PART 2: Can we fall deeply, wildly, unapologetically in love with ourselves?

Can we fall deeply, wildly, unapologetically in love with ourselves? 💛
Is that even a thing? Or is that selfish?
I feel drawn to dive into this topic again, not sure how yet but its way too important to cover in one evening .
Questions for the evening:
• How have the last weeks been since the last gathering? What has been stirred or provoked in you? ✨
• Have you experimented with loving yourself more? What did that feel like? 🫶
• What has been the hardest thing for you lately? ⛰️

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For those who couldn’t join last time, here are some of the reflections we explored:
FALLING IN LOVE WITH YOURSELF 💫
We spend a lot of time learning how to love others.
But how often do we love ourselves the same way?
Not just improving ourselves.
Not just taking care of ourselves.
But treating ourselves with the same kindness, patience, and grace we offer someone we deeply love. 🤍
A few questions to sit with:
• When I make a mistake, do I respond with kindness or criticism?

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• If I treated myself the way I treat someone I deeply love, what would change?

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• What is something about myself that I quietly admire?

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• Can I look into the mirror and say: “You are the best thing that ever happened to me.”
• If not, could you allow yourself to gently linger with that?
• What comes up?
• Most importantly: please don’t carry these reflections alone. Find the support you need and deserve. 🤝

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From last event as reference:
I can already hear some of us saying:
“I do love myself. I take care of my health.
I cut toxic relationships.
I found pickleball.
I started hiking.
I saw a therapist…”
And that’s beautiful. Truly. 🌿
But what if we move beyond self-care and ask the deeper question:
What would it take to fall deeply in love with myself?
Not just to maintain myself.
Not just to improve myself.
But to adore myself.
You might say, “But I love myself. I’m happy with who I am.”
That’s wonderful. Let me ask a few gentle questions:
When you step on the scale, how kind is your response?
When you notice a new wrinkle, do you smile and think,
“I’m getting cuter by the day”? ✨
When you make a costly mistake, do you respond with patience and compassion?
When you fail, do you stand by yourself — or withdraw your affection?
When you’re tired, do you offer yourself rest — or criticism?
Have you ever said to yourself:
“I’m so excited. I just realized I get to spend every single day with you for the rest of my life.” 💛
Have you ever written a love letter to yourself?
Have you ever forgiven yourself the way you forgive someone you deeply care about?
Have you ever celebrated your own growth the way you celebrate a friend’s? 🎉
Have you ever looked at your younger self and said:
“You did the best you could. I’m proud of you.” 🫶
It’s surprisingly common to say things to ourselves that we would never say to a partner.
We withhold tenderness.
We ration praise.
We make love conditional.
But what if we didn’t?
What if loving yourself wasn’t arrogance — but loyalty? 🌱
What if it meant becoming your own safest place?
Your own soft landing.
Your own biggest fan.
To fall deeply in love with yourself isn’t believing you’re better than others.
It’s believing you deserve the same grace you so freely give.
Maybe the real question isn’t:
“Is that selfish?”
Maybe the real question is:
“What would change in my life if I treated myself like someone I was wildly in love with?”

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We’ll be meeting at Honey Seed in Southside Chattanooga — a casual, welcoming spot known for its hand-rolled Montréal-style bagels, wood-fired thin-crust pizzas, and a menu that spans breakfast, brunch, lunch, and dinner. 🥯🍕
It’s an easy place to gather and have meaningful conversations.
My hope is that this space feels safe, inclusive, and supportive — a place where curiosity, honesty, and care for one another are valued. 🤍
Looking forward to being together soon.
Warmly,
Willi