What we're about

NOTE: Facilitators reserve the right to interrupt, guide, etc. in order to keep the group as enjoyable, productive, and safe as possible for all who attend.

94.8% based on the book "Nonviolent Communication - A Language of Life" by Marshall Rosenberg, PhD. We playfully explore communication to grow in:

- Knowing ourselves and others. We learn to understand our values, needs, and feelings.

- Being real. Often times we might really want to say something, but don't know how to say it in a way that others will be okay with. Compassionate Communication (the non-copyrighted term for Nonviolent Communication) helps to give suggestions on how to connect with other people, while not giving up ourselves in the process.

- Getting our needs met. Some people ignore their needs. Other people blast right through everyone to get what they want. Compassionate Communication helps people to ask in a way that gets more yes's, while helping others to get their yes's too.

- Cracking the tough nuts. Not just people, but also our understandings of anger, praise, love, responsibility, judgment, and more.

- Enjoying life. Compassionate Communication helps us to enjoy ourselves and others more.

- Learning how these tools can be applied in business environments, including day-to-day office communication, mediation, and negotiation.

Resources:

Get the physical card game we play at most meetups: https://www.clearsay.net/play-to-evolve.asp

Get the mobile game for increasing your EQ. We play it at most of the meetups: https://ClearSay.net/mobile

Videos, animations, and articles showing NVC / Practical Empathy in action (This is a website created by the group's founder, Scott Swain): http://ClearSay.net/videos.asp (http://clearsay.net/videos.asp). The site is also a resource for Voluntaryism, peaceful parenting, and unschooling. Scott's bio: https://ClearSay.net/bio.asp

Our Facebook page: https://www.facebook.com/groups/ClearSayNVC... (https://www.facebook.com/groups/ClearSayNVC/)

Our Telegram group: https://t.me/nvc_n_pet

YouTube: If you look up "Center for Nonviolent Communication" or "Marshall Rosenberg", you will find many videos on Compassionate Communication.

Center for Nonviolent Communication- Founded by Marshall B. Rosenberg, it's a group that helps to spread Compassionate Communication around the world: http://www.cnvc.org

Recommended books here: https://www.clearsay.net/parenting.asp

Upcoming events (5+)

The Power of the Eyes

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This week we will be talking about how what we "see" in our relationship with someone can get us in trouble, and how to use our eyes to keep the relationship strong. The event series description: Come and explore how to get your heart understood by others, and how to hear others' hearts as well. This meetup is based on the ideas listed in the book "Nonviolent Communication: A Language of Life" by Marshall B. Rosenberg. Topics regularly talked about are- the importance of human needs, what's in a feeling?, appreciation vs praise, asking for what we want, the power of the eyes (observation), hearing others, and keeping inner peace. *PLEASE RSVP* (And update if your plans change.) We are in the café. Look for the sign with our group name on it. This is a free event, but we also welcome donations. Hope to see you there. :)

Games Night

Central Market Cafe - Central (N. Lamar location)

Learn how to go deeper in relationships while playing games. We will be inside Central Market's cafe. Look for the sign with our group name on it. Folks are welcome to pop in any time, for any amount of time, between 7-9:30pm. * PLEASE RSVP * (And update if your plans change.) Hope to see you there. :)

Practical Empathy Exploration & Practice

Thunderbird Coffee

Come level up your communication free and connect with like-minded people! (1) PLEASE READ THIS ENTIRE DESCRIPTION BEFORE YOU COME! IT WILL SAVE YOU TIME & POTENTIAL EMBARRASSMENT. (2) RSVP AND UPDATE IF YOUR PLANS CHANGE. IT'S IMPORTANT! WHAT WE DO We eat and drink while getting to know each other, chat, practice empathy, and play games designed to increase emotional intelligence and create deeper connection. Reading Nonviolent Communication (NVC) is encouraged but not required. Not required: Check out the phone app version of the game we play most at the group: https://EmpathyBot.net. The physical deck version can be found at https://ClearSay.net. IMPORTANT If you have no knowledge of NVC, please utilize some of the resources available. The book: https://tinyurl.com/readnvc and/or you can find many free NVC-related resources at https://ClearSay.net, including videos of the author (MR) doing classes, animations I've (Scotter) created, and many articles. Thunderbird has $3 beers on Thursdays. Food: There are a few vegan and gluten free options. I'm pushing for them to include more gluten free and low carb options because their sammiches rock! BALANCE OF STRUCTURE & FREE FLOW OF IDEAS I try to balance things so that people wanting structure get as much of what they want as people wanting free flow of ideas. This group is for you as much as it is for I. So I'm OPEN TO FEEDBACK, CALLING ME OUT IF MY BEHAVIOR CONTRADICTS THE PRINCIPLES OF NVC, OR YOU WANT TO DISCUSS WAYS YOU BELIEVE NVC TO NOT WORK AS YOU WOULD LIKE. I'm super conscious of how much time we have in any given session, so I encourage brevity as well as giving the system benefit of the doubt, especially when you are a beginner. Some beginners in NVC happen to be experts in some related field like psychology, can use much of the group's time by asking for a defence of the NVC principles/use that the majority are there to learn. Similar to someone walking into a Spanish class and wanting to criticize Spanish and teach French. SOURCES Based 95.6% on the book Nonviolent Communication (NVC) by Marshall Rosenberg. Influenced by many others, including Byron Katie, various books on Buddhism & Taoism, Four Agreements, Punished by Rewards by Alfie Kohn, Stephen Covey (7 Habits of Highly Effective People), Becky Bailey (Conscious Discipline), et al. Topics we regularly talk about include romantic relationships, parenting, friendship, and business relationships. Also, the importance of objective observation, needs/values (needs) we all have in common, feelings, the difference between feelings and thoughts, the difference between needs/values and strategies, how to choose words so others really hear us, and how to more deeply understand others. We've started adding in practice of turning our NVC-style empathy into phrases that sound more natural and are less likely to stimulate defensiveness or vomitting. SCHEDULE Folks are welcome to pop in any time, for any amount of time, between 7pm to 7:30pm. Warning that if you show up after 7:15pm, while we may want to catch you up, time may not allow. Scott usually gets there early to find a good spot, eat, and chat with early-comers. ** PLEASE RSVP ** and update if your plans change. Free event. Come and leave when you want. If no one RSVPs or if no one shows up by 7:31pm, there is no guarantee Scott will show up or stick around. Thunderbird closes at 10pm. From 9pm to 10pm, if we stay that late, we'll have open discussion and/or more intimate empathy practice. If you want to be part of this, show up at least before 7:45pm. It can be hard for some to feel comfortable and safe sharing personal issues with strangers. Hope to see you there :-)

Love Talk

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Come and explore how to get your heart understood by others, and how to hear others' hearts as well. This meetup is based on the ideas listed in the book "Nonviolent Communication: A Language of Life" by Marshall B. Rosenberg. Topics regularly talked about are- the importance of human needs, what's in a feeling?, appreciation vs praise, asking for what we want, the power of the eyes (observation), hearing others, and keeping inner peace. *PLEASE RSVP* (And update if your plans change.) We are in the café. Look for the sign with our group name on it. This is a free event, but we also welcome donations. Hope to see you there. :)

Past events (379)

Practical Empathy Exploration & Practice

Thunderbird Coffee

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