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What we’re about

Welcome!

Let's get together for food, drink, live performance - fun social events that can spark conversation, create connection, and help build community.

Note that "food, drink, live performance" means there is usually some cost involved in participating, whether it's the cost of a coffee, a meal, a cocktail, or a ticket.

There is no membership fee, but there are expectations around participation. If you never attend anything, you will be removed.

This is an inclusive group, with no age restrictions aside from 19+. While "women" appears in the group name, we use an inclusive definition of the word and welcome all trans, genderqueer, and non-binary people.

Joining the Group:
Membership is open to residents of Greater Victoria only. A profile photo that shows your face and a name we can call you are requirements for membership. The group is set to 'Private' to protect your privacy - the other members of this group are the only people who will ever see your membership status and profile, including your name and photo.

The following are the top three reasons membership requests are declined:

1. A problem with your profile photo.
Your profile photo must be a current, actual photograph, one that clearly shows your face - and only your face, no other people - without sunglasses or face coverings, without filters or special effects, and facing the camera. This adds a layer of safety and helps us recognize each other when meeting for the first time.

2. A problem with your profile name.
Please use the name you wish to be addressed as, whether that’s your birth name, your chosen name, or a nickname. In other words, if it's not a name we can holler at you across a room when you're standing at the entrance looking lost and trying to find us, your membership request will be declined.

3. You're located somewhere other than Victoria, BC.
This group is for folks located in Greater Victoria, or near enough that traveling to events regularly is possible. Membership requests from people located too far away will be declined. Current members located outside Victoria are removed, including those whose location was overlooked when they joined and those who have since moved.

Attending Our Events
To attend one of our events you must RSVP through the Meetup system.

  1. RSVP only if you’re confident you will definitely attend. If you are just a ‘maybe’, please leave the available spots for others.
  2. No guests/+1s are possible at our events. If you have a partner or friend who wants to join us, they'll need to join the group as well so you can RSVP separately, as individuals.
  3. If you RSVP and your plans change, you must update your RSVP with at least 24 hours' notice when we don't have a reservation, and 48 hours when we do have a reservation.
  4. If you are waitlisted, pay attention. If a spot opens up for you and you cancel late or don’t show up because you ‘didn’t know’, that’s still a no-show (see #6).
  5. If you are waitlisted and your plans change, remove yourself from the waiting list as soon as you know you’re unable to attend, and with at least 24/48 hours' notice (see #3).
  6. If you cancel your RSVP with less than the required notice or you simply fail to show up, that's a no-show. We have zero tolerance for no-shows and just one is enough to result in removal from the group.

Detailed group rules can be found here.