About us
Here is a chance to meet thoughtful people who feel passionately about the deep and meaningful things in life. The group invites like-minded people to engage in lively discussion on a broad range of intellectual topics. Everyone is welcome - just bring your point of view and willingness to share it in a spirit of open mindedness, and a sense of humour.
If you are just looking for a good argument, this group is not for you. If you are craving some good conversation and want to communicate and learn from other people's perspectives, please join us. We attempt to:
- actively listen, consider and respond rather than react. Pauses in the discussion are valuable, giving participants time to reflect;
- keep an open mind and stay curious - seek first to understand before making assumptions and judging others;
- we seek to share our ideas and grow mutual understanding, rather than to convert others to our point of view;
- if possible, vary your content to mix first-hand (personal experience) with second-hand (facts/stats) knowledge;
- balance 'deep and serious' content with 'light and interesting' dialogue. We like to have fun too;
- stay invested in the conversation, even when you don’t agree with what is being said;
- we value your full presence and ask that all participants switch their mobile phones to “Airplane Mode” for the duration of the meetup. Using your phone as a notepad for ideas is fine;
- we are welcoming to new members and respectful of their ideas both in and around meetups.
The primary focus of this group is to meet face to face, either in real life or online – it is not an online messaging discussion group. Any online communication should be as part of the meetup preparation or follow-up.
We avoid topics that are based upon "belief" or "faith". There are other more suitable meetups if this is your area of interest. (For example, we would only ever discuss religion or spirituality in a sociological or psychological context.)
Please note that it is mandatory to order a drink and / or food to support the venue which is hosting us. We ask for a $1 donation at each meetup to cover Meetup and Zoom fees.
For online meetings: - make sure that you are sitting in a quiet place - if there is some unavoidable background noise, mute your microphone when you are not speaking
- enable the Do Not Disturb mode on your cellphone so that we don’t hear your messages and calls. - use a headset or headphones if possible - this will improve sound quality for everyone.
Because it is not fair to those on a waiting list if a person RSVPs 'Yes', but then does not show up, a 'Two Strikes' rule will be applied. What this means is that if a member fails to show up twice or payment is not received in advance for two online meetups, they will be banned from attending further D & M Meetups. However, when the organising committee considers the possible banning of a long-term member who has had an otherwise good attendance record, 'no shows' recorded prior to 2 years ago will be disregarded.
This group has been going for many years now and we are proud of the culture we have created together. We look forward to seeing you there.
Upcoming events
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PLEASURE
Little Turkish Cafe, 217 Karangahape Road, Auckland, NZPLEASURE
“The pursuit of pleasure does not lead to happiness. It leads to rehab”. Psychology professor Arthur Brooks.In ancient Athens, the philosopher Epicurus said that the exercise of reason meant placing pleasure as the highest goal. This state included mental balance and the absence of pain. He warned against over-indulgence as it often led to pain. Epicurus argued that fear is the greatest obstacle to happiness. In a highly stratified and sexist society, his school admitted both women and slaves.
For centuries, poets such as Horace, Lucretius, and Virgil helped spread this message. Epicureanism vied with Stoicism for the hearts and minds of elites. Seneca and other Stoics advised that people should focus instead on virtue, self-discipline, and public works. As authority shifted to the Roman Empire, this appealed more to their conservative and expansionist views.
Let’s discuss the roles of reason, pleasure, delayed gratification, and the current interest in Stoicism.
For a modern take on pleasure, satisfaction, reward, and their neuroscience: https://www.psychologytoday.com/nz/blog/deconstructing-illness/202112/happiness-vs-pleasure-the-source-our-discontent
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CUSTOMS:
You must register and be on the “Attendees - Going” list to attend.
Minimum spend of $10 at the cafe on food and/or drink. This enables us to have free use of their private room.We meet UPSTAIRS at the Little Turkish Cafe. Please arrive early to order food and/or drink before you join us. Several people arrive early and eat downstairs before the Meetup. You are welcome to join us.
Bring $1 to cover Meetup costs.RSVP POLICY:
RSVPs and cancellations will be accepted up until 6 hours before the start of the meetup so that people who feel unwell on the day have time to change their RSVP and allow someone else to attend.Being registered to attend and not attending OR cancelling your attendance after 12:30pm on Tuesday will be considered a 'No Show'.
Members with two 'No Shows' will be banned from attending further D&M Meetups. This RSVP policy has become necessary due to the high number of last minute withdrawals and non-attendance. This unfairly causes people on the Waiting List to miss out. Thanks for your cooperation.
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