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On this 12-hour Foundation Training in Nonviolent Communication (NVC) you will learn the principles underlying NVC which offer a paradigm-shift in the habitual ways people relate to each other. And you will have the opportunity to apply them, using examples from your home or work life, in practising the 3 modes of NVC: * calming yourself down when you’re niggled, upset, angry or worried * empathising with (listening to understand) another person * speaking clearly, respectfully and assertively using observations, feelings, needs and specific requests You will be invited to work with your own examples of difficult conversations, interactions and feelings in a safe way by doing sharing and listening activities in pairs and small groups and sometimes reflecting individually. More info & booking: https://www.empathymatters.net/foundation-training Course outline: Session 1 What’s the purpose of NVC? Basic premises of NVC The importance of intention Needs vs strategies (key distinction) What gets in the way of compassionate communication with others & ourselves? The thinking & language of judging and blaming Using our emotional intelligence to translate judgments into feelings and needs Session 2 How might we listen to each other in a way that creates connection? Empathy skills: presence, recapping, tuning in to emotions and needs What are our choices in responding to difficult-to-hear messages? Bringing awareness and emotional intelligence to our options in any moment Session 3 What kind of listening within me will help when I’m challenged or when I simply want to check in with what’s happening in me? Practising self-empathy How can I prepare for a ‘difficult’ conversation Making observations vs evaluating, interpreting, judging (key distinction) Empathy for myself & the other Session 4 What gets in the way of honest self-expression? How might I ask for what I want without demanding and without holding back? Making requests vs demands (key distinction) Dialogue practise: asking honestly and vulnerably for what I’d like and empathising with a dreaded response You will receive a certificate of completion at the end of the training. The Foundation training is a pre-requisite for the London Intermediate programme and other further trainings in Nonviolent Communication Due to Covid19, this training will be online in the following sessions: Saturday 17th October 9.30am – 1pm Sunday 18th October 9.30am – 1pm Saturday 24th October 9.30am – 1pm Sunday 25th October 9.30am – 1pm Each session includes a half hour break More info & booking: https://www.empathymatters.net/foundation-training Financial contribution I offer a scale in acknowledgment that disposable incomes vary. I ask you to hold and consider equally care for yourself and me when deciding what to pay. Here are some guidelines to help: Individual rates (if you are paying for the training from your own pocket): If you earn more than £30,000 before tax: £220 If you earn between £20,000-£30,000 before tax: £190 If you earn less than £20,000 before tax: £160 Concessions available: if any of the above prices would prevent you from coming, please contact me. Self-employed rates (if you work for yourself): If you earn more than £30,000 before tax and after your business expenses have been deducted: £220 If you earn between £20,000-£30,000 before tax and after your business expenses have been deducted: £190 If you earn less than £20,000 before tax and after your business expenses have been deducted: £160 I am happy to accept your estimate of the above amounts and I don’t ask for proof. Organisational rates: please see my website for suggested rates
"This online NVC course is perfect. I highly recommend Daren’s course, he perfectly balances NVC theory and practice and is flexible and attentive to the group’s needs. Our group was smaller than you might find in an “in person” setting which added to the intimacy and trust of the experience. I value this experience very highly, the lessons learned are lasting and a great introduction to the practice of NVC." - Maria Sbiti, participant on Daren's April 2020 online NVC foundation training "The Foundation NVC course with Daren De Witt is the first course I’ve ever done where the learning that has happened within me is a certainty. Yes I will have to practise but, even if I didn’t, my awareness around language cannot now be undone. The course truly exceeded my expectations. A huge bonus was the course being split over two weekends. The opportunity this created to live the practice was invaluable. To top it off, the online setting seemed only to enhance our experience and the bond between us, something we could not have predicted." – Alia James, participant on Daren's April 2020 online NVC foundation training NVC FOUNDATION TRAINING OVERVIEW This Nonviolent Communication Online Foundation Training will equip you with the essential theory and skills to put NVC into practice in your daily life, at work, at home or in society. The emphasis on the training is on learning through practice, with sufficient theoretical input to clarify the basic elements of NVC. You will receive a certificate of attendance at the end of the training. Sessions will also be recorded and available to download afterwards. NB. This training is advertised on several websites, so for availability & to enrol please contact Daren via his website (link immediately below). It won't be sufficient to click 'attending' on this meetup page. https://nvc-resolutions.co.uk/nonviolent-communication-training-course-workshops-london/ FACILITATOR The training is facilitated by Daren De Witt, a certified trainer with the Centre for Nonviolent Communication (CNVC) since 2003. Daren trained extensively with Marshall Rosenberg, the creator of NVC, & was part of his support team on his visits to the UK between 2001 and 2006. PROGRAMME OUTLINE The training will take place online on Zoom over 4 mornings on Saturdays and Sundays spanning two weekends. There will be basic theory input and practice exercises which evolve from simpler to more challenging as the training progresses. Daren & his assistant, Pauline Doohan, will provide coaching support throughout the training. SESSION ONE : Sat 24th Oct 9.30am-1.45pm (includes 3.75 hours training time & 30 mins total break time) - Introductions - The intention of NVC - Four key steps to creating empathic connection SESSION TWO : Sun 25th Oct 9.30am-1.30pm (includes 3.5 hours training time & 30 mins total break time) - Disconnecting language - Four ways of listening & responding to others - Four key ingredients of NVC SESSION THREE : Sat 31st Oct 9.30am-1.30pm (includes 3.5 hours training time and 30 mins total break time) - Self-empathy exploration - Extended empathy practice SESSION FOUR : Sun 1st Nov 9.30am-3.30pm (includes 5 hours training time & 60 mins total break time) - Each participant will have a session of 30 mins max, during which you will have the opportunity to work through a conflict scenario with either Daren or Pauline's support. - We will finish with a 30 min session, during which Daren's will share other options for following up with NVC and we will have a check out round in the group. PRICES AND BOOKING Prices range from £160-£300. For more info, costs and to book, please visit the NVC Public Workshops page of Daren's website: https://nvc-resolutions.co.uk/nonviolent-communication-training-course-workshops-london/ NB. This training is being advertised on several websites, so for availability & to enrol please contact Daren via his website. It won't be sufficient to click 'attending' on this meetup page.
What's an on-going closed group? People who’ve done at least a Foundation Training in NVC join for a round of 5 sessions (meeting monthly) with the opportunity to continue after that. Once a round of 5 has started people can't join until the next intake. This format allows you to meet with the same people over time, which helps to build trust, safety and community. There are about 9 members, some of whom are new and others who’ve been there for a couple of years or more. So you’ll be joining an established group that shifts and changes over time. We will give you are warm welcome :-) There are 2 in-takes per year in Feb and Sept. What are the sessions like? Each session usually has a theme, some input and a specific exercise to practice, in pairs, threes or the whole group. There is an ongoing invitation to suggest topics and ways to practise, for example, self-empathy processes, NVC kinaesthetic ‘dance-floors’, role-plays, inquiries. The group is also a space where you can be heard with empathy for your personal struggles. We want to support each other to embody and live NVC. I've been running NVC groups since 2014 and we have always met in the home of one of the members. We continue to do so as I've found participants enjoy the relaxed and homely atmosphere. As a result, the location of each group shifts from time to time and there is an opportunity for you to host the group if you’d enjoy that. Who's hosting? Cath is a certified NVC trainer with CNVC, the global organisation founded by Marshall Rosenberg to support the learning and sharing of NVC for personal healing, peaceful and effective dialogue, and collaboration in organisations. Dates? TBC in consultation with the group: 5 Saturdays monthly from Feb to June / 12.30pm to 3.30pm Where? Currently online Financial contribution I have a sliding scale and ask for payment in advance for 5 sessions: £250-£100 for the weekend groups I ask you to consider your and my needs for sustainability, giving and receiving when choosing what to give me. I offer a scale in acknowledgment that disposable incomes vary. I ask you to hold and consider equally care for yourself and me when making your decision. I work two days as a teacher in a Further Education College, am paying a mortgage and don’t have dependents. My NVC work is taxable income. Interested? Let me know: [masked] More details: https://www.empathymatters.net/deepening-and-practice-groups Testimonial “I really enjoy belonging to the ongoing group lead by Cath and find it really supportive to my practice. The regularity of the sessions keeps my practice alive, and sustains momentum. I also find Cath to be very warm and welcoming to what is alive, as well as a skilled facilitator and practitioner – she provides content which I find new, fresh, practical and useful. It is like a mini workshop, but with continuity of people, opportunity to practice together in safe space, and also the content of which we can collectively choose. I find practicing with this group, ably lead by Cath and with some committed regulars for a few hours a month really supports my learning, and keeps NVC alive for me, in an efficient way.” Sue
This is to follow up with Stephanie's offer on Monday 18th Jan to experiment with Empathy Partners. This is a meetup without date. So all the messages and things should work when people rsvp, so people can 'find' each other and leave an open message with what you would like to receive / offer. Leaving the rest intentionally blank! At our recent practice group on the topic of empathy we discussed a little about the benefits of empathy sessions and empathy buddies/partners after doing some exercises. Two models of how that could look were mentioned. • One is for empathy partners to meet at a regular agreed place and time and each shares for up to 15 minutes while the other listens empathically. You might wish to agree with the listener whether they feed back while you share or just listen silently, whatever works best for you at that time. • Another option is a more informal, as and when required arrangement, where a meetup or phone call/skype is requested when either partner feels that an empathy session might be useful. If forming an empathy partnership might be something you would like to explore, try out or comment on, this forum hopefully provides an opportunity to do that. You are warmly invited to participate, regardless of whether you attended the practice group meeting. When expressing an interest in having an empathy buddy/partner it would be useful to include the following details in your message or comment: 1) Whether you prefer regular scheduled times or more ad hoc arrangements 2) What time of the day and which days you might be available and how frequently you might like to meet/contact 3) Whether you prefer telephone/skype/face to face/email or other kinds of sessions 4) If you have specific language/gender/accessibility/geographical or other preferences 5) You can swap contact details in a private message to someone you might wish to engage with as an empathy partner rather than posting them publicly here Hopefully this can start an empathy ball rolling. We will try to remember to mention it again at further practice group sessions also. Many thanks