About us
We are a free & open group dedicated to exploring issues common to all humanity. We meet almost every other Sunday between 5pm- 7p.m. at a cafe in Publika, Kuala Lumpur. We encourage everyone to join in the discussion, but there's no compulsion to do so.
This is a discussion not a lecture nor debate and you don't need to be a Ph.D holder.
The owners of the cafe have allowed us to use their premises without charging so we urge you to return this generosity by buying at least a drink.
Interested in hosting a meet up? We strongly recommend attending at least 2 meet ups consecutively, so that you know what to expect and also have a good feel for moderating.
Once you’ve done that, send us a message on MeetUp.com with a short write up on the topic you’d like to moderate. This write up must have:
> 1. A title; which lets members know generally what to expect from the discussion.
> 2. A description, which may be in the form statements or questions, we find that crisp bullet points are best.
Try to cover multiple angles and hidden questions in the topic; ideally about 3 different ones. Remember that 2 hours is a pretty long time, thinking about the many dimensions within topic will definitely help drive the discussion.
Once you’ve sent us the write up, give us about a week to get back to you, and if it meets those minimum requirements listed above, we’ll try our best to schedule your topic in the next couple of months.
Upcoming events
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Is Marriage an Outdated Institution in the Modern World?
Top G Coffee & Cafe, Lot 05, Level G4, Block D5, Publika Shopping Galery, Solaris Dutamas, Kuala Lumpur, MYMarriage has existed for thousands of years— but not for the reasons we often assume.
Long before romance, marriage was a practical arrangement. It organized inheritance, stabilized property, formed alliances, and ensured survival. Love, if it appeared, was secondary.
Today, that has changed.
Marriage is no longer about survival. It is expected to fulfill emotional, psychological, financial, and even spiritual needs. It is no longer duty-driven—but expectation-heavy.
At the same time:
Divorce rates remain high • Alternative relationships are more visible and accepted • Individuals are more independent than everSo we are left with a difficult question:
Does marriage still serve a meaningful function today—or are we holding onto an institution designed for a world that no longer exists?
Discussion Questions
We’ll explore questions such as:- What is marriage to you? What factors matter most (love, financial stability, social recognition, etc.)?
- Is marriage fundamentally a legal contract or an emotional commitment?
- Are humans naturally monogamous? How important is monogamy in relationships—and why?
- Are rising divorce rates a failure of individuals—or of marriage itself?
- Should the state have a role in marriage?
- If legal protections (inheritance, rights) were handled separately, would marriage still be necessary?
- Could marriage be replaced? What alternative relationship structures might work (polyamory, situationship, friends with benefits, open relationships, etc.)?
- How might the future reshape relationships? (e.g., technology, AI companions, humanoids, shifting norms)
References
The Divorce Expert: https://youtu.be/-MGyiqVjdKI?si=xVIzCqW-J8yxTB9k
"Marriage and Morals" - Betrand Russell - https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Marriage_and_Morals
“Marriage as Institution” — Carla Danani: https://www.mdpi.com/2077-1444/15/6/675
"The History of Human Marriage" - Edvard Westermarck: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/The_History_of_Human_Marriage20 attendees
Past events
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