
What we’re about
We are a peer to peer support group for people who are dealing with CPTSD, Complex Trauma and Codependency struggles. We will discuss and encourage sharing of our experiences, talk about trauma bonding and how to break the narcissistic abuse cycle. Most importantly, we will share our communal experience and provide support by listening and sharing our what we've gone through so that all attendees know that they are not alone.
Please read this message carefully: Before signing up to any meeting in this group, you MUST attend a First Timers Meeting event. There are NO exceptions to this. These meetings are designed to ensure community safety and if you sign up for an Established Member event without attending one, you will be removed from that event. Before you do anything else, including signing up for an Established Members group, check out our "Events" section and sign up for a First Timers Group and attend one BEFORE you sign up for an Established Member meeting. We are very strict about this rule, so please do so as we hate to remove people from meetings and have to send a PM advising someone of this rule.
All meetings are run through Zoom. The links and passwords are reset every day. The links are all sent the morning of the meetings. You will receive your link through whatever email you use through Meetup. Please ensure you have your settings with Meetup set to receive emails as they will come in through that email. If you sign up for a meeting, please check you have received your link well before the meeting as we do not check our emails during meetings. It is your responsibility to check that you have received your link - if you haven't received it and it's before meeting time, simply send your organizer a PM and we will ensure you receive it.
Some more general rules that will be reviewed in your First Timer's Meeting:
- DO NOT private message moderators/organizers unless you have a question regarding the group as a whole, or you didn't receive a link to the meeting. DO NOT message us for medical, legal, or general advice, and do not contact us to vent. We understand that times are tough and this is not an easy situation to deal with, but we are all running this group on a volunteer basis, and we do not have any medical or counseling degrees. If there is an emergency please call 911, contact your local police, hospital, or physician. There is also a domestic violence hotline (800.799.SAFE) and a suicide hotline (800-273-8255) - these are free 24 hour services. We appreciate your understanding in advance.
- DO NOT private message other members of the group. Again, this is an exception to the rule above, but if you see someone in a meeting you'd like to reach out to, please send the organizer of that meeting a message and we will ask that person if they consent to being contacted and will pass on your info to them. If a member tells you during a meeting to reach out to them, that is OK as they have consented already. This is for the safety of our members, which we take very seriously.
We are happy you are here and hope you find this a supportive community. All of the rules are above are to ensure that you are safe and that the people you will be interacting with are validating, here for the 'right reasons', and are properly vetted. We look forward to meeting you!
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Kay R., Christine, Nataliya, Sarah, Nicole N, Wajeeha, Makayla, Beth, Nicole B and Kristen
Upcoming events (4+)
See all- Weekly Support Group for Toxic, Narcissistic & Abusive Partnerships w/KimLink visible for attendees
Welcome to the Narcissistic Abuse Support Group. This meeting is for ***ESTABLISHED MEMBERS *** and focuses specifically on narcissistic abuse in partner, spouse, and intimate relationships.
LINKS WILL BE SENT OUT A FEW HOURS BEFORE THE MEETING STARTS VIA MEETUP DIRECT MESSAGES AND THROUGH E-MAIL ABOUT 20MIN BEFORE THE MEEING STARTS.
GROUP RULES:
1. Do not contact other members directly without first going through an organizer. A big safety issue. We want to make sure contact is wanted.- TELL AN ORGANIZER IMMEDIATELY if someone contacts you without consent. We take that very seriously here.
- Please wait to get to know someone for at least a month or two first.
- Please WRITE to an organizer through Meetup. Please refrain from asking openly in the zoom meeting because it can put people on the spot.
- Also don’t share personal contact information in any public forum for your own safety.
2. Recognize we are PEERS not professionals or experts. We are not psychologists, attorneys, or medical doctors
- This group should be in conjunction with one-on-one therapy. Never a substitute
- We cannot create a feeling of perfect safety so one must largely manage own triggers by muting or signing out for a period.
-Please avoid any graphic detail around heavier material, such as violence, sexual assault, or current/past suicidal ideation. These subjects are best left to a professional (See the below resources).
- We are volunteers and cannot give any one member personal time. The beauty of the group is to get multiple perspectives
3. Cameras must be ON. Safety issue and adds to everyone’s experience.
- Unless you write to an organizer a reason to have it off in advance
- Having it off for brief periods is allowed as long as its on for the vast majority of the meeting.
4. We are all inclusive here
- No matter what race, gender identity, sexual orientation, religious or political affiliation we accept everyone.
- We have many people on the spectrum and we do give extra time to share. Thank you for understanding.
- We will not tolerate derogatory language towards any population of people. No stereotyping or making sweeping statements
- Do not bring up race, gender or any other identity unless you are of that identity.
5. USE “I” STATEMENTS
- Unless people explicitly ask for advice. People are in different situations and different things help different people. We support one another with compassion rather than judgement, so please careful about telling someone what they should do
- 6. Do not bring up controversial topics unrelated to narcissism.
- 7. Please RAISE HANDS and do not interrupt or talk over each other.
- 8. Do not raise your voice at another member or the organizer.
- 9. No soliciting or pedaling of products**
HOTLINES AND RESOURCES
National Domestic Violence Hotline (800) 799-7233
https://www.thehotline.org/get-help/
National Suicide Prevention Lifeline (800) 273-8255
https://988lifeline.org/ 988 in US/ 999 in UK
UK - The Samiritans - 116123 or text SHOUT to 85258
AUS - Lifeline 13 11 14 crisis hotline
Rape, Abuse, and Incest National Network (RAINN) (800) 656-4673
https://www.rainn.org/
Safety Checklist
https://www.domesticviolenceinfo.ca/domestic-violence-homicide-risk-assessment/