Cringe
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Cringe has received little attention compared to shame and embarrassment as a matter of serious discussion and analysis. It is far too common a feeling to be left unexplored.
Let’s explore cringe through these 3 broad categories -
1. Cringe as a linguistic choice - Cringe unlike shame or embarrassment is often considered an emotion felt not because of oneself but because of another person. It is often described as vicarious embarrassment or shame. Do you think Cringe is a more subtle way to express disgust at someone’s behaviour than outright shaming the person?
2. Cringe as a social phenomenon - What is the reason with the modern fascination with cringe? Do you think labelling things cringe is how society suppresses any enthusiastic expression of authenticity? Does cringe inform our worldview? Is there a cringe to hate pipeline? Where it starts with cringe because it is more permissible and then it eventually becomes a justification of disgust and hatred.
3. Cringe as a way to feel moral superiority - On a personal level, do we feel cringe for others to make ourselves feel superior? Can cringe also be a just reaction to socially unacceptable behaviour? Is cringe a mixed emotion rather than either a positive or negative emotion?
Optional points for discussion -
- Do you have a personal journey where you considered something cringe about yourself or others but have embraced it now?
- Often people who do not belong to the dominant culture or class feel embarrassed about expressing their culture. Do we also feel cringe for someone else belonging to the non-dominant culture expressing their culture?
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