Shy Philosophers on Love

Let’s consider:

• What is love? Is love something we experience, something we practice, or something else?
• Does the way we define love matter? Why or why not?
• Are romantic love, friendship, and familial love fundamentally different, or variations of a single underlying relation?
• Is love a moral virtue? Can loving the “wrong” person or in the “wrong” way be ethically problematic?
• Is unconditional love admirable, naïve, or even dangerous?
• Is love something we choose, or something that happens to us?
• How do cultural narratives—soulmates, marriage, passion, self-love—shape what we think love is and how we recognize it?

No homework required, but if you’d like to reflect ahead of time, you can listen to “The Philosophy of Love” from the BBC Radio 4 In Our Time: Philosophy podcast
https://podcasts.apple.com/md/podcast/the-philosophy-of-love/id463701671?i=1000097068564

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