What we’re about
This group is for single people in their 30’s & 40's looking for friends and/or a healthier way to date. It’s difficult to get to know people at this age, especially when you’re single. We hope to create fun, easy going events to help. This isn’t a dating group per se (though relationships happen ;) ... it’s for people who genuinely want to make real life connections.
Community Rules:
- 1. Everyone aged 28-49 are welcome to join.
- 2. Be respectful and kind.
- 3. Be honest and transparent.
- 4. Self-awareness and maturity are expected.
- 5. Do not touch anyone at events without explicit verbal consent from that person.
- 6. No harassing or overly negative, aggressive, or forward behavior.
- 7. Instead of asking for someone’s number, please give them yours instead so they can decide whether or not to contact you.
- 8. Do not direct message members you don't know.
- 9. Discrimination of any kind will not be tolerated. All races, genders, sexual orientations, and lifestyles are welcome.
- 10. Our group is “sex positive” meaning we promote an open, tolerant, and progressive attitude toward consensual sex and sexuality. Shaming will not be tolerated.
- 11. Enthusiastic, verbal consent is mandatory for any physical/romantic interactions.
- 12. Make sure to change your RSVP to "no" if you can no longer attend an event. If you no-show to 2+ events (leaving your RSVP as "yes" and not showing up) you will be removed from the group.
- 13. Members must use their real name (not a pseudonym) and a photo with their face in their Meetup profile. This helps many people feel safer coming to events.
PLEASE READ OUR NEW GROUP RULES AND MISCONDUCT POLICY HERE
**If you feel like a fellow group member has violated one of these rules or made you feel uncomfortable, please let the event host or another organizer (like Kristina, Max or Erin) know as soon as possible.**
Other Rules:
- Promoting your business, soliciting members, and/or trying to sell products or services to members is prohibited. This includes promoting dating and relationship services or events that are not affiliated with our group.
- Anyone with sexual offense or violent criminal convictions are not welcome in our group. If it's reported that someone has a sexual or violent criminal history they will be removed from the group. If you know of someone in who has joined our group that is a sex offender please notify our organizers immediately so we can remove them. All reports will stay anonymous.
- Some events require you to provide your own equipment and supplies (like camping and floating). You must have the basic listed items to attend and the group does not provide them. So please do not RSVP or attend if you do not have your own supplies.
- If you wish to bring a pet, child, or someone under 21 to an event, please ask the event host first.
- Any member that is rude to other members or venue staff will be banned from the group.
Group Costs:
- To help with group and event expenses I ask for a $2-3 donation for each event you attend unless it has an event fee. You can contribute on Venmo (@PDX_SINGLES) or pay an organizer at the event.
- Our dating "wristband" events and dating workshops have ticket fees.
Age Requirements:
If you are over 28 then you are welcome to join. The upper limit for joining our group is 49. Existing active members may remain in our group till the age of 53. The age limits are to keep everyone in a relatable life stage. Please do not join if you are outside these ages as we've had issues arise recently due generational differences and older men preying on significantly younger women. We do not make individual exceptions to the age the requirements so do not message to ask. If you disclose after you join that you are outside these ages you will be removed and banned from the group.
Harassment and Phishing:
Harassment, phishing, or spamming our members will not be tolerated and you will be removed from the group. That also includes messaging multiple members in an attempt to score a date/hook up. That is phishing and is grounds for removal. Please do not message members you do not already know. This makes people very uncomfortable and is considered predatory behavior. If you are a member and feel like another member is harassing you via direct messaging or in person at our events please notify Kristina, Max, Erin or another group organizer immediately.
We also have a zero tolerance policy for poor behavior at our events or on the online platform. This includes being too forward in asking people out and making them feel uncomfortable. If you ask someone out they do not give you an enthusiastic "yes" then move on and do not ask them out again. Please review our misconduct policy here.
Discord Server:
We have an active Discord server community that is a great way to interact with group member's outside of the events. To join the server you must be an attending member of our Meetup events by having attended at least 1 in person event. Join here: https://discord.gg/tn66X4Qdxv
Upcoming events (4+)
See all- Science Pub Portland: Strange Life in the Deep 🐙Oregon Museum of Science and Industry, Portland, OR
This event probably isn't for everybody, but whoever signs up is bound to have a bit in common. So if you're single and a little nerdy about science, nature, the ocean, cephalopods, or learning new things... join us!
Here's the blurb for the event: "Imagine spending your days in constant darkness, under crushing pressure, with little food and almost no oxygen. To humans, this seems deadly, but to deep-sea animals, this is everyday life. As it turns out, we don’t have to venture very far from Portland to enter an alien deep ocean world where animals glow to communicate, breathe without oxygen, and possess a suite of tools not just to survive, but thrive. In fact, the ability to live in harsh environments is extremely common on our planet – we just can’t always see it. In this talk, Dr. Lindgren will pull back the curtain and highlight some of the fun, strange, and amazing creatures that thrive in a dynamic ecosystem that flourishes out of eyesight in the deep waters off the coast of Oregon."
Wait, what is this event? This will be a casual lecture in the (very cool) Empirical Theater at OMSI. I've been to one before and it was really interesting.
For more info on this event, go here.
Care to join us?
- Get your ticket ahead of time (the suggested donation is $8)
- Let's meet up at OMSI at 6:15 so we can grab seats together, get a drink/snack, and chat a bit before the presentation starts at 7. (If anyone wants to carpool, feel free to coordinate that in the comments.)
Any questions? Comment below or message me/Kristina.
- Trivia @ White Owl Social ClubWhite Owl Social Club, Portland, OR
Care to get to know some fellow single folks through your random knowledge of movies, history, food, science, sports, books, and music? Join us!
What to expect:
- This is Untapped Trivia, which is on paper and typically has some fun rounds with pictures and audio. It's also been voted Portland's best trivia for the last 3 years.
- We'll be on the patio, which is covered and has ample heaters when it's cold out. I'd suggest wearing/bringing layers.
- We'll meet at 6:15 so we can chat, get some drinks and/or food, and grab tables.
- The picnic table you sit at will become your trivia team. Teams can be up to 7 people.
- Trivia starts promptly at 7 pm (but do please show up at 6:15 if you can) and goes until about 9.
- This Meetup group is not hardcore about trivia. We're focused on having fun and getting to know folks on our team... not winning. Don't worry about getting an answer wrong or not knowing any answers.
Housekeeping:
- As always, let's make sure to be respectful to everyone and support the venue (please plan to order a few food/drink items) so they'll want to invite us back!
- Please keep your RSVP up to date and only sign up if you can come and meet us at 6:15 to help save tables — and ya know, grab a drink/food and socialize before trivia starts.
- Check in with Kristina or cross your name off the sign-in sheet when you arrive so you don't get marked as a no-show. We regularly remove people with 2+ no-shows from the group.
Any questions? Let me know in the comments or send me a message.
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Tips for making a connection at/after the event
- If you meet someone you'd like to get to know more outside of the Meetup (romantically or platonically), you can:
- >>> Give them your phone number (as opposed to asking for theirs), so the ball's in their court to text you later if they're also interested. You can do this in person, or via a Meetup message if their settings allow you to message them.
- >>> Add them as a "connection" on Meetup after the event. If they add you too, you'll definitely be able to message each other. You can add 3 connections after an event (without ever paying for Meetup+). Learn more here.
- Check your privacy/messaging settings to see if they're how you want them. You can set it to only allow "connections" and group organizers to message you, or to let all members of your groups message you.
- Make sure to follow the Community Rules in this group's About section. These include no harassing or aggressive behavior, no messaging people you haven't met, and being respectful to fellow members and bartenders, trivia hosts, etc. If anyone violates these rules or makes you feel uncomfortable, please let the event host (like Kristina) know or reach out to another group organizer (like Max, Kevin, Cory or Erin).
- MXPDX: Fiesta de la CervezaRedd on Salmon Street, Portland, OR
MXPDX will team 13 breweries from Central Mexico with 13 Oregon breweries/cideries to create original collaborations for the festival. Additionally, the festival will import beers from each Mexican craft brewery. A total of 26 beers and/or cider/mead will be featured at the event with brewers from each team in attendance.
MXPDX is not just a brewfest! There will be a wide range of authentic Mexican food from PNW kitchens, as well as arts, vendors, live music, entertainment, and much more.
This event will sell out! I went to Fuji to Hood last year and it was one of the best festivals I’ve ever been to. For tickets Tickets
Please note: Festivals are difficult to organize. I will do my best to coordinate meeting points but I want to enjoy the festival as well so once the festival gets started, I will not be responsible for everyone’s whereabouts. I encourage everyone to explore all of the awesome events the festival has to offer.
Please drink responsibly and plan on ride sharing or public transportation. You get 10 drink tickets and they have hefty pours!
Everyone will start on the waitlist
