What we're about

Here is a chance to meet thoughtful people who feel passionately about the deep and meaningful things in life. The group invites like-minded people to engage in lively discussion on a broad range of intellectual topics. Everyone is welcome - just bring your point of view and willingness to share it in a spirit of open mindedness, and a sense of humour.

If you are just looking for a good argument, this group is not for you. If you are craving some good conversation and want to communicate and learn from other people's perspectives, please join us. We attempt to:

- actively listen, consider and respond rather than react. Pauses in the discussion are valuable, giving participants time to reflect;

- keep an open mind and stay curious - seek first to understand before making assumptions and judging others;

- we seek to share our ideas and grow mutual understanding, rather than to convert others to our point of view;

- if possible, vary your content to mix first-hand (personal experience) with second-hand (facts/stats) knowledge;

- balance 'deep and serious' content with 'light and interesting' dialogue. We like to have fun too;

- stay invested in the conversation, even when you don’t agree with what is being said;

- we value your full presence and ask that all participants switch their mobile phones to “Airplane Mode” for the duration of the meetup. Using your phone as a notepad for ideas is fine;

- we are welcoming to new members and respectful of their ideas both in and around meetups.

The primary focus of this group is to meet face to face, either in real life or online – it is not an online messaging discussion group. Any online communication should be as part of the meetup preparation or follow-up.

We avoid topics that are based upon "belief" or "faith". There are other more suitable meetups if this is your area of interest. (For example, we would only ever discuss religion or spirituality in a sociological or psychological context.)

Please note that it is mandatory to order a drink and / or food to support the venue which is hosting us. We ask for a fifty cent (50c) donation at each meetup to cover Meetup and Zoom fees.

For online meetings:
- make sure that you are sitting in a quiet place
- if there is some unavoidable background noise, mute your microphone when you are not speaking
- enable the Do Not Disturb mode on your cellphone so that we don’t hear your messages and calls.
- use a headset or headphones if possible - this will improve sound quality for everyone.

Because it is not fair to those on a waiting list if a person RSVPs 'Yes', but then does not show up, a 'Two Strikes' rule will be applied. What this means is that if a member fails to show up twice or payment is not received in advance for two online meetups, they will be banned from attending further D & M Meetups. However, when the organising committee considers the possible banning of a long-term member who has had an otherwise good attendance record, 'no shows' recorded prior to 2 years ago will be disregarded.

This group has been going for many years now and we are proud of the culture we have created together. We look forward to seeing you there.

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The Oxford Dictionary defines gender as,
“Either of the two sexes (male and female), especially when considered with reference to social and cultural differences rather than biological ones. The term is also used more broadly to denote a range of identities that do not correspond to established ideas of male and female”.

What qualities make someone male or female? How should that be determined? The quandary of participation in sport is one area where this is now being challenged.

Here are two brief, amusing perspectives: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=s4LmozsVVgo&ab_channel=TheBabylonBee


Some people are born with chromosomal differences. Some have mixed genitalia. This excellent New Zealand documentary – Intersexion - explores the lives of the approximately one in 2,000 people born this way. The full documentary is available free from the library.

Here is a poignant and informative clip: https://www.nzonscreen.com/title/intersexion-2012

Perhaps most people have heard of male toxicity. What is female toxicity?

Johnny Depp vs Amber Heard.

#Me too.

“Men are the disposable sex”.

Are we discussing these issues in a fair and reasonable way?

Do we feel free to openly discuss them at all?

- You must register and be on the “Attendees - Going” list to attend.
- We meet UPSTAIRS at the Little Turkish Cafe.
-Please spend at least $10 on food and/or drink. This enables us to use their private room for free.
- Bring 50 cents to cover meetup costs.
- Many of us stay around after the event and chat informally - you are welcome to join us.

- RSVPs and cancellations will be accepted up until 24 hours before the start of the meetup (ie, up until 6:15pm on Wednesday prior to the meetup).
- Being registered to attend and not attending OR cancelling your attendance after 6:15pm on Wednesday will be considered a 'No Show'.
- Members with two 'No Shows' will be banned from attending further D&M Meetups.

This RSVP policy has become necessary due to the high number of last minute withdrawals and non-attendance which unfairly caused people on the waiting list to miss out. Thanks for your cooperation:)

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Democracy's uncertain future

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