The Lover: The Fire Within | Men's Circle

### Theme of the Circle

There is a part of every man that feels deeply. That is moved by beauty, by connection, by something larger than himself. We learn early to keep that part quiet — unnamed, unspoken, tucked away where no one can see it.
The Lover archetype is that part. Not romance as we typically understand it, but something older and wilder — Eros. The fire of desire, passion, and what truly moves us. The capacity to feel fully, to long, to be undone by something that matters.
Most of us have spent a lifetime learning to keep that fire contained. To be useful, to perform, to move through the world armoured and efficient. And somewhere along the way, we lost touch with what actually brings us alive.
This circle is an invitation to come back to that. Not through grand gestures or dramatic transformation, but through the simple, difficult act of allowing ourselves to feel — witnessed, held, together.
Because the work was never about quick fixes or becoming someone new. It's about embodying the wholeness of who we already are — with integrity, with love, with passion. The parts we've been keeping quiet, finally given space to breathe.

### The Experience

We'll gather in circle — men willing to be real with each other, to drop the performance and sit with what's true. It is the only way we can actually progress; in honour and collective support.
The circle includes:

• Ceremonial cacao to soften defenses and create presence
• Mythological exploration through story and archetype — the Lover through the ages
• Shamanic drumming and guided meditation journey work
• Sacred sharing where you speak and are truly heard
• Ritual and more

This is embodied work. Not abstract concepts, but something you carry forward in your bones and presence long after the circle closes.

### Is this for You?

This circle is for men ready to:

• Reconnect with the part of themselves that feels deeply
• Explore what desire, passion, and longing actually mean in their lives
• Experience what happens when vulnerability is met with genuine witness
• Sit with discomfort and let something real move through them
• Be present with other men in a way that most of us have never known

If something in you stirred reading this, trust it. That's the invitation.
No previous experience with ceremony or men's work needed - just openness to being real.

### Logistics

Date: Sunday, February 15th, 2026
Time: 13:00 - 16:00
Location: Wilhelminapark 28, 2012 KC Haarlem (Lume Collective) - parking available on-site
Investment: €45 (€40 for returning participants - code BROTHER)
Capacity: 12 men
What to bring:

• Comfortable clothing
• Water bottle
• Open heart
• Journal

Yoga mats and cushions provided.

#### Cacao

We work with ceremonial-grade (criollo) cacao (+/- 35g per person) - a gentle heart-opener that creates space for authentic presence. It's safe and grounding.
Please let us know about any heart conditions or if you're taking MAOIs or certain antidepressants. Your safety is our main priority.

### Confidentiality

What is shared in circle stays in circle. We create safety - physical, emotional, spiritual - so you can be fully present without armour.
About us
Andrew and I (Dragos) hold space as fellow travelers. Our intention is to create safe containers where real connection happens and genuine transformation is possible.

### Reserve Your Spot / Questions

Purchase ticket: [Hipsy.nl](https://hipsy.nl/event/187322-the-lover-the-fire-within-mens-circle)
Questions? Email: [hello@orionproject.life](mailto:hello@orionproject.life?)