Why You Chase, Withdraw, or Overthink in Love: Unpacking Attachment Styles

Why do you feel calm with one person… and anxious or shut down with another?
It’s not chemistry.
It’s not “bad luck.”
It’s attachment.
Around the 2–3 month mark in dating, your nervous system starts asking:

• Am I safe here?
• Will they stay?
• Can I fully be myself?

That’s when attachment styles show up.
Anxious → overthinking, scanning, needing reassurance.
Avoidant → pulling back, minimizing needs, “I’m fine.”
Disorganized → push-pull, hot-cold.
Secure → regulated, clear, steady.
In this session, we’ll explore:
• The 4 attachment styles and how they form
• How they show up in dating after 50
• Why you don’t have a “bad picker” — you have a nervous system
• How to move toward more secure attachment
This isn’t about labeling yourself.
It’s about understanding your wiring so you can date with clarity instead of fear.
If you’ve ever wondered,
“Why do I react like this?”
This session is for you. 💛