Think for yourself, Work on yourself, Connect authentically

Hi everybody,

I’ve created this group with a selfish purpose – to try and attract and connect with like-minded people, because as I get older, I find it increasingly difficult to meet such individuals. But even if this group ends up helping form meaningful relationships that I’m not a part of, I’ll still be happy – at least my actions will have led to something positive. 🙂

The original name of this group was supposed to be: Think for yourself, Work on yourself, Connect deeply and authentically, Live naturally (if possible).
Unfortunately, it didn’t fit in the name field, so I had to shorten it. In the name I tried to capture what are probably the most essential character traits. Let me now break them down one by one:

Think for yourself
This has defined me for many years. I believe I’m someone who hardly ever submits to social pressure and never does things just because "everyone else is doing it." I try to analyze things and take actions that I find logical or pragmatic.

Here are a few examples of what I mean, just off the top of my head:

I don’t celebrate anything – no birthdays, no Christmas, no Easter, no Valentine’s Day... nothing that’s on the calendar. It doesn’t make sense to me. On top of that, these traditions often create unnecessary anxiety, time pressure, and financial stress for people.

I’ve never cared about fashion – I wear what’s comfortable and what I personally like.

I’ve never wanted to get married – maybe there are some legal benefits, but overall it’s a strange concept to me. I’m with someone because I want to be, not because a piece of paper says so.

I don’t want kids – I like playing with children, but I don’t want my own. I enjoy peace and quiet. Kids bring fear, stress, and pressure. The world we live in isn't an ideal environment for raising children.

Work on yourself
I see this as pretty much my main purpose in life – constant growth in every area, both mental and physical. I strive to keep becoming a better version of myself, eliminating mistakes and weaknesses, and evolving as a person. I love how I change, and I really enjoy this journey.

Connect deeply and authentically
I’m not interested in superficial relationships or ones where people use each other for selfish reasons. I try to truly get to know people and form real emotional connections. Of course, this requires openness and honesty from both sides.....Most of all, I’d love to connect with people who have a good heart

Live naturally
This one’s a bit tricky – what does it actually mean?
To me, it’s something like living in a tribe somewhere in the jungle, gathering food and occasionally hunting. So how do we get anywhere close to that in today’s world? 😄

I can imagine something like: going to bed after sunset and waking up at sunrise (more or less as nature intended), avoiding the constant rush from job to job, running errands, and so on. Living calmly, spending lots of time actively outdoors in the sun, being around people I care about, avoiding sitting in front of a screen all day (which unfortunately I do – I’ve worked in offices for years). No junk food.
But it can also overlap with “Think for yourself.”
For example, things like marriage or the traditional family setup feel unnatural to me. Families often create overly strong, sometimes even unhealthy bonds between people – and behind closed doors, horrible things often happen, even though everything looks picture-perfect on the outside. In a tribe, this kind of stuff wouldn’t happen. 😄

I need to also add a "Be yourself" section. This might overlap with some of the other sections, but the point is: personally, I dislike pretense or how people often give in to social pressure and behave in ways that don’t align with their inner selves. I don’t think that’s right, I don’t think it’s healthy and I don't feel comfortable around such people. Just think for yourself and be yourself.

If this description genuinely resonates with you, I’d be happy to welcome you into the group. 🙂

I am not sure when and where I am going to make an event. For now, I've created a WhatsApp group where we can discuss that and anything else. If you are interested, send me a message and I will share the link with you.