What we're about

Level up your EQ for more connection, freedom, harmony, and power. 
What you get while enjoying the company of like-minded people:
CLEAR, CONCRETE STEPS FOR:
- Curing social anxiety.
- "Thinkers" to better understand with "feelers".
- "Feelers" to protect yourself when feeling more than you want to.
- Parents to create more connection, understanding, trust, and cooperation with children.
- Turning anger into peace.
- Increasing cohesion, effectiveness, and efficiency in business environments.
- Learning to be empathetic in crisis.
- Roommates to increase harmony, community, and ease.
- Using empathy in crucial conversations without sounding like a mystic, psychiatrist, or creep.
- Quick and easy conflict mediation that works.
- Amping up your negotiation skills.

Resources (optional):

Get the physical card game we play at most meetups: https://clearsay.net/play-to-evolve

- Get the mobile game (w/EmpathyBot a.i.) for increasing your EQ: https://empathybot.net
- Videos, animations, and articles showing NVC / Practical Empathy in action (This is a website created by the group's founder, Scott Swain): http://ClearSay.net. The site is also a resource for Voluntaryism, peaceful parenting, and unschooling.  Scott's bio: https://clearsay.net/bio-scott-swain
- Scott's book, Practical Empathy, the book, free: https://peakd.com/c/hive-180595
- Telegram group: https://t.me/nvc_pe_eq

YouTube: If you look up "Center for Nonviolent Communication" or "Marshall Rosenberg", you will find many videos on NVC / Compassionate Communication.

Center for Nonviolent Communication: A group that helps to spread Compassionate Communication around the world: www.cnvc.org

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Social awareness & presence

Needs a location

Come share your experience and ideas around communication, social awareness, and presence. Bonus, we all level up and enjoy connecting with like-minded people!

On the OUTDOOR PATIO area. Worst case (weather or space), we'll be inside either upstairs or down. Check here again when you arrive, in case of changes due to weather or available space. Look for a blue banner at the table.

(1) PLEASE READ ENTIRE DESCRIPTION BEFORE YOU COME! IT WILL SAVE YOU TIME & EMBARRASSMENT.
(2) RSVP & UPDATE IF YOUR PLANS CHANGE. IT'S IMPORTANT!
(3) DONATIONS ENCOURAGED BUT NOT REQUIRED.

SCHEDULE

Please SHOW UP ON TIME and LEAVE WHENEVER YOU LIKE. If you show up late, time may not allow catching you up. Also, PLEASE CONSIDER one thing we practice is being authentic and vulnerable, so a person showing up 20 minutes late might impede free sharing and at least require re-introduction. If no one RSVPs or shows up after 15-20 minutes of start time, Scott may leave/cancel. If you RSVP and your plans change, change your status here. If you do not, you get two chances before you will be removed from the group.

We practice "Practical Empathy"; based Scott's book of that name (https://peakd.com/c/hive-180595), which is based on NVC (Nonviolent Communication) and "cognitive" empathy which increases our understanding of ourselves and others. Bonus: Can lead to "affective" (emotional) empathy becoming easier to understand and accept. Reading the above books is encouraged but NOT required.

PLEASE NOTE: The group has "PLAY" in the title for a reason. While there is serious talk and some learning of use of tools for empathy, etc., there is humor in the group, so if you have a low value for humor or you get easily offended, you may wish to pass on this group.

WHAT WE DO

We eat and drink while getting to know each other. We may chat a bit, philosophize, practice empathy, analyze situations presented by attendees, and/or play games designed to increase emotional intelligence and create deeper connection.

Depending on general group curiosity/desire to learn some of the actual structure of NVC/Practical Empathy (PE), Scott MAY give a 10 minute talk on the basics of PE or some specific point. However, we are moving away from quite as much focus on "the tool" of how we empathize. Scott will be using it himself as an example and welcomes any NVC users to do so, as well. NVC and EQ "experts" are still welcome to come practice their empathy and it's a guarantee they will have many opportunities!

RESOURCES

See the mobile/desktop versions of the physical card game we play most at the group: https://EmpathyBot.net (EB). Especially useful for the online meetings. EB is an a.i. Scott created that can help learn and practice empathy! A cheap Android version and a free version are available. That and buy the physical deck at https://ClearSay.net or in person.

More:

  • Many free NVC-related resources are at https://ClearSay.net, including videos of classes, fun instructional animations Scott created, and articles.
  • Scott's book, Practical Empathy: https://clearsay.net/get-the-book-practical-empathy
  • Book that started it all: https://tinyurl.com/r64m25tt

OTHER SOURCES

Larken Rose: The Most Dangerous Superstition, Buddhism & Taoism, Four Agreements, Alfie Kohn: Punished by Rewards, 7 Habits of Highly Effective People, Becky Bailey: Conscious Discipline, et al. Topics we discuss may include romantic, parenting, friendship, and business relationships.

Also: the importance of objective observance, needs/wants/values/motives, feelings, the difference between feelings and thoughts, the difference between needs/wants/values and strategies, how to choose words so others really hear us, and how to more deeply understand others.

Also: practice of turning our NVC-style empathy into phrases that sound more natural and are less likely to stimulate defensiveness or vomiting.

Hope to see you there :-)

Related groups:
https://www.meetup.com/austin-professionals-and-entrepreneurs
https://www.meetup.com/VoluntaryAustin

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