Olympia Discussion: The Love Stories We Inherited: Your Love Blueprint

Welcome to this week’s women’s circle! Tonight, we’ll focus on connection and self-discovery. We’ll begin with a fun icebreaker to set the tone and get to know one another better. From there, we’ll explore the evening’s topic, 'The Love Stories We Inherited: Your Love Blueprint,' through open discussion, sharing our thoughts, and reflecting on personal experiences. This gathering is a space to connect, grow, and be inspired by one another’s journeys. We’ll close with a moment to set intentions, leaving with fresh perspectives and a sense of support. Let’s dive in and make this time meaningful together!

Below is the "Mindful Musing" for the week which includes our Main Topic and some questions for us to explore together!

Before you ever said “I love you,” you were watching love unfold all around you.

In how your parents spoke to each other. In how affection was given—or withheld. In who got chosen. Who got abandoned. Who got forgiven. Who didn’t.

Your earliest lessons about love weren’t taught—they were absorbed. And without realizing it, you started building a blueprint: This is what love looks like. This is what I have to do to earn it. This is how it feels. This is what I can expect.

But here’s the catch: blueprints aren’t truth. They’re just blueprints. They can be changed.

This session is about holding those inherited love stories up to the light. Asking: Is this still true for me? Do I even want this kind of love?
You are not bound to love that feels like longing. You don’t have to confuse chaos with chemistry. You get to want love that is safe, clear, expansive, and real.

It starts by rewriting your definition of love—not based on who you used to be, but on who you are now.

### Discussion Questions

1. What did you witness growing up that shaped your idea of what love is?
2. What did you learn (explicitly or subtly) about who deserves love—and who doesn’t?
3. How do you define love now—and what parts of that definition feel outdated?
4. When have you mistaken being needed for being loved?
5. What patterns in your relationships reflect old stories that no longer serve you?
6. What did love feel like in your body as a child—and how does it feel now?
7. What did you believe you had to do to be lovable?
8. What’s one belief about loyalty, sacrifice, or commitment that you’re unlearning?
9. What kind of love are you calling in now—and what parts of you need to rise to meet it?
10. If you were to write a new love blueprint, what 3 values or non-negotiables would anchor it?