Coffee & Philosophy: Toxic Positivity

This is a casual discussion group for people of all backgrounds and opinions. All views welcome, the more diversity of views the better. In addition to the typical discussion format, I have little card game called “Disappointing Affirmations” that fits the topic and might be fun to play if others are interested.

At what point does positivity become unhealthy or toxic? Is it harmful to embrace positive thinking if it is not truly authentic? Does “fake it ‘til you make it” have its limitations?

How much is toxic positivity an attribute of certain personality types, rather than a temporary mood? Are there some people who just come off as “too happy”? Or some people who come off as they are trying too hard to be happy? Are both viewed as problematic and need addressing on any level?

If authenticity is so important, it may be worth addressing the default positive composure we are pressured to face on a daily basis among strangers. No matter the mood, when encountering a random stranger we put on a smile, force a friendly tone, and if they ever ask how you’re doing, you MUST respond with at least “Good”.

BTW here is my cheat sheet when people ask how I’m doing:

• “Good” = “I’m Neutral. Please don’t make me think about how I’m doing”
• “I’m doing alright” = “I was doing alright until you asked me”
• “I’m hanging in there” = “Kill me now”

What are your thoughts? Come pull up a chair, get a drink & pastry with us and join us in a fun and thought-provoking discussion! Constant smiles required :P