What we’re about
### Ex-JW Recovery & Growth Group
Purpose:
A safe space for former Jehovah's Witnesses (and those affected by high-control groups) to share experiences, process trauma, and support each other's growth without judgment.
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### 1. Group Rules
a. Confidentiality
- "What's shared here stays here." Do not repeat names, stories, or details outside the group.
- Exception: Facilitators may intervene for safety if someone discloses plans to harm themselves or others.
b. Respect & No Judgment
- No interrupting, debating, or criticizing others' beliefs/choices.
- Avoid phrases like "You should…" or "Just get over it."
c. One Speaker at a Time
- Raise your hand (or use the "raise hand" feature online) to share. Facilitators will ensure everyone has space.
d. No Proselytizing
- This group is not for promoting religions, political agendas, or MLMs.
- Allowed: Sharing personal spiritual journeys (e.g., "I explore Buddhism now").
- Not Allowed: "You should try [belief system]!"
e. Trigger Warnings
- Warn before graphic descriptions of abuse, self-harm, or shunning (e.g., "I'll talk about CSA—skip if needed").
f. No Cross-Talk
- Do not comment directly on others' shares unless they ask for feedback.
g. Use "I" Statements
- Speak from your experience: "I felt…" vs. "You all are…"
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### 2. Participation Policies
a. Voluntary Sharing
- No one will be forced to speak at the meeting. Passing is always okay.
b. Time Limits
- Shares kept to 3–5 minutes (adjust based on group size) so all can participate.
c. No "Fixing" Others
- Offer empathy, not unsolicited advice. Ask: "Would you like support or just listening?"
d. Substance-Free Space
- Attendees must be sober during meetings to ensure clear communication.
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### 3. Safety & Moderation Policies
a. Facilitator Authority
- Facilitators may gently redirect conversations, pause harmful dialogue, or ask disruptive members to leave.
b. Conflict Resolution
- Disagreements should focus on feelings, not dogma. If tensions rise, facilitators will call a break.
c. No Private Contact Without Consent
- Do not DM members or ask personal questions outside the group without permission.
d. Crisis Situations
- If someone expresses suicidal intent, facilitators will provide crisis resources (e.g., 988, local hotlines) and follow up privately.
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### 4. Membership Policies
a. Who Can Join
- Open to ex-JWs and those questioning/deconstructing. Allies (e.g., spouses) may attend with prior approval.
b. No Recording
- To protect privacy, Recording (audio/video) is strictly prohibited.
c. Group Etiquette
- Mute mics when not speaking (virtual). For in-person: Phones are silent, and there are no side conversations.
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### 5. Violations & Consequences
- First offense: Gentle reminder of rules.
- Repeat offenses: Private discussion with facilitators.
- Severe breaches (e.g., harassment, proselytizing): Immediate removal from the group.