LEARN TO PLEASE YOURSELF (NOT LIKE THAT)

Nice Guys don't believe it's okay to be themselves. Because of this mindset, they are desperate to get the approval of everyone around them, especially women. Thinking that being "good" and "nice" is what makes them worth loving, they often try to cover up their mistakes and hide their basic humanity using covert contracts and other care-taking behavior.

Deep down, they don't believe that they are inherently worthy of love or approval, and because of this, they are often extremely dishonest, hiding their true selves behind a mask of “niceness” in order to avoid rejection or disapproval.

The tragedy is that these strategies do not work. In fact, they usually have the opposite effect on people. Other people sense this inauthenticity in the Nice Guy and tend to withdraw from them because of it, leaving them feeling abandoned and frustrated.

Let's discuss different strategies for learning how to stop seeking the love and approval of others by learning how to love and approve of ourselves.