Sex Positive Triangle NC (SPT)

**Please read all of our information below before asking to join SPT ( Sex Positive Triangle}**

We welcome any adult (21 and over) who shares our philosophy and wants to learn or teach about the complexities of human sexuality. Primarily it is a social/educational group to meet up in person, but we also have virtual events. We strive to create programming inclusive of all genders, orientations, abilities, races, ethnicities, income levels, and relationships. You must be a current member of this Meetup group in order to participate unless otherwise noted.

**SPT is a local social/educational group for the Triangle (Durham, Chapel Hill, Raleigh, and vicinities) in central North Carolina. If you don't live in or visit the area OR are not already a member of Sex-Positive World (SPW), please do not ask to join - you will be declined.

SPT has a specific mission and goal. If that resonates with you, please request membership and answer the initial questions.

We are a new group and are growing and developing content and planning events.

When applications aren’t approved, the most common reasons are: 1) Overly brief, incomplete, vague, or generic answers, 2) Indication that the applicant hasn’t read and comprehended what SPT is, does and how it does it, 3) Signs that the applicant is seeking something outside of the focus of SPT. 4) Applicant is from outside of the NC Triangle (Raleigh/Durham/Chapel Hill and vicinities) (with the exception of members of SPW). Be sure to respond to each item in multi-part questions. Please understand that we won't exclude applicants based on the gender and sexuality questions in the first question; those answers will only be used to help us manage the group and events.

What we are NOT:

SPT is not a dating site, nor are we a cruising, swinging, or sex pick-up group.

SPT does not allow trolling. Please do not contact any member unless you have already received clear, unambiguous approval from them to do so, preferably in person. It is NOT appropriate to message members to solicit dates or talk about sex online.

SPT is not a therapy or treatment program. SPT events are not intended to treat addictions, trauma, sexual disorders, or mental illness.

What values do we promote?

We practice healthy sexuality by setting boundaries, practicing consent, and respecting personal autonomy. We value clear, direct communication, self-awareness, interpersonal connections, mutual support, and fun. We care about accessible education focused on experiences and personal growth. Finally, we look for involvement from members as attendees, volunteers, hosts, teachers, and leaders.

What about anonymity?

Your profile will only be seen by other approved members of this group. You may choose any name for your SPT member profile, but we strongly encourage adding a clear picture of your face.

Events and access are managed by levels. How do the levels work?

All SPT events are organized into one of four levels (L1 – L4). These levels indicate how much experience and vetting attendees have gone through, and what types of interactions can happen at that event, pending consent. All members present at any SPT event agree not to engage in any activity that exceeds the level of that event, as enforced by the event host. Please read the level and description of any event before attending.

-Level 1 events are open to all members. They include classes and social gatherings. Attendees remain fully clothed and do not engage in physical touch. Some members find these fulfill their needs and choose not to pursue higher levels. There is never any pressure to do so.

-Level 2 events include sensual touch that is nurturing and affectionate. To advance to level 2 status, members must attend 2 or more Level 1 events as well as successfully complete the 411, Awesome Boundaries, and Level 2 Orientation classes.

-Level 3 events include sexual touch without an agenda. To advance to Level 3 status, members must meet level 2 requirements, attend 2 or more Level 2 events and successfully complete the STARS class and the Level 3 orientation.

-Level 4 is sex-positive community!

Beyond these requirements, SPT Leadership makes the final judgment as to a member’s advancement to a higher level, particularly if a member is struggling with boundaries, consent, or diversity. Likewise, a member’s level may be reduced if problems are observed or if there are complaints. This accountability is an important part of creating safer spaces for members to engage with vulnerability.

Some events are listed as "SPT Recommends". These are other local events related to sex-positivity, but they are not hosted by SPT, do not follow our system of levels, and do not count towards level requirements.

***If you want more information on what Sex Positivity is, watch:

https://youtu.be/NJcEdz88LGI