What we're about

Here is a chance to meet thoughtful people who feel passionately about the deep and meaningful things in life. The group invites like-minded people to engage in lively discussion on a broad range of intellectual topics. Everyone is welcome - just bring your point of view and willingness to share it in a spirit of open mindedness, and a sense of humour.

If you are just looking for a good argument, this group is not for you. If you are craving some good conversation and want to communicate and learn from other people's perspectives, please join us. We attempt to:

- actively listen, consider and respond rather than react. Pauses in the discussion are valuable, giving participants time to reflect;

- keep an open mind. Do not fixate exclusively on your own points of view;

- if possible, vary your content to mix first-hand (personal experience) with second-hand (facts/stats) knowledge;

- balance 'deep and serious' content with 'light and interesting' dialogue. We like to have fun too;

- stay invested in the conversation, even when you don’t agree with what is being said;

- we value your presence but ask that all participants switch their mobile phones to “Airplane Mode” for the duration of the meetup... swipe up or down on your phone to display the controls, then tap the airplane symbol. Using your phone as a notepad for ideas is fine.

The primary focus of this group is to meet face to face – it is not an online discussion group. Any online communication should be as part of the meetup preparation or follow-up.

At the end of each meetup we discuss potential topics for future meetups. We avoid topics that are based on "belief" or "faith" There are other more suitable meetups if this is your bent. (For example, we would only ever discuss religion or spirituality in a sociological or psychological context.)

In Karangahape Rd we meet every second Thursday evening. The Hibiscus Coast and North Shore branches meetings vary. Please note that it is mandatory to order a drink and / or food to support the venue which is hosting us. A fifty cent (50c) donation at each meetup to cover Meetup fees will be appreciated.

Because it is not fair on those on a waiting list if a person RSVPs Yes, and then does not show up, we have a policy that if this happens twice, they will be banned from attending further D & M Meetups.

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Little Turkish Cafe

OUR CUSTOMS: - You must register and be on the “Attendees - Going” list to attend. - We meet UPSTAIRS at the Little Turkish Cafe. - Bring 50 cents to cover meetup costs. - Many of us stay around after the event and chat informally - it is a friendly group of interesting people and you are welcome to join us if you wish. OUR RSVP POLICY: - RSVPs and cancellations will be accepted up until 24 hours before the start of the meetup (ie, up until 6:15pm on Wednesday prior to the meetup). - Being registered to attend and not attending OR cancelling your attendance after 6:15pm on Wednesday will be considered a 'No Show'. - Members with two 'No Shows' will be banned from attending further D&M Meetups. This RSVP policy has become necessary due to the high number of last minute withdrawals and non-attendance which unfairly caused people on the waiting list to miss out. Topic: Atheism, Religion and Spirituality What do you believe in? How have these beliefs been generated and do you reassess them? Some definitions: • Atheism is the lack of belief in deities. Beyond that an atheist can believe in anything; • Religion is the service and worship of a supernatural god or gods; • Spirituality has many definitions. One is a connection to something non-material and bigger than ourselves, which involves a search for meaning. It is having your own experience rather than believing in someone else’s. Here is a brief, amusing article about extremism: https://www.nzherald.co.nz/lifestyle/news/article.cfm?c_id=6&objectid=11612527 Are your beliefs open to change? What would be required to change them?

Special Event: 'Ambisexuality' documentary world premier screening

Hi folks, On the odd occasion over the past two years, I have mentioned my academic work focusing on sociology and physics at Meetups. Finally, this work is coming to fruition. 'Ambisexuality', a book about sexual orientation, has now been published. To complement the book, a documentary is in the process of being made and is now at the stage where b-roll filming and editing are required to complete the project. The final stages of film production and readying the book for publication were largely responsible for me stepping back from D&M Meetup facilitation over the past six months. But I am looking forward to resuming this role again upon my return to Auckland. Why am I telling you this? Genevieve Cooper, the film's editor (7 News, Perth) , and I am currently working on a crowd funding project to help offset a small part of the heavy costs of producing the film documentary. Making a documentary is expensive. This film certainly doesn't have a long payroll like you would see in the credits of a Peter Jackson blockbuster, but the costs are considerable. These days, the way many film makers fund some of the production costs of making a documentary - and especially niche films like Ambisexuality - is through crowd funding. That's the approach I have taken. A crowd funding campaign was recently started seeking a total of $4,000 to pay for the final b-roll filming and editing costs of the film. Wendy and I have invested thousands of dollars in personal funds in this project... but to complete it we are looking for support from people who are intellectually curious, people who want to understand more about the pivotal role that sex and gender play in our lives, people who are interested in understanding minorities, and people who wish to support education, enlightenment and tolerance. This is where you come in. I don't expect people to put their hands in their pockets for no tangible benefit. I am big on reciprocity, so this is the plan. A special event Meetup has been scheduled on the topic of Ambisexuality for 7 November 2019. People attending this event will see the completed documentary at its premier screening. There will be a brief presentation on the research, followed by a Q&A session. A venue in central Auckland will be advised. Anyone who donates $15 or more to the crowd funding campaign will be eligible to attend. People who donate $20 or more will have their names listed on the film's funding credits (if attendance is received by 31 October), unless they prefer to remain anonymous. Those who have already contributed $15 or more, automatically qualify to attend the Ambisexuality Meetup; and no further contributions are required. We expect that the film will subsequently be selected for screening at film festival events around the world... but this Meetup event is the world premier. If you wish to attend this special Meetup event: 1. Sign up for the Meetup in the usual way, then 2. Click here to cross to my website, and then click the website's GoFundMe button. This will take you to the GoFundMe page where you can leave your donation. Please note: 1. In the interest of fairness, theatre seating will be preferentially allocated in accordance with the order in which funding donations are received. The faster you sign up and donate, the better seating choice you will have. 2. If you put your name down as attending but we cannot find a donation on the GoFundMe website, you will not be allowed to attend this Meetup. 3. If you wish to donate anonymously, please contact me directly through the Meetup website. We will agree on a code name for your GoFundMe donation which will secure your attendance. I am looking forward to this special occasion and hope to see you there.

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Little Turkish Cafe

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