Can we fall deeply, wildly, unapologetically in love with ourselves?

Can we fall deeply, wildly, unapologetically in love with ourselves?
Is that even a thing? Or is that selfish?

I can already hear some of us saying:
“I do love myself. I take care of my health. I cut toxic relationships. I found pickleball. I started hiking. I saw a therapist…”

That’s beautiful. Truly.

But can we move beyond self-care… and ask the deeper question:
What would it take to fall deeply in love with myself?

Not just to maintain myself.
Not just to improve myself.
But to adore myself.

You might say, “But I love myself. I’m happy with who I am.”

That’s awesome. Let me ask you a few gentle questions:
When you step on the scale, how kind is your response?
When you notice a new wrinkle, do you smile and think, “I’m getting cuter by the day”?
When you make a costly mistake, do you respond with patience and compassion?
When you fail, do you stand by yourself — or withdraw your affection?
When you’re tired, do you offer yourself rest — or criticism?

Have you ever said to yourself:
“I’m so excited. I just realized I get to spend every single day with you for the rest of my life.”

Have you ever written a love letter to yourself?
Have you ever forgiven yourself the way you forgive someone you deeply care about?
Have you ever celebrated your own growth the way you celebrate a friend’s?
Have you ever looked at your younger self and said, “You did the best you could. I’m proud of you”?
It’s fairly common to say things to ourselves that we would never say to a partner.
We withhold tenderness.
We ration praise.
We make love conditional.

But what if we didn’t?

What if loving yourself wasn’t arrogance — but loyalty?
What if it meant becoming your own safest place?
Your own soft landing?
Your own biggest fan?

To fall deeply in love with yourself is not to believe you are better than others.
It’s to believe you are worthy of the same grace you so freely give.

Maybe the real question isn’t,
“Is that selfish?”
Maybe the real question is,
“What would change in my life if I treated myself like someone I was wildly in love with?”

We’ll be meeting at Honey Seed in Southside Chattanooga — a casual, friendly spot known for its hand-rolled Montréal-style bagels, wood-fired thin-crust pizzas, and a menu that spans breakfast, brunch, lunch, and dinner. It’s an easy, welcoming place that lends itself well to conversation.

I hope this will be a space that feels safe, inclusive, and supportive — a place where curiosity, honesty, and care for one another are valued.
Looking forward to being together soon.

Warmly,
Willi