《Why Men Love Bitches》 英文读书会 bookclub, Language meetup

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Topic discussion主题讨论: **《Why Men Love Bitches》**中文译名：《“坏”女人有人爱》

✨媒体评价：
"One of the ten most iconic relationship books of the past decade." --Yahoo News

Discover why men are attracted to strong, independent women with this straight-forward, accessible dating guide from New York Times bestselling author Sherry Argov.
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#1 INTERNATIONAL BESTSELLER, NEW YORK TIMES BESTSELLER, TIMES OF LONDON BESTSELLER, TIMES OF INDIA BESTSELLER, LOS ANGELES TIMES BESTSELLER, and GLOBE AND MAIL BESTSELLER
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Venue: People Square in Shanghai 上海人民广场

Cost: 早鸟小红书转发分享活动公益免费，空降票50元/人，.
Date & time: Feb 8th 上午 10:00-12:3
Sherry Argov’s “Why Men Love Bitches” serves as a refreshing viewpoint on women’s relationships with men. The book dispenses advice on how to break from the cycle of being too accommodating in relationships. It challenges women to empower themselves and uphold their self-respect. Using humor and straightforward language, Argov clarifies the qualities of a “bitch”—a strong woman who knows her worth and stands firm in her identity. Focusing on relationship dynamics, she addresses the reasons men gravitate towards confident women instead of “nice girls.

💡重新定义 BITCH
书中赋予这个词全新含义：
B.I.T.C.H = Babe In Total Control of Herself
（完全懂得经营好自己的女性）
拆解来看，BITCH 可以是：
Brave · Intelligent · Trendy · Charisma · Humorous
她并非真正意义上的“坏”，而是：
✅善良体贴，但不受摆布
✅独立自主，不牺牲自我
✅个性鲜明，赢得尊重

🔑 “坏”女人吸引力法则

• 保持独立，不围绕他转
• 不主动追求，保持神秘
• 重视自我价值与生活节奏
• 对身体与精神自律而珍视
• 保留空间，不咄咄逼人
• 思想独立，经济自足
• 温柔与坚定并存

💬别急着“贤妻良母”。越容易得到越不愿意珍惜，人性如此。
If you smother him, he’ll go into defense mode and look for anescape route to protect his freedom.A bitch gives a man plenty of space.

保持自己的生活节奏，该锻炼的锻炼，该读书的读书，不要因为男人冷落了周围的朋友。盯着屏幕几个小时只为等他一条简讯一通电话毫无意义。
Keep moving to your own rhythm.Live by your own rules.

思想独立，财务独立，自尊自爱。
Stand on your two feet financially.
Be an independent thinker.The most attractive quality of all is dignity.

没有让你去做无坚不摧的女强人，请别忘了——温！柔！
When you appear softer and more feminine, you appeal to his instinct to protect.

别那么急着倾诉衷肠。问及前任，轻描淡写一句带过。唠唠叨叨让你不再神秘。偶尔聊聊相处感受，但注意频率和强度~
When you nag, he see weakness.Never pull out your guts on the first few dates.Never talk constantly.Keep cool and quiet.Talking about feelings to a man will feel like work.
“One of ‘The 10 Most Iconic Relationship Books of the Past Ten Years."

—Yahoo!
Do you feel like you are too nice? Sherry Argov'sWhy Men Love Bitches delivers a unique perspective as to why men are attracted to a strong woman who stands up for herself. With saucy detail on every page, this no-nonsense guide reveals why a strong woman is much more desirable than a "yes woman" who routinely sacrifices herself. The author provides compelling answers to the tough questions women often ask:

· Why are men so romantic in the beginning and why do they change?
· Why do men take nice girls for granted?
· Why does a man respect a woman when she stands up for herself?

Full of advice, hilarious real-life relationship scenarios, "she says/he thinks" tables, and the author's unique "Attraction Principles," Why Men Love Bitches gives you bottom-line answers. It helps you know who you are, stand your ground, and relate to men on a whole new level. Once you've discovered the feisty attitude men find so magnetic, you'll not only increase the romantic chemistry—you'll gain your man's love and respect with far less effort.

This book addresses the dynamics of modern relationships. Sherry Argov argues that men are attracted to strong, independent women. Instead of being a “doormat,” women can gain respect and love by valuing themselves and setting boundaries.

An Overview of “Why Men Love Bitches”
Sherry Argov’s “Why Men Love Bitches” serves as a refreshing viewpoint on women’s relationships with men. The book dispenses advice on how to break from the cycle of being too accommodating in relationships. It challenges women to empower themselves and uphold their self-respect. Using humor and straightforward language, Argov clarifies the qualities of a “bitch”—a strong woman who knows her worth and stands firm in her identity. Focusing on relationship dynamics, she addresses the reasons men gravitate towards confident women instead of “nice girls.”

Understanding Men’s Behavior
One central theme of Argov’s advice tackles men’s romantic behavior. Why do men often seem enamored at first, only to withdraw later? Argov claims that once they perceive a woman as a “sure thing,” they lose interest. Men are drawn to the hunt, frequently motivated by the challenge. She suggests that withholding certain intimate aspects initially can heighten his respect and interest. The book offers practical steps to maintain this intrigue. For example, the author recommends creating an air of mystery around feelings and availability. This doesn’t imply manipulation; it’s about being genuine while developing a healthy balance of interest. The advice also includes classic tricks, like introducing playful teasing to defuse tension during awkward moments, keeping the relationship exciting and vibrant.

Why Men Love Bitches explores the dynamic of modern dating, shedding light on why independent and assertive women attract men more than those who are overly accommodating or submissive.
The book “Why Men Love Bitches” by Sherry Argov offers a fresh perspective into dating and relationships. The author breaks down the idea that many women mistakenly believe that being nice and overly accommodating will earn them the love and admiration of men. Instead, Argov argues that the opposite is often true. Men are attracted to women who exude confidence, independence, and assertiveness. This book emphasizes the importance of self-respect and self-worth in relationships, guiding readers toward fostering a personality that commands respect and attracts quality partners.
Why Men Love Bitches (WMLB) has completely reshaped how woman approach relationships. In this fun & engaging read by New York Times bestselling author, Sherry Argov, women learn about the importance of standing your ground, knowing who you are, and holding your own in a relationship. Argov shares advice & stories that highlight the value of being a “bitch” in a relationship.
This book separates women into one of two categories: a nice girl vs a bitch.

A**“bitch”** in this book is not the stereotypical bitch most people automatically think of. In this book, being a bitch means you are sassy and confident. You are kind, yet strong and never chase a man. If he doesn’t want you — that’s fine, you don’t want him.
Thenice girl is someone who gives too much and doesn’t receive anything back. She often overcompensates and will do anything to keep her man because she thinks she is nothing without him.

The Balance of Independence and Togetherness
This guide doesn’t just criticize the overly nice; it offers hope, encouragement, and reaffirmation of one’s individuality. While the book prioritizes independence, Argov also emphasizes the importance of partnership. A relationship flourishes when both partners can be secure within themselves while still supporting one another. By communicating clearly and confidently, each partner should celebrate the other’s space instead of monopolizing it. This balance deepens intimacy while simultaneously preserving individuality, which is the essence of healthy love. Argov completes her exploration of relationships by reinforcing a key takeaway. A happy woman is the most attractive person in the room. When partnered with someone who understands their significance, a woman becomes magnetic. Sherry Argov’s “Why Men Love Bitches” is an assertive manifesto that advises women to love themselves fiercely. Through this perspective, readers can harness confidence, self-love, and respect within love, ensuring that they are never seen as a mere doormat but rather as the queen of their life’s narrative.

阿尔戈列举了一般情况下分成两类的女人：乖乖女和坏女人。先不说什么是坏女人，来看一个典型的乖乖女—
♀对喜欢的男人象忠犬，招之即来挥之即去；又象电视机，他想开就开，想关就关；
♀本来周末已有安排，对方一个电话过来，就扔下一切，驱车几十公里赴约；
♀对于从来不同意事先约好见面时间的男人也十分顺从；
♀没车坐机场巴士也要去接远道而归的男人；
♀为了捧红心上人的作品自己从零开始学做经纪人；

1、“坏“女人从不立刻回应男人的短信和电话，即使手机就在她手边。
对策：无需等待她的回复，忙你自己的事情，但一定要通过社交网络，展示你充实且美好的生活。实际上一直在监控你社交网络的她，总会忍不住想融入其中。这时候，你的手机就会响起短信提示音了。
2、“坏”女人不肯改变自己的既定行程，时常拒绝你的诚挚邀约。
对策：这并代表她不在乎你，反而恰恰证明她把你当男朋友，而不是“男闺蜜”。被拒绝后，请绅士的祝她既定行程顺利，并表示愿意等她的聚会结束后，开车接送她回家，这比请她吃晚餐更贴心。
3、“坏”女人让男人们感觉到，她爱自己胜过一切。
对策：收起你的玻璃心，她最爱自己并不代表她不爱你。每一个成熟的人都应该先学会“自爱”，然后才有资格去爱别人。让“坏”女人认识到你也是爱自己胜过一切，因为她喜欢懂得爱自己的男人。
4、“坏”女人不断声明，对于犯错的男人，她随时都会转身离去。
对策：离开并不等于不会回来，你无需因为害怕失去，而受“坏”女人摆布。你需要提前做好工作的是，让“坏”女人明白，你是一个能够独立思考的人，是非准则不由她一人决定。
5、“坏“女人从不让男人掌控自己，谁都不能独有她。
对策：这是“坏”女人在故意激发男人的征服欲，她深谙“得不到才是最好的”这个道理。你要配合她演好这出戏，然后给她最多自由的你，渐渐就成了她最不舍得离开的“牢笼”。
6、“坏”女人喜欢玩“一个耳光加一个糖豆”的游戏。
对策：“坏”女人会以有事为由，拒绝明晚与你约会，可当晚她又会临时告知你，她可以赴约。因为她盘算着，你会像个心爱玩具失而复得的小孩，对她感激不尽。这种情况下，你的正确回应是，告诉她你已经约好朋友一起去打球了。
7、“坏”女人好像能看穿你的小心思，你的情话总被她冷漠应对。
对策：在恋爱博弈中，人人都难免犯贱，聪明的“坏”女人早已洞悉一切。所以你不要刻意的去讨好她，不要把甜言蜜语挂在嘴边。有事说事，没事就闭嘴，是与“坏”女人交往的最好模式。
8、“坏”女人的床总是很难上，在楼道里就与你道晚安。
对策：做爱之前，男人糊涂，女人清醒；做爱之后，男人清醒，女人糊涂。承认吧，如果第一次约会时，“坏”女人就把身体给了你，你反而会担心更多。保持你的耐心，按捺你的欲望，当她缓缓解开睡衣的那一瞬间，你会发现等待是值得的。
9、“坏”女人从不做出承诺，让你倍感不安。
对策：“坏”女人是只狡猾的狐狸，她很会装聋作哑，虽然嘴上不说，但她心里和明镜似的。不要强迫“坏”女人做承诺，但你要主动向她做承诺。虽然表面上，她对此只会轻蔑一笑，但这只狐狸心里已经吃到了甜葡萄。
10、“坏”女人似乎并不需要你，你感觉自己可有可无。
对策：“坏”女人和你在一起，并不是因为她“需要“你，而是因为她“选择”了你，你们是平等的伴侣。因此，你无需主动给她什么，只需向她展示你可以提

#Redefine the word BITCH#
She maintains her independence.
She doesn't pursue him.
She is mysterious.
She maintains a sense of humor.
She places a high value on herself.
She is passionate about something other than him.
She treats her body like a finely tuned machine
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放下手机，拒绝宅家。读有趣的书，见有趣的人，欢迎参加本周六城市部落英文读书会，英式辩论赛，用知识链接彼此，让思想碰撞出火花，遇见与你同频共振的朋友。新的一年，给自己的心灵来一场洗礼。遇见城市部落英文读书会欢迎所有喜欢思考，热爱阅读和分享，希望寻求生命里积极的改变的朋友到来。通过阅读分享来进行一场跨越语言与时空的相逢，让我们在繁忙的生活中寻得一片宁静又充满趣味的阅读天地。读书会有团队讨论和自由分享环节，请自由分享自己的观点和看法，也许你就能遇见灵魂的知音。期待与你相遇在知识的殿堂，共同开启一段美好的旅途

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