Sober Philosophy: Gratitude (Huyen presents, AZF)

GRATITUDE (AZF)

Showing gratitude, when deemed appropriate, is widely regarded as a virtue. Conversely, failing to express it when expected is often considered rude. Someone who gives a gift or does a favor may feel slighted if the recipient doesn’t express gratitude, or doesn’t express that gratitude “sufficiently.” Does this reveal a potentially selfish element in an otherwise altruistic act? Is wanting acknowledgment compatible with acting selflessly?

More broadly, why do we sometimes feel offended when social niceties are omitted, even when we believe the underlying sentiment (e.g. gratitude, goodwill) is genuine? What is the function of the outward expression, or social gesture?

Youtube Video: https://www.youtube.com/shorts/dGh6Rk87Zgo

AMAZON FORMAT (AZF):
We will begin the meeting by watching the video above on a laptop together.

Symptom-free (of potentially contagious disease) people with the capacity to listen considerately to diverse viewpoints are invited to attend after successfully RSVPing.

We begin the meeting at 7:30 pm sharp at the mezzanine above the lobby of the Graduate Hotel in the University District: 4507 Brooklyn Ave NE, Seattle, WA 98105.

Directions for first-timers at the Graduate Hotel:
From the front hotel entrance go to the right. Turn left around the corner to enter through the north valet entrance. If the valet questions you just say you're here for the philosophy group. Go straight to the main lobby and turn right behind the large bookshelves before the elevators. Enter the stairway on your left, go up one flight, and go through the first door you encounter to enter our meeting area.

2-MINUTE OPENING ROUNDTABLE FORMAT (2ORF):

1. The topic presenter begins the discussion by taking up to two minutes explaining why they are interested in the topic and some introductory thoughts on it.
2. Each participant in turn going clockwise from the presenter has up to two minutes to describe their general thoughts on the topic.
3. If one is not ready to speak they can just say “pass” and the next person speaks.
4. After we've gone around once anyone who passed will get a second chance to comment.
5. Once everyone has given opening remarks or passed twice, Opening Roundtable is completed and the meeting shifts into TDRF>4 below.

TIMED DIRECTION FORMAT:
We will use the format below.

1. We will divide up the timed direction discussion time by the number of participants plus one (for a buffer). A timer will be set for this amount of time.
2. Each participant in turn will become a Discussion Director and lead the group discussion.
3. If one is not ready to direct they simply say “pass” and the next person becomes the Discussion Director.
4. Anyone who arrives after step 1 (above), may participate but will not get a turn as Discussion Director.
5. The Discussion Director can make statements or ask questions, or interrupt or redirect the discussion at their discretion.
6. The discussion participants can state their own opinions only when asked by the Discussion Director, not Interrupt others and accede to the Discussion Director’s interruptions or redirections.
7. When the timer goes off the person speaking finishes their thought and then the next participant clockwise becomes the next Discussion Director.
8. After we've gone around once anyone who passed will get a second chance to direct.

TOPIC SELECTION:
For the last 10 minutes of the meeting, participants will have an opportunity to vote on the topic and format for the following meeting.