Queer-tistic (LGBTQ Neurodivergent Individuals in the DMV)

Welcome to Queer-tistic—two things people find confusing, and we’re perfectly okay with that!

TL;DR (Too Long; Didn't Read): This is a low-pressure, private space for LGBTQ+ autistic adults who are 21 and over. We prioritize comfort, consent, and confidentiality. Please read the full guidelines below so you know how we keep our space safe!

If you are LGBTQ+ and on the autism spectrum, you’ve found your spot. We created this group to be a low-pressure, sensory-friendly space where you can be your authentic self without the need for masking or social scripts. Whether you want to share your latest special interest, enjoy some parallel play, or just hang out with people who "get it," you are welcome here.

While this group was founded by a gay man on the spectrum and is deeply informed by that perspective, we are an inclusive space for all LGBTQ+ individuals on the autism spectrum.

As the host, I’m using these meetups to practice my own conversational skills. I’m always happy to chat if you’re looking to practice, too! If you’d rather just do your own thing, that’s 100% fine—no pressure either way.
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Tired of the DC noise? We will meet mostly in Montgomery and Frederick county, however this is open to all in the DMV.

Community Vibe & Guidelines
To keep this a safe and comfortable space for everyone, we ask all members to follow these community guidelines:

•Platonic Only: This is a social, friendship-based group. Please note that this is strictly a platonic space and is not a hookup or dating group.

•Peer Support Only: We are a social club, not a therapy group or clinical setting. We are here for genuine connection, not professional mental health services.

•Bring Your Own Sensory Toolkit: Feel free to bring whatever helps you feel comfortable—noise-canceling headphones, a favorite plushie, a fidget toy, or a weighted lap blanket. We want you to be as regulated as possible!

•Low Pressure: Your comfort comes first. You are welcome to arrive late, leave early, or "pass" on any conversation or activity at any time—no explanation or apology required.

•Respect Boundaries: We value personal space. Please always ask before initiating physical contact (like hugs or touching), and remember that a "no" is never personal—it’s just sensory regulation.

•No "Fixing": We listen to understand, not to offer advice. Please hold off on offering unsolicited advice about how others manage their lives or sensory needs unless they specifically ask for help.

•No Masking Required: You are encouraged to communicate in the way that feels most natural to you. Stimming, fidgeting, and using non-verbal communication are all 100% welcome here.

House Rules for Safety & Comfort
•Support Person Policy: We understand that some members may need the assistance of a support person (caregiver, family member, or friend) to attend comfortably. Support buddies are absolutely welcome! We kindly ask that support buddies be there primarily to facilitate their person's participation. Please keep in mind that our space is intentionally curated for LGBTQ+ autistic adults, and we ask that all attendees respect the specific culture and boundaries of this community.

•Privacy Policy: We deeply respect that many of our members are not out in all areas of their lives. What happens in the group, stays in the group. Please do not share photos of our meetups or tag any members on social media without explicit, unanimous consent from everyone involved.

•A Note on RSVPing: Even though our group is private, I know that clicking 'Attend' can still feel like a big step. If you aren't comfortable having your name on the attendee list but still want to come, please just message me privately. I'll make sure there’s a spot for you, and your name won't appear on the public list.

•Scent-Sensitive Space: Many of our members have sensory sensitivities, including strong reactions to fragrances. We kindly ask that members refrain from wearing perfumes, colognes, or strongly scented body products to our meetups.

•Zero Tolerance: We have a zero-tolerance policy for hate speech, harassment, or discriminatory behavior of any kind (including racism, transphobia, homophobia, or ableism).

•Accountability: We are committed to maintaining a safe, inclusive environment. If you experience any discomfort or feel that our guidelines are being ignored, please reach out to the group organizer privately.

Come as you are, stim as you please, and let’s be confusing together.

Have a question about an event, or feeling nervous about coming for the first time? Please feel free to message me (the organizer) privately through the Meetup platform! I’m happy to answer any questions or help you know what to expect.