Parlour Series: Leisure

Parlour series events are hosted in members' homes, so they work a little differently from our public events. The group size will be smaller, so we give preference to people who have recently attended another event. If you're interested in joining, please add yourself to the waitlist!
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Let’s consider:

• What counts as genuinely free time once we subtract not only paid work, but also chores, caregiving, errands, appointments, household management, exercise, and all the other “work of life”?
• What kinds of free time leave you feeling restored, alive, or satisfied? What kinds leave you feeling empty or vaguely dissatisfied?
• Do you ever feel guilty when you are doing “nothing”? Where do you think that guilt comes from?
• Does leisure become less free when we try to make it meaningful, productive, healthy, creative, or educational?
• Is there value in boredom, idleness, daydreaming, wandering, or simply wasting time?
• How much of our leisure is actually chosen? How much is shaped by habit, screens, social expectations, or ideas about what we should be doing?
• ⁠Must leisure have a purpose at all? Or is part of its value precisely that it does not have to justify itself?

No homework required, but if you’d like to reflect ahead of time, you can listen to this podcast episode:

• Podcast: Hidden Brain You 2.0 Slow Down
• **Link: https://www.hiddenbrain.org/podcast/you-2-0-slow-down/**

Shy Philosopher Night Procedure and Code of Ethics:
1. Discussion Style
We aim for a cooperative flow, like passing a ball among teammates rather than engaging in back-and-forth debates. Please share the “ball” so everyone has a voice.
2. Brief Points (2-3 Minutes)
Keep points concise so we can hear a variety of perspectives. Occasional exceptions may come up naturally, but our goal is inclusivity.
3. No Crosstalk
Respect the speaker’s time without interjecting or questioning mid-speech. If you’d like to add something, simply raise your hand and the facilitator will guide the flow.
4. Avoid Ad Hominem Remarks
Focus critiques on ideas, actions, or beliefs—not people. For example, say “This idea could have certain impacts” rather than “You’re wrong.” This ensures a respectful environment.
5. Respectful Engagement
As we are guests in someone’s home, let’s maintain a high level of respect for the space and one another. Mindfulness, patience, and courtesy are essential to making this gathering comfortable and enjoyable for all.
6. Cancellation Courtesy
If your plans change and you’re unable to attend, please let us know at least a day in advance by canceling your RSVP. Since space is limited, early notice helps ensure that someone else interested can join in your place. We really appreciate your understanding and help in making this a smooth, inclusive experience for everyone.

Looking forward to seeing you there!