Black Women talking about the portrayal of black love

We all have a personal belief about what black love should be; respectful, safe, loyal, soft, structured, passionate, peaceful… whatever that means to you.

But when you look at what’s promoted publicly in music, movies, social media, podcasts does it align with your belief? How does it affect your relationships.
What is black romantic love to you?

• What does healthy black love look like in your eyes?
• Is it soft and expressive — or strong and structured?

· Is it emotionally safe?
· Is it soft between two strong people?
· Is it partnership with clear roles and mutual respect?

• What are non-negotiables in your definition of love?
• Did your beliefs come from your upbringing, or from what you’ve had to unlearn?

Sometimes we’ve accepted things we don’t actually believe in. Let’s talk about it.
How Is black love portrayed outside of your belief?

• Is it shown as dramatic and chaotic?
• Is struggle romanticized?
• Is jealousy labeled as passion?
• Is “ride or die” praised more than emotional stability?
• Are healthy relationships called “boring”?
• Are Black men and women portrayed as competing instead of cooperating?

Discussion

• Do we see emotional maturity highlighted?
• Or do we see ego battles?
• Is accountability shown?
• Are Black men and women portrayed as partners — or opponents?
• Is independence celebrated more than unity?

Closing question
Have we ever accepted something because it looked normal… even though it didn’t match what we believed?