Shy Philosophers on Control

Let’s consider:

• What does it mean to be in control of one’s life—having power over events, or governing one’s own judgments and responses?
• Why do we crave control so strongly—security, identity, status, meaning? Is the desire for control itself something we ought to question or reshape?
• How do we distinguish between situations where we genuinely have no control and ones where we are simply giving up too soon?
• When is it wise to accept the limits of our control, and when does it slide into passivity or avoidance?
• To what extent is emotional self-control a virtue? At what point might regulating our emotions become unhealthy suppression or denial?
• If so much of life lies outside our control, how should we think about blame—of ourselves and of others? Can we coherently hold people responsible while acknowledging their limits?

No homework required, but if you’d like to reflect ahead of time, you can listen to “You 2.0: The Wisdom of Stoicism” from Hidden Brain:
https://hid**denbrain.org/podcast/you-2-0-the-wisdom-of-stoicism/**

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