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### Ex-JW Recovery & Growth Group

Purpose:
A safe space for former Jehovah's Witnesses (and those affected by high-control groups) to share experiences, process trauma, and support each other's growth without judgment.

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### 1. Group Rules

a. Confidentiality

  • "What's shared here stays here." Do not repeat names, stories, or details outside the group.
  • Exception: Facilitators may intervene for safety if someone discloses plans to harm themselves or others.

b. Respect & No Judgment

  • No interrupting, debating, or criticizing others' beliefs/choices.
  • Avoid phrases like "You should…" or "Just get over it."

c. One Speaker at a Time

  • Raise your hand (or use the "raise hand" feature online) to share. Facilitators will ensure everyone has space.

d. No Proselytizing

  • This group is not for promoting religions, political agendas, or MLMs.
  • Allowed: Sharing personal spiritual journeys (e.g., "I explore Buddhism now").
  • Not Allowed: "You should try [belief system]!"

e. Trigger Warnings

  • Warn before graphic descriptions of abuse, self-harm, or shunning (e.g., "I'll talk about CSA—skip if needed").

f. No Cross-Talk

  • Do not comment directly on others' shares unless they ask for feedback.

g. Use "I" Statements

  • Speak from your experience: "I felt…" vs. "You all are…"

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### 2. Participation Policies

a. Voluntary Sharing

  • No one will be forced to speak at the meeting. Passing is always okay.

b. Time Limits

  • Shares kept to 3–5 minutes (adjust based on group size) so all can participate.

c. No "Fixing" Others

  • Offer empathy, not unsolicited advice. Ask: "Would you like support or just listening?"

d. Substance-Free Space

  • Attendees must be sober during meetings to ensure clear communication.

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### 3. Safety & Moderation Policies

a. Facilitator Authority

  • Facilitators may gently redirect conversations, pause harmful dialogue, or ask disruptive members to leave.

b. Conflict Resolution

  • Disagreements should focus on feelings, not dogma. If tensions rise, facilitators will call a break.

c. No Private Contact Without Consent

  • Do not DM members or ask personal questions outside the group without permission.

d. Crisis Situations

  • If someone expresses suicidal intent, facilitators will provide crisis resources (e.g., 988, local hotlines) and follow up privately.

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### 4. Membership Policies

a. Who Can Join

  • Open to ex-JWs and those questioning/deconstructing. Allies (e.g., spouses) may attend with prior approval.

b. No Recording

  • To protect privacy, Recording (audio/video) is strictly prohibited.

c. Group Etiquette

  • Mute mics when not speaking (virtual). For in-person: Phones are silent, and there are no side conversations.

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### 5. Violations & Consequences

  • First offense: Gentle reminder of rules.
  • Repeat offenses: Private discussion with facilitators.
  • Severe breaches (e.g., harassment, proselytizing): Immediate removal from the group.