Jealousy, Distrust, and Isolation

"Will he, or she listen to each other, the basis of it, being afraid to lose – you understand? Afraid of losing one’s security in relationship. And when that security is shaken I am jealous. Will my wife listen to me? And I say to her, ‘Look, old girl, I love you but I don’t possess you’ – could you say that? My golly! ‘I am free of you and you are free of me.’ Which doesn’t mean free love and going off, you know, changing every year a new man or a new woman. But seeing the whole problem, not just jealousy, how to get rid of jealousy, or distrust, but seeing the whole problem of relationship, which is very complex, which demands subtlety, sensitivity.

"But will you do something about it? One can intellectually understand all this, verbally, which you call intellectually. What value has it when I carry on with jealousy for the rest of my life and that jealousy creates wounds in me psychologically? I am hurt inwardly and I carry on with that hurt, with that jealousy, with that distrust – is this the way to live? So merely to see it all intellectually has very little meaning. But if you say, ‘Look, I am jealous. Let’s go into it. Let’s find out whether it can end’ – which means do I possess anything at all? Am I attached to anything? Attached to my wife, husband, attached to ideals, my future success – you know, attachment. When you are attached then there is jealousy, there is anxiety, there is pain. If you see that very clearly then the thing becomes very simple. But you don’t want to see it clearly because we want to live the way we have lived for a million years.” J. Krishnamurti at Brookwood Park 1983.

Also for your consideration: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=CMDeXzQia6Q

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