Couple Workshop - Give or Take? Exploration on Desire & Trust

Couples Workshop — Give or Take? A Playful Exploration of Desire, Trust & Vulnerability

For couples who wish to deepen intimacy and explore desires with curiosity, mutual care, and a sense of play

Time & Location
Thursday, June 18
19:00 – 22:00
Studio Stellar, Berlin
Price — 150 EUR
Number of couples — 8

About
What does it truly mean to give — and what does it mean to take?
Most couples believe intimacy grows through giving. More care. More effort. More pleasing. But genuine connection often deepens somewhere else: in the willingness to receive, and in the courage to take what you actually want.

This workshop is for those who wish to deepen intimacy and explore desires with curiosity, mutual care, and a sense of play. Through playful experiential exercises, we will investigate how desire moves between partners: how it is offered, received, claimed, resisted, and sometimes withheld.

Why this matters
You can give endlessly and still feel unseen. You can be generous and still feel disconnected. Giving is familiar. Receiving asks more of us. Taking — even when fully consensual — can feel more confronting still.

Many of us soften compliments, deflect pleasure, smile and say thank you while our body stays closed. And when it comes to claiming what we want, shame often whispers: is that too much? These quiet patterns dilute intimacy over time. They make connection polite when it could be electric.

A framework for desire
Using a simple and accessible framework inspired by the Wheel of Consent, we'll look at the different qualities of giving and taking — fluid experiences that can shift from moment to moment, rather than fixed roles. You'll be invited to notice what genuinely feels nourishing, what feels performative or habitual, and where your own edges lie.

Together we will explore:

How to receive touch, attention, and pleasure without shrinking
Why receiving can feel more vulnerable than giving
The often-overlooked pleasure of taking
The difference between surrender and silent tolerance
How to communicate desires and boundaries with clarity and ease

Through guided exercises, reflection, and playful interaction, you'll gain practical tools for expressing your desires and boundaries with greater confidence and nuance. The focus is on cultivating presence, trust, and emotional precision — the foundations of truly satisfying play.

What you'll take with you
A clearer sense of your own desires. More confidence in expressing what you want. More ease in receiving from your partner. And renewed trust in taking what is freely offered.

The Experts

Alexander Ma is a researcher, philosopher, and kink educator exploring presence, impact, and power through consensual BDSM practices. His work is informed by his background in Japanese martial arts (Aikido) and his studies in Kinbaku. He holds a PhD and is the founder and editor-in-chief of Kinbaku Society of Berlin magazine.

Natasha NawaTaNeko is a kink educator and somatic practitioner exploring embodiment, surrender, and intimacy through rope and BDSM. She is the author of Somatics for Rope Bottoms and teaches internationally, focusing on awareness, consent, and polarity in intimate relationships.

Dress Code
Wear something light and comfortable. The focus is on transferring information and learning techniques. Please note: the clothes stay on.

FAQ
What should we wear?

Something light and comfortable.
Is this workshop suitable for complete beginners?
Yes. This class is designed for beginners with no previous experience. All you need is openness, clear communication with your partner, and a willingness to learn.

Is there a changing room?
Yes. You can change in one of the two bathrooms or in a designated changing room next to the workshop space.
Is there parking nearby?
Yes, there's paid street parking directly outside and on the smaller crossing streets nearby. Finding a spot might take some time, so please arrive in good time if you're coming by car. The venue is easily accessible via U8 to Schönleinstraße (5 min walk), U7 to Südstern (10 min walk), or the M41 bus to Graefestraße.

Can we ask questions before the event?
Of course. Email us at ena@spnkd.com and our team will respond promptly.