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Are You good enough or you going through Anger | Anxiety | Fear | stress / Yow want Reduce Stress and anxiety and experience confidence and happiness.

everyone asks of themselves, wondering if they are good enough to be loved, accepted, recognized, praised.
Through Mindfulness and Emotional Intelligence we can Reduce our Stress ANXIETY.

From down in the dumps to over the moon, join us to explore the art and science of human emotions.

we tend to be impatient, and lost in the past or in the future instead of being present. We also tend to resist or react to things by denying, commenting, or judging them rather than being receptive and trying to understand them. This reaction creates more stress.

• Learn how to become emotionally intelligent so you can deal with this busy world in a calm way.

• Learn how the behaviours we adopt effect our Life

• Learn how to calm anxiety and your Mind.

Introduction to Mindfulness Education.

Most of us find life stressful at times, particularly when afflicted by illness or faced with difficulties.

If the pressure on our lungs would not be in conflict with the pressure outside our bodies, it would be impossible for us to breath in. Being alive biologically is a result of "conflict" that arrises between pressure, concentrations of salts, or electrical charges in our bodies and the list can go on.

On the other side, there will be no progress or growth without conflict.

The ability to handle conflict is a measure of the level of happiness that we can bring into our lives.

MINDFULNESS

Mindfulness is a mental quality that reminds one to be present. It is the bare, choiceless, relaxed, moment to moment non-judging attention to the mental or physical activity that is occurring here and now. It pays equal respect to pleasant and unpleasant objects. It also possesses a quality of inquiry, patience, and acceptance toward all that is occurring in the present moment.

Mindfulness is one of the "universal" wholesome (beautiful) mental factors that when fully present, will enhance other beautiful mental qualities (such as loving-kindness, joy, equanimity, generosity, etc.) and weaken the unwholesome ones. Therefore practicing mindfulness is a way to make one's mind beautiful.

There are four ways of establishing mindfulness which explore four different aspects of life experiences:

1) Body (or physical aspect).

One establishes mindfulness by being aware of:

-Body postures (sitting, standing, walking, lying).

-Physical activities/movements: bending, stretching, reaching, stepping, holding an object, putting on clothes etc.

-Physical sensations within the body.

-The breath: being aware of its nature (in or out, long or short, the motion, pressure, tingling, warmth etc.)

A direct way to experience physical sensations is to be aware of reality, the elemental nature: texture (hard or soft, rough or smooth, light or heavy), temperature (warm or cool), dynamics (motion, vibration, or tension/pressure) and cohesiveness or fluidity (which is usually too subtle to directly experience). This differs from the usual concept of “my body” as a generalized form or shape which is to be kept in the background in formal practice. These four kinds of manifestation are traditionally known as the earth, fire, air (wind), and water elements.

2) Feeling tone.

Not to be misunderstood as emotion or sensation (which it is sometimes translated), it actually is the mindful awareness of the three feeling tones (impressions or qualities) that is associated with all physical or mental experience: pleasant (agreeable), unpleasant (disagreeable), or neutral. One notices that there is simply pleasantness, unpleasantness (physical or mental) or neither present in this moment.

3) Mind:

Mindful awareness of consciousness and mental states/emotions/thoughts.

4) Phenomena (Mental objects/contents):

Mindful awareness of phenomena, things that we experience at our sense doors, including "the mind's door": the dynamic functions and relationships of consciousness, mental states and thoughts.

With respect to the last two, there are overlaps between mind and mental objects and any object that does not fit in the first three would belong to the fourth one. Therefore, to simplify, 3) and 4) could be considered together as mindfulness of the mind. This involves non-judging awareness of (and objectively observing how they are manifesting):

- thoughts (thinking, reflecting, remembering, planning, etc.),

- mental states and emotions (sadness/joy, fear/hope, aversion/appreciation, anger/love, confusion/clarity, drowsiness/agitation etc.) or

- consciousness itself (the container for the above, just as a clear glass holding water or yellow juice... and is colored by them).

It also includes the observation of specific mental qualities or effects such as the hindrances (difficulties) of the practice, awakening (insight/enlightenment) factors and the sense door experiences (seeing, hearing, tasting, smelling, touching etc.) - including the mind's reaction to them. We can also see how we are caught in these experiences, thus being able to free ourselves from them.

CONCEPT AND REALITY

We normally identify with the conceptual aspect of life. This conventional reality of names and forms: "I am a student", "my knee hurts", "I am angry" etc. It can be useful for functioning in the world although it is quite often colored/distorted by our biases, prejudice, past experiences (positive or negative) or by misunderstanding, overlook or ignorance.

In mindfulness practice, one keeps the "concept" (conceptual reality) in the background and pays more attention to the true nature or "ultimate reality" of all phenomena (what one directly experiences in the moment without interpreting or referring to past knowledge). Instead of "my knee hurts" (concept) one feels the reality of pressure, tension or heat at the knee (first foundation) or physical unpleasantness (second foundation) or aversion to it (third/fourth foundation). Instead of "I am angry" (concept), one experiences this emotion or mental state simply as anger (third/fourth foundation), or mental unpleasantness (second foundation) or the associated heat or tightness (first foundation). One does not identify with these experiences as being me, mine or myself but objectively observe them in order to understand their true nature, just like looking at clouds in the vast sky, like a scientist observing an experiment without bias.

Upcoming events (5)

Randomness and Creative Writing

The George

£12.00

[To book your space, please do pay at the following website: https://www.writeandpint.com/workshops] ............................ A new venue! A new workshop! ............................ At this meetup, you will get: A free book Some free snacks A 2-hour creative writing workshop The opportunity to stay behind afterwards for a quiet drink (if you like!) ............................ Hi there, This is a MeetUp for writers and non-writers, alike. It's a friendly writing workshop and social event. Come in at 6:45pm; have a seat and buy yourself a drink at the bar. Then meet us in the Talbot room and say hello to some other friendly faces, before we start the workshop at 7:00pm. There will be FREE snacks - and a FREE Penguin book for each person to take home and keep. This time our theme will be different; we'll be working with RANDOMNESS and SPONTANEITY! During the session you will be guided through a number of different writing games and prompts. By the end, you'll have a whole host of new, exciting bits of writing to be proud of. If you want to make new friends, this event is for you. If you want to make forays into a new, serious piece of writing, this event is for you. If you want to have a beer and surprise yourself doing something fun and spontaneous, this event is for you! ***THIS GROUP IS OPEN TO PEOPLE OF ALL LEVELS AND THERE WILL NEVER BE ANY PRESSURE TO READ YOUR WORK IN FRONT OF THE GROUP*** Any questions, please don't hesitate to text or WhatsApp on[masked]. Can't wait to see you soon. Cheers! Sean ***PLEASE NOTE: there is officially a no refund policy for this event. However, if you cancel a number of days in advance and we're able to refill your space, we will indeed refund you. Similarly, moving a cancelled RSVP over to a future event is contingent upon being able to refill the space that you vacate.

Public Speaking Club Night -Win More Business with this Pitching Structure

LEARN how to powerfully communicate the high-quality outcomes of your products and services. The May theme presentation will teach you: 1. The perfect structure for your pitch. 2. The one question you need to address that goes through the mind of your clients or potential investors. 3. The power of using stories & narratives backed by neuroscience. Please Notice we have lot of people coming from different meet up & RSPV IS NOT ENOUGH- Tickets: £18 online/£30 at the door, Click the Link Book- http://bit.ly/2IUP1XI Communicating the essence and value of your business to your clients or the world of investors is one of the hardest but most important thing entrepreneurs have to learn. A weak pitch can cost you customers, users and investment. We all have a story to tell and a product to sell. The ability to communicate your ideas well and having a clearly structured pitch can be your key to open many doors. Learn how to have fun when pitching, tell stories, deliver facts, hear others, practise your own pitch and go from good to great. Then it's over to the Speakers Express members & audience to run the show, speak, get feedback & grow as speakers. There is an Audience Stage Time Corner in the second half of the night but getting up to speak is completely optional. Here’s what else you’ll see on stage: 1. An X-Factor style panel of professional speakers to give feedback 2. Five-minute prepared speeches 3. Charlie's Pitching Corner 4. One Trick Ponies 5. Audience Stage Time Corner What people say about Speaker Express: I took the two day Speaker Express course, worked on my confidence and now secured 4 speaking gigs! - Ash Taylor, Consultant Speaker Express has pushed me out of my comfort zone and made it more comfortable. - James N. I went from this ‘raw, rough and ready speaker with no structure' to running my business and using speaking as a way to attract clients. - Ollie Trew, Speaker & Coach Speaker Express throws boring, structured training out of the window and instead focuses on authenticity and helping you to present naturally with self-belief. - Toby F. Doors open at 6.30 pm – event starts at 7 pm sharp. We run monthly Boardroom sessions, a 2 Day Creating your Signature Talk training, a 3-month Speaking Kickstarter, and a 6-month Professional Speaking Accelerator, all about building a speaking business. If you have a bigger vision for yourself or running your own business then come along and learn how to take your speaking and confidence to the next level. Connect: We always have new people attending so the event can get very busy. Please ask us how to get the most out of your evening. Please Notice we have lot of people coming from different meet up & RSPV IS NOT ENOUGH- Tickets: £18 online/£30 at the door, Click the Link Book- http://bit.ly/2IUP1XI We are looking forward meeting you on the night.

Fear to Freedom-Breakthrough your fears&phobias!With Christopher Paul-3 SPOTLEFT

Do you suffer at the hands of a fear or phobia? Can it sometimes feel like this fear is keeping you prisoner? Would like to feel more in control of your emotions in general and have the ability to go from fear to freedom in a matter of minutes, so that even if anxiety did begin to take over you, you would know how to instantly feel more confident? Has this ‘fear’ of a loss of control of your emotions, taken over your life somehow? WE HAVE LOT OF PEOPLE COMING FROM DIFFERENT MEET UP GROUPS- TICKET: £37 ONLINE AND £60 ON DOOR IF ANY LEFT- CLICK THE LINK TO BOOK YOUR TICKETS- https://bit.ly/2InWopj Perhaps you avoid certain social situations, people or places? Maybe your fear or phobia is stopping you from excelling in life - perhaps in your personal relationships, or your career or business. If this sounds like you and YOU WANT TO KNOW how to trigger rapid confidence, then this workshop is a MUST for YOU! If you find that you spend a lot of your time living in your own headspace, worrying about your fears and phobias, and holding yourself back in life then this half a day workshop is a MUST for YOU. In this workshop you will discover: • How fears and phobias are created • Why fears and phobias control us • How you can identify your fear and phobia in order to erase it • Simple and effective techniques that remove your fear or phobia • How to prevent future phobias from manifesting. • How to master your negative emotions so that you control them (not they control you). • How to trigger off an instant feeling of confidence so that you can turn a negative situation into a positive one. You will leave the workshop feeling calm and confident, and you will have a greater sense of clarity about what had been happening to you and how to stop it from happening again. WE HAVE LOT OF PEOPLE COMING FROM DIFFERENT MEET UP GROUPS- TICKET: £37 ONLINE AND £60 ON DOOR IF ANY LEFT- CLICK THE LINK TO BOOK YOUR TICKETS- https://bit.ly/2InWopj\ Christopher Paul Jones has appeared: on the BBC TV, GQ, Grazia, Mail online and many more. Watch Christopher remove a flying Phobia on the BBC TV https://youtu.be/EZApM20mQcY?list=PL81wY21FMritILysyuY32N-sZQ3GDbkT0 A little more about Christopher... Christopher is a Harley Street therapist and an internationally acclaimed expert in dealing with fears, phobias, stress and anxiety. This is not only a result of his unique expertise and experience, but also of his passion of empowering people to live their lives on their terms. Christopher works with a global client base, including actors, models, musicians, presenters and celebrities; His expertise has been featured: on TV & Radio and he has been consulted/featured on the BBC TV, GQ, Grazia, Mail online and many more. You can find out more about Christopher by visiting http://www.christopherpauljones.net Testimonials “Since seeing Christopher, I can honestly say he has changed my life. My anxiety levels have been substantially reduced and I now have so many new thinking techniques that I use daily. I would encourage everyone to see Christopher because he has transformed my life.” Poppy Jamie – TV Presenter “Chris is always there when I need help, his methods have had a positive effect on my wellbeing.” Suki Waterhouse – Model, Actress, Celebrity I just want to take a couple of minutes to tell everybody your programme rocks and if you get the opportunity to check out Christopher then make it happen.” Joseph McClendon III – Motivational Speaker and #1 Coach for Tony Robbins “I used to be terrified of turbulence when flying, then I worked with Christopher and now I get so happy when there might be turbulence, I actually look forward to it. ” Arezoo Kaviani – Celebrity Beauty Therapist WE HAVE LOT OF PEOPLE COMING FROM DIFFERENT MEET UP GROUPS- TICKET: £37 ONLINE AND £60 ON DOOR IF ANY LEFT- CLICK THE LINK TO BOOK YOUR TICKETS- https://bit.ly/2InWopj See you there Best Chris

A Day on Emotional Intelligence-The Neuroscience of Emotional Intelligence

Birkbeck, University of London

Tickets are available here http://bit.ly/2DWZvSk . There are a few early bird tickets left, but be quick! Existentialism, Neuroscience & Emotional Intelligence: A full day of talks exploring the fascinating psychology of human emotions. Does changing how you think about an emotion, change the way you feel it? How? How can you use the latest research into the neuroscience of emotions to make better decisions about the big choices in life? What happens, psychologically, when you suppress your emotions? These are just some of the questions the speakers will explore at The Weekend University this month. In this series of talks, we’ll discuss: The Existential Meaning of Emotions; how to make connections between your sensations, feelings, thoughts, intuitions, and most deeply held values. The History of Human Emotions; how the stories you tell yourself about your emotions influences how you feel them. The Neuroscience of Emotional Intelligence; the real nature and importance of emotions, what happens in the brain when you experience them, and how to let them guide you into making the best choices for you. You’ll learn how these insights can benefit your own life, but also your ability to help others too. _____________________________________________________________________________ Lectures & Speakers 1- The Existential Meaning of Emotions - Professor Emmy van Deurzen is a philosopher, counselling psychologist and existential psychotherapist. Amongst her 17 books are the bestsellers Existential Psychotherapy and Counselling in Practice (3d edition 2012, Psychotherapy and the Quest for Happiness (Sage, 2009) and Everyday Mysteries (2nd edition Routledge, 2010). The second edition of Paradox and Passion in Psychotherapy appeared with Wiley in 2015. 2- The History of Human Emotions – Dr Tiffany Watt Smith, PhD Dr Tiffany Watt Smith is the author of The Book of Human Emotions, which tells the stories of 154 feelings from around the world. It has been published in 9 countries so far. Her writing has appeared in The Guardian, the BBC News Magazine and The New Scientist. In 2014, she was named a BBC New Generation Thinker. In her previous career, she was a theatre director. 3- The Neuroscience of Emotional Intelligence – Dr Gabija Toleikyte, Dr Gabija Toleikyte is a neuroscientist and business coach. She completed her PhD at the University College London on the neuronal basis of memory and navigation. During her PhD, Gabija acquired a business coach qualification and worked as an internal coach at UCL for senior academics and administrative staff. _____________________________________________________________________________ Event Schedule 10:00am – 12:00pm: The Existential Meaning of Emotions - Professor Emmy van Deurzen, PhD 12:00 – 1:00pm: Lunch break 1:00pm – 3:00pm: The History of Human Emotions – Dr Tiffany Watt Smith, PhD 3:00pm – 3:15pm: Afternoon break 3:15pm – 5:00pm: The Neuroscience of Emotional Intelligence – Dr Gabija Toleikyte, PhD 5:20pm – 7:00pm: Attendee Social & Networking (Optional) _______________________________________________________________________________ Still not sure what to expect? Read what previous attendees have said here. _______________________________________________________________________________ Who is this event for? You might be: A mental health practitioner; psychotherapist, counsellor or coach, attending for continuing professional development A psychology student seeking to broaden your knowledge in different areas of the subject Considering a transition into a career in psychology, but not sure exactly what route to take yet A member of the general public attending for the sheer joy of learning and exploring your curiosity. TWU Guarantee The Weekend University seeks to guarantee an excellent learning experience. Tickets are available here http://bit.ly/2DWZvSk . There are a few early bird tickets left, but be quick!

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