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Are You good enough or you going through Anger | Anxiety | Fear | stress / Yow want Reduce Stress and anxiety and experience confidence and happiness.
everyone asks of themselves, wondering if they are good enough to be loved, accepted, recognized, praised.
Through Mindfulness and Emotional Intelligence we can Reduce our Stress ANXIETY.
From down in the dumps to over the moon, join us to explore the art and science of human emotions.
we tend to be impatient, and lost in the past or in the future instead of being present. We also tend to resist or react to things by denying, commenting, or judging them rather than being receptive and trying to understand them. This reaction creates more stress.
• Learn how to become emotionally intelligent so you can deal with this busy world in a calm way.
• Learn how the behaviours we adopt effect our Life
• Learn how to calm anxiety and your Mind.
Introduction to Mindfulness Education.
Most of us find life stressful at times, particularly when afflicted by illness or faced with difficulties.
If the pressure on our lungs would not be in conflict with the pressure outside our bodies, it would be impossible for us to breath in. Being alive biologically is a result of "conflict" that arrises between pressure, concentrations of salts, or electrical charges in our bodies and the list can go on.
On the other side, there will be no progress or growth without conflict.
The ability to handle conflict is a measure of the level of happiness that we can bring into our lives.
Mindfulness is a mental quality that reminds one to be present. It is the bare, choiceless, relaxed, moment to moment non-judging attention to the mental or physical activity that is occurring here and now. It pays equal respect to pleasant and unpleasant objects. It also possesses a quality of inquiry, patience, and acceptance toward all that is occurring in the present moment.
Mindfulness is one of the "universal" wholesome (beautiful) mental factors that when fully present, will enhance other beautiful mental qualities (such as loving-kindness, joy, equanimity, generosity, etc.) and weaken the unwholesome ones. Therefore practicing mindfulness is a way to make one's mind beautiful.
There are four ways of establishing mindfulness which explore four different aspects of life experiences:
1) Body (or physical aspect).
One establishes mindfulness by being aware of:
-Body postures (sitting, standing, walking, lying).
-Physical activities/movements: bending, stretching, reaching, stepping, holding an object, putting on clothes etc.
-Physical sensations within the body.
-The breath: being aware of its nature (in or out, long or short, the motion, pressure, tingling, warmth etc.)
A direct way to experience physical sensations is to be aware of reality, the elemental nature: texture (hard or soft, rough or smooth, light or heavy), temperature (warm or cool), dynamics (motion, vibration, or tension/pressure) and cohesiveness or fluidity (which is usually too subtle to directly experience). This differs from the usual concept of “my body” as a generalized form or shape which is to be kept in the background in formal practice. These four kinds of manifestation are traditionally known as the earth, fire, air (wind), and water elements.
2) Feeling tone.
Not to be misunderstood as emotion or sensation (which it is sometimes translated), it actually is the mindful awareness of the three feeling tones (impressions or qualities) that is associated with all physical or mental experience: pleasant (agreeable), unpleasant (disagreeable), or neutral. One notices that there is simply pleasantness, unpleasantness (physical or mental) or neither present in this moment.
Mindful awareness of consciousness and mental states/emotions/thoughts.
4) Phenomena (Mental objects/contents):
Mindful awareness of phenomena, things that we experience at our sense doors, including "the mind's door": the dynamic functions and relationships of consciousness, mental states and thoughts.
With respect to the last two, there are overlaps between mind and mental objects and any object that does not fit in the first three would belong to the fourth one. Therefore, to simplify, 3) and 4) could be considered together as mindfulness of the mind. This involves non-judging awareness of (and objectively observing how they are manifesting):
- thoughts (thinking, reflecting, remembering, planning, etc.),
- mental states and emotions (sadness/joy, fear/hope, aversion/appreciation, anger/love, confusion/clarity, drowsiness/agitation etc.) or
- consciousness itself (the container for the above, just as a clear glass holding water or yellow juice... and is colored by them).
It also includes the observation of specific mental qualities or effects such as the hindrances (difficulties) of the practice, awakening (insight/enlightenment) factors and the sense door experiences (seeing, hearing, tasting, smelling, touching etc.) - including the mind's reaction to them. We can also see how we are caught in these experiences, thus being able to free ourselves from them.
CONCEPT AND REALITY
We normally identify with the conceptual aspect of life. This conventional reality of names and forms: "I am a student", "my knee hurts", "I am angry" etc. It can be useful for functioning in the world although it is quite often colored/distorted by our biases, prejudice, past experiences (positive or negative) or by misunderstanding, overlook or ignorance.
In mindfulness practice, one keeps the "concept" (conceptual reality) in the background and pays more attention to the true nature or "ultimate reality" of all phenomena (what one directly experiences in the moment without interpreting or referring to past knowledge). Instead of "my knee hurts" (concept) one feels the reality of pressure, tension or heat at the knee (first foundation) or physical unpleasantness (second foundation) or aversion to it (third/fourth foundation). Instead of "I am angry" (concept), one experiences this emotion or mental state simply as anger (third/fourth foundation), or mental unpleasantness (second foundation) or the associated heat or tightness (first foundation). One does not identify with these experiences as being me, mine or myself but objectively observe them in order to understand their true nature, just like looking at clouds in the vast sky, like a scientist observing an experiment without bias.