Deep Dive: Deconstructing the People-Pleaser

Have you ever known exactly why you should say "no," but said “Yes” instead? Instantly feeling a physical knot in your stomach the moment you tried to speak?
Most advice focuses on the logic of boundaries. But boundaries aren't just a mental exercise—they are a somatic experience. In this Deep Dive, we are moving past the "scripts" and "rules" to explore the internal landscape of the people-pleaser. You will learn how to transform the guilt of a "no" into the clarity of a "yes" to yourself.

### What We’ll Explore:

• The Somatic of Guilt: Why saying "no" often feels like a physical contraction. We will deconstruct why our bodies interpret boundary-setting as a threat to our safety.
• Walls vs. Boundaries: Understanding the energetic difference.
• The Wall: Built out of fear, designed to shut people out.
• The Boundary: Built out of love, designed to show people where the "property line" is so they know how to interact with you safely.
• The Resonance Paradox: Why people-pleasing actually creates distance and "noise" in relationships, while clear boundaries create the resonance and true intimacy we actually crave.

"A 'no' uttered from the deepest conviction is better than a 'yes' merely uttered to please, or worse, to avoid trouble." — Mahatma Gandhi

Are you ready to stop managing others' emotions and start honoring your own?