What we're about
This Men's Group is a discussion, support & friendship group for gay guys in Toronto.
★We've already celebrated our 1000th meeting! in a row in August 2017★
The Toronto Gay Men's Group offers gay guys an opportunity to meet new friends, discuss life issues and interactions with others, learn about ourselves, relationships, challenges that we face such as dealing with rejection, discrimination, mental health issues, finding a partner and staying in a good relationship. You will also be guided step by step to re-invent and empower yourself with new energy, ideas, authentic friendships and more! We meet on Thursdays at 7pm downtown Toronto at M4Y 2K2.
There is also meetings on Wednesdays if you can't attend Thursdays. In this case join our sister group here to have access to the Wednesday meetings https://www.meetup.com/Positive-Psychology-Inspiration/
ATTENDING THE GROUP
Sign up via Meetup, see the tab on the top right hand corner of this page "Join us!".
The atmosphere at the group is often described as "Caring; respectful; interesting; vibrant & life-changing!"
Discussions may be simple and fun with loads of laughter or it can be very serious. There's usually a topic lined up for discussion but men are also encouraged to bring topics to the table that is important to their lives. All age groups are usually represented: this makes it a very interesting mix!
Many friendships have been made from this group, not to mention some long-term partnerships as well. The group is therapeutic, but not group therapy.
The Group might be ideal for someone who:
*Is new to Toronto or Canada or the gay world!
*Feels alone, a bit down or isolated for various reasons
*Wants to meet people who he can really talk to & feel connected to
*Wants to enhance his experience of life but is not sure where to start
*Seeks informal "therapy" for feelings of low self-esteem / depression / etc.
*Wants to have the opportunity to meet new friends in different age groups / ways of life
*Who needs an opportunity to talk about his life & have people who will really LISTEN
*Wants to re-invent himself in many aspects of his life and surroundings & feel good!
*Need guys to socialize with on a regular basis; explore the city; movies; sport; etc.
*Is still in the closet and wants to meet gay people in a safe, constructive environment
*Who wants to have the opportunity to have solid "food for thought" to reflect on life
*Needs support in feeling part of the gay community and other aspect of daily living
*Who wants to feel part of a positive; supportive group / community
*Is willing to try something different to feel content about life
*Is looking for long-term friends or even a life partner!
WE HAVE 3 GROUND RULES
CONFIDENTIALITY - What we say and discuss in the group is confidential. SAFE AND NON-JUDGMENTAL - You are in an environment where your ideas and thoughts can be openly shared (if you want), for feedback and discussion. RESPECT - You can really share anything on your mind and what you want to talk about, just do it with respect towards others.
✓ Secure free parking
✓ Light Refreshments supplied
✓ Safe, friendly and respectful atmosphere
✓ Nice downtown location (Google: M4Y 2K2)
✓ Within easy walking distance from the subway (Wellesley OR College) and streetcar
✓Detailed address details will be supplied to you when you join the group & RSVP to attend a meeting
-Fear of getting old
-I am alone & lonely
-Why relationships fail
-I am in a straight marriage...
- I am bi and not sure where I fit in
-Be more dynamic & make new friends
-Where do I meet a guy for a relationship?
-I can be a fulfilled person on my own!
-How important is a perfect body?
-Where is the love in the world?
-Does God really hate/love me?
-Sexual health: Hiv, etc
-Build a solid Self-esteem
-I need quality gay friends!
-SOMETHING is missing in my life...
-Change your life and feel GOOD about it
-It is not what we say, it is how we say it
-The poisonous effect of negative thoughts
-We judge in others what we judge in ourselves
-Usually we want the other to change so we can feel better
-You say: “Why can’t you accept me just as I am?” Do you accept everyone just as they are?
-What will happen if you pull away from your restrictions?
-There is only two choices in life: Love or Fear
-Is it a terrible thing "to let your image go"?
-Do we get stuck in our basic instinct?
-Do you want to miss your own life?
-Find out who you really are.
ABOUT THE FACILITATOR
"Andreas Johanns did group, couple and individual counseling in Johannesburg and London for 20 years. He is the founder and facilitator of "The Toronto Men's Group" as well as "GROUP11" in Canada. His motivational work is mainly focused on self esteem issues and self-empowering as well as matters specific to the gay community. Andreas was the Publisher and Editor of South Africa's largest gay and lesbian publication "GAY SA", and is the author of nine books. He left South Africa in 1999 and lived in London for three years, prior to settling in Toronto in 2002 where he works as a Life Strategist.”
A FEW REVIEWS
☻ Being in this group is like attending a top university. It's learning about the human condition at it's very best in a super safe, caring and respectful and often filled with laughter, environment. The facilitator is not only sensitive with brilliant knowledge and insights, he's one of us and does not place himself on a pedestal. Astonishing, as he most certainly can.
☻ An excellent forum for any gay man interested in personal growth. This group is one of 10 things you have to try before you mature. It's a must for new self-discovered gays. Whether you need a social therapy or want to meet new people or just wanna try something new. As professionally but yet casually facilitated as it is, this group is my religion. Amen :-)
☻ This is the best place in Toronto to meet REAL people. I tried many other groups, but found them to be artificial and without proper focus. In this group, there are many single guys attending; some that's in relationships; and couples too. This makes for a dynamic mix of perspectives...very interesting. For me is a very very rewarding experience to be part of this group. For half the price of a decent meal & coke you get the opportunity to work on the corner stones of your life.
☻ I absolutely think it is an amazing opportunity to jump outside of one's day to day life and look at yourself by experiencing the world of others.
☻ This group is a Godsend for those of us who are healing, searching, exploring and desire to live in the world with full passion. Andreas gets my vote for Citizen of the Year for creating a beautiful safety net for gay men of all circumstance and bringing them together to share their journeys.
☻ A positive and healthy way to discuss challenges that many men face. I have found the group to be very supportive, and I can't help but discuss my issues. It's been a great find for me.
☻ Thank you for another fantastic meeting. It is wonderful to see how everyone openly shares their experiences in a welcoming, friendly and fun environment. Love the laughter and the learning. Since joining I have made many great new friends. I look forward to each and every meeting!
☻ This group is a great resource for seekers looking to untangle internal knots. Andreas is a master at showing you the ropes.
☻ I found this group at the lowest point in my life. These men - the friends I have made, have been instrumental in my 'comeback' and I thank my lucky stars everyday that I found these angels.
☻ If you're looking for empathy, opinions, and support without the molly-coddling, this is a fantastic group.
☻ I was feeling very anxious and depressed when I discovered the group more that 3 years ago. Now I'm seeing the bright side of life too. If it has not been for this group' constant support in my life, I would have gone home a long time ago. With my tail between my legs.
☻ This group helped me a lot and I am now enjoying life much more since I joined this group 5 years ago. I made many many nice friends via the group! We laugh a lot together and sometimes there is even a tear or two. But it's all good in a safe; informal but structured environment & the socials are great.
☻ I don’t know what I would have done without this group. I arrived in my new country with high hopes; just to find the gay world is a bewildering experience. Tried to make friends; meet people; with very limited success. And then I walked through Andreas’ door and found 20 people in one room from 13 different countries. All ready to support me! (Just when I honestly felt no one cares anymore...). I quickly made good friends here: some in their 20ties; 30ties; 40ties; 50ties and one mentor in his 60ties! I & my partner love this group. Thankful for ever. Bravo guys! We can't wait for Thursdays!
JOIN US & COME AND FEEL GOOD ABOUT YOURSELF.
AND YOUR LIFE.