What we're about
Come, learn, play, and grow with us!
We are a member/volunteer organization. Our members plan and host events centered around understanding and exploring all aspects of human sexuality, relationship styles, kink, gender, and orientation. We are heteros, gays, trans, bi's, monos, polys, fence sitters, and lovers of every age. Our ideal world looks a lot like the movie, "Short Bus." If this speaks to you, then:
Please read this entire page and the following documents. Then come back and complete your application.
• Levels Demystified
• Care, Consent, and Confidentiality
What is Sex Positivity?
Sex positivity is a social movement and philosophy which regards all consensual expressions of sexuality as healthy, encourages sexual pleasure and experimentation, places an emphasis on informed consent and advocates sex education and risk-aware sex. Sex-positivity makes no moral distinctions among types of sexual expression, orientation or identification, regarding these choices as matters of personal preference.
What does our group do?
SexPositive Portland is a real community of open-minded, fun, and awake people. We provide a chance to explore, learn, and grow in a safe, welcoming, and consensual environment. We believe that sexual energy is a powerful tool for transformation, healing, solidifying relationships, and building community, and we develop that energy by sharing ideas and experiences in real world and virtual settings (Secret Facebook Groups, Reddit, and other Social media.)
Our real world events include classes, discussion groups, workshops, socials, parties, festivals, and more. They range from member hosted events (in homes, parks, restaurants, etc.), outings together where we might go watch burlesque shows, sex-positive theater, Hump Fest, or visit a dungeon or club together, and signature events (facilitated events like our snuggles, couple/triads massages, and parties including our Sizzle or Blaze events) that are created by SexPositive Portland and led by its core volunteers.
We operate as a not-for profit and we never try to upsell you or offer you expensive training. In fact, we strive to keep events free and low cost (enough to cover expenses), but we sometimes do fundraisers which cost a little more, and we occasionally we do something really swanky for those who like that stuff. We usually offer scholarships for those who are experiencing financial difficulties, so please ask when you need to, and give extra when you can.
How Do I Participate at Events?
At events you are expected to be respectful of the boundaries of others and of the event, to take care of yourself, and honor your boundaries and agreements. Beyond that, anything else is up to you. You will never be expected to do anything you don't want to, or to interact with anyone you don’t wish to. But we do expect you to contribute as an active participant through positive social interaction. Sex-positivity is about authentic, respectful, open communication, and being honest about your desires.
Anyone can attend Level 1 events so please feel free to bring a friend or loved one. However, if you wish to attend Level 2 or higher events you must attend an Orientation and pay your annual dues. Orientation is a full-evening of activity that introduces our ideas and mission, explains how our group and events work, and includes some fun interactive exercises. These occur on the last Sunday of every month and sometimes in the middle of the month.
To keep people where they want to be (not exposed to things they aren't ready for or don't desire) we've developed a level system and you will notice that all of our events will tell you what level that event is, that is, what is the maximum level of contact or sexuality that will be happening.
In a nutshell:
Level 1 is Social/Educational (workshops, classes, outings to wine bars, burlesque shows, plays, etc.)
Level 2 is Sensual (snuggle parties, group massage, sensation play: touch that is nurturing and affectionate)
Level 3 is Sexy (more arousing, teasing, exciting!)
Level 4 is Sexual (please note: we do not list these events on Meetup.com due to their rules!)
We have a way of vetting people and helping them work up the level system. But many people are happy staying at Level 1 or 2 or 3.
People tell us our level system is the thing they like the most about our group.
We are a secret group. That means only members can see your profile. We require that you fill out the application (your profile) thoroughly as we will review it carefully before approving you.
The main things we seek in our members are :
• Understanding of sex-positivity.
• Related experience or learning (books, workshops, friendship circles). If you don't have such, please take the time to gain it, go online, read a book from our recommended reading list, go to one or more of the clubs in town, talk to your friends. Total newbies will be considered, but you'll need to bring a lot of the next item.
• Enthusiasm and willingness to be a part of a community by volunteering or coming out to events regularly.
When you fill out your profile, know that that is what other members will see and how the'll decide if they want to be friends and/or play with you.
Men, we love you and need you, but please understand, we get a lot more applications from single heterosexual men than their female counterparts so, please be understanding if we bring an extra level of scrutiny. It's important that understand consent, are not looking at us as a pick up site, and that you bring value to the group.
Couples must complete separate profiles and applications. Please reference each other. Because we are a real community; you must post a recognizable picture of you on your profile.
Love, Gabriella & the SPP team