

Online event

**RARE** stands for **Radically Attuned Relational Encounters** — a transformative group experience where presence becomes the gateway to self-realization, deep human connection, and healing.
At RARE, we practice **States of Awareness Training** and **Transformational Connection**. These are not just exercises — they are living practices that return us to ourselves and one another. Through meditations on presence, on each other, and on the space between us, we learn to listen with our whole being. We play **Authentic Relating Games** — joyful, curious, playful, and sometimes breathtakingly deep. These experiences invite us to reveal who we are, again and again — to be seen, felt, and deeply understood.
The **RARE method** is built on the truth that all human problems are, at their core, relational in nature. The attachment injuries we carry — whether through neglect, control, betrayal, or the absence of attunement — shape our emotional lives in lasting ways. They can be healed. They are healed through **attuned connection**, practiced consistently, and held with skill.
In our 14-week containers, participants gather in pods of 8, meeting weekly for 3 hours of immersive, experiential connection and self learning. We create a field where safety, boundaries, self-acceptance, and truth-telling are not just valued — they’re practiced. We learn to protect ourselves without closing our hearts. We learn to give and receive love without giving ourselves up. And we learn that transformation doesn't require fixing — it requires *presence and choice*.
Which brings us to **Redecision Therapy**, a process we use which is rooted in Gestalt techniques and powerful group-supported personal choice. Here, we reach into the inner moments where old decisions were made — and choose again.
RARE is not just a program. It is a reawakening to your power, your relational brilliance, and your capacity to feel, love, and belong.

Matt McCaskill

Casee

Steph

Jonathan

Dwayne M.

RARE Member

Gabrielle Angeloro

Molly S

Jack

Practice Human Connection Skills: Level Up Relationally; Heal Attachment Trauma

1103 Brooks Ave

## **Personality, Presence, & the Power to Choose: A 6-Week RARE Pod Dedicated to Understanding Ourselves & Others Through Personality Theory**

### **See how you’ve adapted — and how to be connected to the most natural parts of you.**

Join a 6-week online journey, imbued with the core practices of **RARE**, alongside the powerful psychological framework of **Personality Adaptations** — a model developed by Vann Joines and Ian Stewart and grounded in **Transactional Analysis**. K.L. Thigpen is a long-time student of Vann Joines and a Certified Instructor in Personality Focused Treatment through Vann's Southeast Institute for Group and Family Therapy in Chapel Hill, North Carolina.

We will compare the 6 personality adaptations with the 5 NARM core survival styles.

**The NARM Core Survival Styles**

* Connection Survival Style. People with this survival style usually feel disconnected from themselves, their bodies, and other people. ...
* Attunement Survival Style. ...
* Trust Survival Style. ...
* Autonomy Survival Style. ...
* Love-Sexuality Survival Style.

In the Personality Pod, you’ll learn how your adaptive strategies — the ones that help you survive and perform — may also be limiting your capacity for presence, connection, and choice. You’ll be gently guided toward something deeper: the truth of who you are beneath the adaptation.

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### 💡 What We’ll Do Together

* Take a **Personality Adaptation questionnaire** to identify your core style of adapting to relational wounding.
* Explore how these adaptations show up in your relationships, your defenses, and your sense of self.
* Study essential pieces of **Transactional Analysis** to understand the internal “scripts” driving your patterns.
* Engage in daily and weekly **States of Awareness Training** and **Transformational Connection.**
* Practice **Authentic Relating Games** that bring insight, intimacy, and aliveness to every session.
* Learn the language of **attuned boundaries, embodied truth, and relational repair.**

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### 🔮 What You’ll Walk Away With

* Insight into your core relational survival strategies.
* Tools to shift from reactivity to presence.
* A deeper ability to feel, express, and connect authentically.
* Relational skills that support safety *and* intimacy.
* New choices. New awareness. A new way of being with others — and yourself.

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### 🌀 Program Details:

**🗓 Dates:** May 6th - June 10th, 2025.
**⏰ Time:** 7:15pm - 9:15pm Raleigh Tuesday nights; 9:15am - 11:15am Melbourne Wednesday mornings.
**📍 Location:** Zoom.
**👥 Group Size:** Limited to 8 participants for intimacy and depth.
**💸 Cost:**

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### 🧠 Who This Is For:

This group is for people who are ready to go deeper — into themselves, their patterns, and their power to transform through connection. Therapists, seekers, feelers, and humans of all kinds are welcome.
No prior experience with RARE, Transactional Analysis, or Personality Adaptations is needed — just a willingness to explore, reveal, and relate.

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