THRIVING MEN - Love, Sex & Relationships

You know the drill… date or relationship goes well, emotions pop up, and—bam—you’re suddenly busy reorganizing your sock drawer, replying “sorry, been swamped”, or just…casually…vanishing

You pride yourself on independence, keep partners at arm’s length, and convince yourself that “needs” are overrated.

But behind the cool exterior, there’s a low hum of anxiety: a nagging “What if they want too much?” or “What if I get hurt?”

That avoidance shield may feel protective, but it’s also a prison
It keeps you stuck in replay loops of hot‑then‑cold, leaves you second‑guessing every text, and makes vulnerability feel like jumping off a cliff

That cool, independent energy? is just anxiety in a leather jacket. And all those love stories you swear you don’t care about? I know, they hit a little too hard.

Deep down, you crave intimacy

Closeness sounds dreamy until it’s real — then suddenly your heart hits the panic button.

You're resonating with this because:

• Opening up & being vulnerable can feel overwhelming, distrusting & scary
• You don’t mean to push people away… it just happens between the third “what are we” and your silent panic attack
• Dating is like jury duty — observe quietly, don’t get involved too fast, and definitely don’t let them know you’re interested
• Everyone else including the narcs are out here love-bombing on day three and you're still trying to decide if they pass the vibe check
• The minute someone hits you with “We need to talk,” your soul quietly leaves the chat
• Your emotional default setting? “Close tab.” Especially if they start catching feelings
• Constant emotional expectations? Cool, gonna go reorganize my spice rack and disassociate.
• You think about your partner all day but ignore their text until tomorrow — to emotionally reset
• You’re not commitment-phobic. You’re just commitment-wary.
• You dip the moment it gets real and then wonder why you’re still single or stuck in “situationships with intense eye contact.”
• You once caught feelings, then immediately tried to exorcise them with wine and memes.
• You’ve ghosted people over too many check-ins. “How are you feeling?” Unwell now.
• You want real love... but also want to disappear for three days without explanation and still be considered emotionally available.
• You love love… until it starts asking for consistency and then suddenly you’ve got a three-month work trip
• You’d rather fake a WiFi outage than have one more convo about “where this is going.”
• You stay in limbo love—just connected enough to not be alone, but distant enough to not be fully in
• You’ve convinced yourself “maybe it’s just not that deep”... even though your overthinking says otherwise at 2am
• Your ex said “I love you.” You said, “Interesting.” Because why are people so intense?
• Opening up? Babe, you’d rather explain crypto to your grandma than talk about your emotions. And that’s saying something.
• You treat emotional intimacy like it’s a cornhub pop-up ad: instantly closed
• You’re struggling to understand why ex lovers, dates or current partners are frustrated
• You want the “slow burn love story” but keep hitting the emotional fire extinguisher when it starts warming up
• You call it “protecting your peace.” Your therapist calls it “avoidant shutdown.” Tomato, tomahto.

It’s time to flip the script: recognize the exact moments you pull back, understand the “why” under your walls, and replace flight impulses with confident closeness.

Because ghosting your feelings or yourself - isn't a sustainable relationship strategy.

If deep down, you actually want someone who gets you, holds you, backs you and doesn’t make you feel trapped, consider this your new favorite calendar invite.

Avoidant To Secure - My upcoming FREE 90‑Minute Masterclass to Break Avoidant Attachment & Own Secure Love

No therapy speak. No fluff. Just how to stop sabotaging mind blowing love that could actually last.

You’ll Learn:

• Why you keep attracting intense, clingy, or emotionally confusing dates & lovers—and how to break the cycle
• The 5 hidden avoidant blocks no one’s talking about (and how to break each one)
• How to navigate the anxious-avoidant trap—solo or partnered—without emotionally short-circuiting
• Ways to get close without feeling like you need to fake your death and move to Zimbabwe
• Intimacy that feels safe, authentic, gives you space AND keeps your inner peace intact
• Conflict‑proof strategies so tough conversations don’t send you running
• Your personalized roadmap to build secure‑attachment habits into your daily life
• Real‑time trigger spotting, so you can catch avoidant impulses in the moment—and rewire them
• Overwhelm‑busting techniques to regulate anxiety when intimacy ramps up
• A simple next-steps plan so you don’t end up back in your old patterns by next Thursday

Sunday, May 11, 2025 (NZST): 12:00 PM (AEST): 10:00 AM