The Becoming Project - Transform your Life

Many of us were taught that being “good” meant being easy to manage. Keeping the peace. Not disappointing people. Being available, agreeable, helpful, accommodating. But over time, constantly prioritising everyone else’s comfort can leave you disconnected from your own needs, boundaries, and sense of self.

This live podcast episode is a conversation about people pleasing, the fear of letting others down, and the emotional exhaustion that comes from always feeling responsible for everyone else’s feelings.

We’re not talking about becoming cold or closed off. We’re talking about learning how to communicate honestly, protect your energy, and build relationships that don’t require you to abandon yourself in order to keep them.

In this episode, we’ll dive into:

• The Roots of People Pleasing: Why so many of us confuse being liked with being safe, valuable, or worthy.
• The Fear of Disappointing Others: Understanding the guilt and anxiety that can come with setting limits.
• What Healthy Boundaries Actually Look Like: Moving beyond extremes and learning how to communicate your needs clearly.
• Resentment, Burnout & Overgiving: The emotional cost of constantly saying yes when you really mean no.
• Returning to Yourself: Rebuilding self-trust and learning to prioritise your own needs without shame.

Who We Are
Shanti is a coach and mentor who helps people navigate change, manage uncertainty, and reconnect with who they truly are.
Tatiana is a marketer and brand strategist who helps people and brands find clarity and move with intention.
🌍 Together, we believe that open, human conversations remind us we’re not alone — and that growth feels lighter when shared.

For many - especially women - anger has long been treated as something to suppress, soften, apologise for, or hide altogether. We’re often taught that being “good” means being agreeable, composed, accommodating, and easy to handle. That sadness is acceptable, but anger is “too much.”

This live podcast episode is a conversation about reclaiming anger as a healthy, human emotion rather than something shameful or destructive. Because anger itself is not the problem. In many cases, it’s information. A signal that something matters. A response to crossed boundaries, injustice, hurt, or unmet needs.
We’re not talking about uncontrolled reactions or lashing out. We’re talking about understanding anger, expressing it in healthier ways, and learning how it can mobilise us towards honesty, change, self-respect, and action.

In this episode, we’ll dive into:

• Why Women Are Taught to Fear Anger: The social conditioning that frames anger as “unladylike” or unacceptable.
• What Anger Is Really Trying to Tell Us: Understanding anger as information, not failure.
• Suppressed Anger & Emotional Exhaustion: How unspoken resentment can show up as burnout, anxiety, people pleasing, or withdrawal.
• Healthy Expression vs Destructive Expression: Learning how to process and communicate anger without letting it control you.
• Using Anger as Fuel for Change: How anger can help us set boundaries, protect ourselves, and create meaningful change in our lives and communities.