Stay or Leave: The Decision Circle

## BETA TESTING OPPORTUNITY - Limited to 10 People

We are launching a 3-week Stay-or-Leave Relationship Decision Framework and need 10 beta testers to go through it first. Comment BETA to express interest and to receive more information.

What you get:

• Complete access to the 3-week decision framework
• Structured process to reach a confident stay-or-leave decision
• Support from a Registered Counsellor throughout

What we need from you:

• Complete the framework within 3 weeks (February-March)
• Provide honest feedback to help refine the content
• Optional testimonial if the framework helps you

Who This Framework Is For
This framework is designed for mid-lifers in long-term relationships or marriages who are:
· Emotionally exhausted from years of unresolved resentment, quiet disconnection, or carrying the weight of indecision, caught between staying (and slowly disappearing) or leaving (and hurting people you care about)
· Chronically conflicted - not occasionally doubting, but stuck in a long-term pattern of "maybe yes, maybe no" that's wearing you down
· Deeply caring - you don't want to make a decision you'll regret, and that care is part of what's keeping you stuck

Who This Framework Is NOT For
This framework is not appropriate if:
· You have already decided to leave and need logistical or legal guidance (not decision clarity).You are currently experiencing physical violence, threats, coercive control, or stalking from your partner.
· Your partner is in active addiction or untreated severe mental illness that makes the relationship unsafe or unpredictable right now.
· You are in acute mental health crisis (suicidal ideation, severe depression, panic disorder) and need immediate clinical support before doing deep decision work.

How the 5-Phase Decision Framework Works
This framework takes you from paralysed indecision to a values-aligned choice you can trust—and then shows you how to live it without spiraling back into doubt.

Phase 1 – Why You Can't Decide: Identify what's driving your indecision, recognize the patterns keeping you stuck, and understand the hidden costs of staying in limbo.
Phase 2 – Diagnosing Your Relationship: Run objective diagnostics across intimacy, communication, trust, compatibility, and effort to determine whether your relationship can actually meet your needs—not whether you wish it could.
Phase 3 – Mapping the Trade-Offs: Compare the real costs and gains of staying versus leaving across emotional, financial, logistical, identity, health, and meaning dimensions to see which path aligns with your values.
Phase 4 – Making the Decision: Synthesize everything you've learned, confront the core question, and choose your path—stay and repair, leave and rebuild, or consciously accept—with a written decision statement that anchors your commitment.
Phase 5 – Living the Decision: Build certainty through commitment (not the other way around), rebuild self-trust through consistent action, and follow your path-specific 30-day integration plan—whether you're staying or leaving—without reopening the decision.