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Rules, Policies & Disclaimers:

**DISCLAIMER: Meetups are Informal groups of adults who are Responsible for their Own Safety and well-being at all meetup events, and when communicating with members outside of our events. We are NOT a "formal" nonprofit organization, but instead a loosely-tied group of people with a common interest and cause. All members joining our group acknowledge that this group and its Volunteer organizers & event hosts are NOT responsible for the behavior, past or present or future, of any members Outside of our events. When making new friends or acquaintances at our meetups, please take all Precautions that you would if meeting a complete stranger at your favorite cafe, bar, neighborhood gathering, or so forth. While we may take action against members who break our Rules at our Meetups, (or abuse our website & email tools), we can NOT be expected to watch over the behavior of members outside or beyond our actual official events. Thank you!

1.Membership Approvals: The Organizers approve membership applications. New members will not be approved without answering fully and completely all the profile questions. Especially the one about polyamory knowledge and/or experience. Also, a Profile Picture is required that clearly shows who the person is. No anonymous applications are approved.

2. Privacy: We respect everyone's privacy! (And expect the same from all members.) Our site settings are such that our events & membership lists can NOT be seen by anyone who is not a member.
{*Note: Occasional limited events will be "Open to the Public", (or cross-posted on other poly-friendly sites), but will be noted as such in the Event Description with a Disclaimer from the designated Event Host. Please do Not post a copy and/or publish our meetup event details to non-members---with exception of inviting your own personal friends to come with you as a personal guest.}
Everyone should update their site privacy settings to a level they are comfortable with!
    *By joining, you Agree to Respect every member's Privacy, whether they are "out" as polyamorous or not.
For more information about Privacy, see this (LINK)

3. Respect: We want all members to feel Safe & Comfortable being with us at our events. Please remember that ANY harassment, privacy violation, public humiliation, or any unwanted sexual innuendo towards other members at our events, is strictly against our policies and is 100% unacceptable. By joining you agree to follow this rule. Members found by Leadership Board to be violating this rule will be banned. If you yourself experience this at a meetup, please notify the Event Host/Organizer on duty, immediately. We will not let members of this group feel in any way uncomfortable, violated, harassed, shamed, or in any other way unsafe at our meetups. Please also help foster Respect by avoiding malicious gossip or bad-talking other members---we prefer to keep meetups a friendly, DRAMA-FREE environment.

    ***NOTE***: We strongly require that you please do NOT send private messages or emails to any members that you have not yet met at a meetup & already made friends with, in Person, first! That is both a Safety issue, and just plain being considerate. (The Exception, of course, is when contacting Organizers or Event Hosts for meetup information! Or if responding to a member's request for carpools.)
We are very proud of the accepting, safe, friendly poly community we have developed here, full of members who support each other.

4. Discrimination: We are a very diverse group, and we do Not discriminate on: Race, Ethnicity, National Origin, Sex, Gender, Religion, Sexual Orientation, Political Persuasion, Age, Disability, Family Status, Economic Class, Relationship status, Sexual History, etc. All members are expected to follow this policy.

5. Attendance and RSVPing: Our organizers generously give of their time, energy, and money, to help make these great events a success. To support their efforts, we require all members to use's RSVP system. This allows organizers to plan their events, which often involve managing space and providing refreshments. In the event that you have RSVPd to an event, but can no longer attend, we ask that you update your RSVP status as soon as possible (even last minute if necessary). Large numbers of "No-Shows" is discouraging for organizers! "No-shows" may cause to organizers wasting time and money, and in the case of wait lists, they may prevent pother people from being able to attend. We require that you keep your RSVP status up to date. Failure to do so may lead to:
First time: Warning.
Second time: temporary suspension.
Third time: Removal from the group for no less than 12 months.

*In order to ensure that this policy is enforced fairly, organizers are asked to mark no-shows for their events. If you are uncertain how to track no-shows, please let Robert or one of the other organizers know.

6. Lurking: All members are requested to stay Active, and to attend events as often as you can. We are very strongly against having any "Lurking" Inactive members! After all, the point of a meetup is to get out there and meet people! We would love members to attend a meetup at least Monthly, although we understand that’s not always possible. However, at the very least, we request a "Goal" for all members to make it to a meetup a minimum of twice a year, in order to keep memberships Active. You'll find a great variety of events here Weekly, so do visit our site every few days to keep up with what meetups fit in your schedule. (Bookmarking our site will be very helpful!) But again, please NO Lurkers!!
"Idle" memberships may be removed automatically on a regular basis, however, those removed may rejoin if they truly want to.

7. Age: requires an age of 18 or more to create an account. We agree with this policy. (And some meetups at bars may require 21 and up.) However, we occasionally have a few meetup events that are designated "family-friendly" and open to kids accompanying their parents who are members. (For these events, please contact the designated Event Host directly for more information.)

8. RSVP Etiquette: Read each event description fully before RSVP---and contact the designated "Event Host" if you have questions about that event! If it's your first time, you may need to inquire on how to find everyone. (Indicate that you're new in the comments section.) DO Remember to keep track of your RSVP's. Please RSVP "Yes" only for events you actually will attend. If you need to cancel, please remember to UPDATE your rsvp, so that Event Hosts know! While you do not have to RSVP a “No” to everything you cannot make it to, please make sure that if you are listed as a “Yes”, that you will be there. Otherwise, update the RSVP accordingly. (Also, we prefer members not "crashing" events---even if it's the last minute, try to remember to submit an RSVP before just randomly showing up to something.)
Event Organizers volunteer their time and energy to creating great meetup events, and often they need to know how many attendees will be there! **Please show some Common Courtesy to the efforts of our Event Hosts by NOT being a "No-Show"! It is much appreciated--and the decent thing to do!

9. Disclaimer: By joining you agree that you are NOT a member of the media, press, or government looking to gain contacts to our group without the permission of our leadership or members for any story, interview, undercover investigations, or other negative implications towards this group, its members, or leadership.

10. Dues: We have a "Requested Contribution" amount of at least $10 per member, per year. This is so Organizers do not have to cover meetup costs (as well as education & outreach) out of their own pocket. (Remember that charges to run the site, list, & calendar services thru a monthly Fee to our Organizer.) All donations help! You can donate via the meetup site link on the left margin of our page (the green "Chip In" button), or via cash to our Organizers. We Thank You for your contributions!

10. Spam: Spam is NEVER tolerated on our list and we ban anyone violating this rule.

12. **NOT a Dating Service: We encourage you to make friends here! However, this is not a "dating service", not a swingers' club, and definitely *not* a way to find casual sex. By joining, you agree to abide by this rule. Please be civil, polite and respectful, and do keep in mind that we are here to make friends, and create a fun sincere Poly Community.
Any unwelcomed solicitations is a violation of this policy! (And may result in Immediate Removal from the group!)
Besides, the best partners usually start off as friends---many of our active members will attest to this as a fact. Come to meetups, meet fellow members in person, and then build friendships first, the rest will come more easily & naturally!

By joining our group, you are Agreeing to follow all of the above rules.

Remember: If the meetup site is down, we have backup news & announcements at

Table of Contents

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Local Poly-Friendly Professionals and Services November 13, 2017 6:22 PM anonymous
RULES July 26, 2017 2:17 PM anonymous
Group Description July 26, 2013 1:04 PM anonymous
Polyamory and Nonmonogamy Resources October 13, 2017 10:58 AM anonymous
Privacy Tips and Useful Info December 12, 2015 1:40 PM anonymous
New Welcome Message to Members June 4, 2012 2:11 PM anonymous
About The Triangle Area Polyamory Group October 1, 2012 3:02 PM anonymous

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