Name: online ASCA B "Step 9: I have identified parts of myself connected to self-sab..
Start: 2024-05-26T18:30:00-07:00
End: 2024-05-26T20:00:00-07:00

\*\*\* this meeting is virtual on alternate Sundays at 6:30pm PDT. \*\*\*

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**Video On**
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For this meeting, we will be working on "**Step 9: I have identified the parts of myself connected to self-sabotage."**
excerpt from the "Survivor to Thriver" manual ...
This step involves identifying and sorting out all the various aspects of yourself so that you can understand which parts are helpful and which are responsible for self-sabotaging acts in your life. Self-sabotage is probably a source of some of the problems you identified in your inventory in Step Eight. By now, you probably know where the self-sabotage comes from and how it affected you as a child. Now, as an adult, you need to look at the part of you that controls this behavior and how it expresses itself in your everyday life.
As you identify the parts of you responsible for the self-sabotage, you will probably discover adult versions of the childhood roles you played. Many of the most common roles that adult survivors used as children are still employed but bear different labels: “co-dependent” for “caretaker,” “masochist” for “scapegoat,” “offender” for “bully,” “leader” for “hero,” and “eccentric” for “recluse.” Although certain aspects of these roles may help you in your daily functioning, they will create problems for you if you let them dominate your interactions. For example, caretaking is an essential part of parenting, but dominating or overcontrolling your child is a common characteristic of co-dependent mothers. Try to identify what roles you adopt as an adult — the positive ones as well as the problematic ones. Learning to strengthen the healthy aspects of yourself while controlling the less helpful ones will be a major task in Stage Two and Stage Three recovery.

Self-Help
1\. Write about your various adult roles or parts in your journal and explore how they operate in your life\. Describe in as much detail as you can when these roles emerge\, what behaviors are connected to them and what feelings about yourself and others they engender\. Who seems to trigger the emergence of the roles in you: spouse or lover\, child$ren$\, peers\, superiors at work\, family\, members of the opposite sex or people of the same sex as your abuser? Do you “own” these parts for yourself or project them onto others?
2\. Ask the trusted people in your life how they see you\. Don’t react to anything they say immediately\. Instead\, reflect on their comments for a day or two and see how others’ observations compare to the various roles you have identified for yourself\.
3\. Share in ASCA meetings regarding your progress in identifying the various roles you play\, and the aspects of yourself that are self\-sabotaging\. Also share how you are gaining mastery over these areas\.
4\. If you haven’t done so already\, try to record your dreams in your journal so that you can see how the different parts of you interact on an unconscious level\. Record each dream in story form\, with a beginning\, a middle and an end\. Tell the story in the first person\, and develop the details and imagery as you write\. Many people think that\, because they don’t remember their dreams\, they don’t dream\. This is inaccurate\. Everyone dreams\, although denial and repression may make your dreams unavailable to your conscious awareness\.

contd in [https://ascasupport.org/materials/](https://ascasupport.org/materials/)

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**ARRIVAL AND DURATION**: Please arrive prior to 6:30pm PDT and stay until the end of the meeting at 8pm PDT (unless an emergency arises).

**THE MEETING WILL BE “LOCKED” 10 MINUTES AFTER WE START.**

**HELPFUL DOCUMENT LINKS**
· Welcome To ASCA℠ Virtual Meetings [http://tinyurl.com/ASCWelc](http://tinyurl.com/ASCWelc)
· Educational Moment on shares and supportive feedback [http://tinyurl.com/educmom](http://tinyurl.com/educmom)
--Zoom Instructions [https://tinyurl.com/zoominstructascascv](https://tinyurl.com/zoominstructascascv)

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