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Connection, Empathy, Understanding, Peace, Power
Come level up your communication free! PLEASE MAKE SURE YOU READ THIS ENTIRE DESCRIPTION BEFORE YOU COME! IT WILL SAVE YOU TIME & POTENTIAL EMBARRASSMENT TO KNOW EXPECTATIONS. WHAT WE DO We usually eat and drink while getting to know each other, chat, practice empathy, and play games designed to increase emotional intelligence. Reading the book is encouraged but not required. IMPORTANT In the past: We always go over the basics. This has become tedious for regulars. I'm phasing this part out. Working on a video that shares the basics. Until it is finished: If you have no knowledge of Nonviolent Communication (NVC), please be sure to show up at the beginning of the meetup. If you do not, there is no guarantee I'll take the time to catch you up. The book: and/or you can find many NVC-related resources at, including videos of the author doing classes, animations I've created, and many articles. Thunderbird has $3 beers on Thursdays. There are vegan and gluten free options. Not as many as I'd like, but they have them. Because the number of people showing up has increased so much, we're out on the patio more often. BALANCE OF STRUCTURE & FREE FLOW OF IDEAS I try to balance things so that people wanting structure get as much of what they want as people wanting free flow of ideas. I personally prefer free flow of ideas and I do not enjoy shutting people down! That said, this group is for you as much as it is for I. So I'm VERY MUCH OPEN TO FEEDBACK, CALLING ME OUT IF MY BEHAVIOR CONTRADICTS THE PRINCIPLES OF NVC, OR YOU WANT TO DISCUSS WAYS YOU BELIEVE NVC TO NOT WORK AS YOU WOULD LIKE. That said, I'm super conscious of how much time we have in any given session, so I encourage brevity as well as giving the system benefit of the doubt, especially when you are a beginner. I've found that some beginners in NVC happen to be experts in some related field like psychology, can stimulate much use of our time with me "defending" the NVC principles and/or ways of use that the majority are there to learn. Sort of like someone walking into a Spanish class and wanting to teach the Spanish teacher and students about French. SOURCES Based 95.8% on the book Nonviolent Communication (NVC), a Language of Life by Marshall Rosenberg. Influenced by many others, including Buddhism, Taoism, Four Agreements, Punished by Rewards by Alfie Kohn, Ethical Slut, Byron Katie, Stephen Covey (7 Habits of Highly Effective People), Becky Bailey (Conscious Discipline), and many others. Topics regularly talked about are the importance of objective observation, needs we all have in common, feelings, the difference between feelings and thoughts, the difference between needs and strategies, how to choose words so others really hear us, and how to more deeply understand others. We've started adding in practice of turning our NVC-style empathy into phrases that sound more natural and are less likely to stimulate defensiveness. SCHEDULE Folks are welcome to pop in any time, for any amount of time, between 7pm to 8:34pm. Warning that if you show up after 7pm: while I may want to catch you up, time may not allow. Scott usually gets there early to find a good spot, eat, and chat with early-comers. ** PLEASE RSVP ** and update if your plans change. Free event. Come when you want. Leave when you want. If no one RSVPs or if no one shows up by 7:32pm, there is no guarantee Scott will show up or stick around. Thunderbird closes at 10pm. From 9pm to 10pm we'll have open discussion and/or more intimate empathy practice. >>> PLEASE RSVP and update if your plans change. It helps me pick where we will be and helps others gauge if they want to come or not because some people prefer large groups and some prefer small. <<< Hope to see you there :-)

Thunderbird Coffee

1401 Koenig Ln. · Austin, TX

What we're about

95.1% based on the book "Nonviolent Communication - A Language of Life" by Marshall Rosenberg, PhD. We playfully explore communication to grow in:

- Knowing ourselves and others. We learn to understand our values, needs, and feelings.

- Being real. Often times we might really want to say something, but don't know how to say it in a way that others will be okay with. Compassionate Communication helps to give suggestions on how to connect with other people, while not giving up ourselves.

- Getting our needs met. Some people ignore their needs. Other people blast right through everyone. Still others ask people to stop doing stuff, instead of asking people for what they DO want. Compassionate Communication helps people to ask for things so they get more yes's, while helping others to get yes's too.

- Cracking the tough nuts. Not just people, but also our understandings of anger, praise, love, responsibility, judgment, and more.

- Enjoying life. Compassionate Communication helps us to enjoy ourselves and others more.

(Compassionate Communication is the non-copyrighted name of Nonviolent Communication.)


YouTube: If you look up "Center for Nonviolent Communication" or "Marshall Rosenberg", you will find many videos on Compassionate Communication.

Center for Nonviolent Communication- Founded by Marshall B. Rosenberg, it's a group that helps to spread Compassionate Communication around the world:

Videos and animations showing Compassionate Communication in action (This is a website created by the group's founder, Scott Swain):

Scott's Compassionate Communication Facebook page:


Info on the 5 Love Languages book (according to the author, the five love languages are touch, quality time, gifts, words of affirmation, and acts of service):

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