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What we’re about

Eyeliner, drawn. Mascara, done. & Lastly, Lipstick added. The San Francisco Lipstick Lesbians meet-up is for the Bay Area lipstick lesbian, femme women, "chapstick" lesbian, bisexual women, queer women, and trans women community. This private, nonprofit meetup centers femme queer women and serves as a women-focused queer space.

Group Rules & Expectations:

  • A private meetup for femme queer women, including lipstick lesbians, femme women, chapstick lesbians, bisexual women, queer women, questioning women and trans women.
  • Queer Women-focused, inclusive of both single women and those in relationships (committed or open).
  • Designed for friendship, networking, and dating within the queer women's community.

Membership Requirements:

  • Must be 21+, femme-woman-identifying, and local (Bay Area/Northern California).
  • Profile must include:
    • A clear headshot (only of you, for recognition at events).
    • Your real first name is preferred; a nickname is allowed.
  • Meetup is private—only members can view photos and profiles.

Events & Attendance:

  • All our events are private unless otherwise stated
  • Monthly cocktail/mocktail meetups (usually on Saturdays, 6-9 PM, in SF bars).
  • Some events allow women-identified guests, while others are members-only.
  • Many attendees are first-timers and often come solo.
  • RSVP rules:
    • You must RSVP "YES" to attend. No-shows or failure to update your RSVP may result in removal. Please be courteous and change your RSVP to "NO" if you can no longer attend.
    • After 3 no-shows, membership will be revoked.

Community Guidelines:

  • No unsolicited private messages to members.
  • No taking photos or snapshots of members.
  • No event promotions (both personal and external).
  • No public promotion of meetup events on social media.
  • Zero tolerance for hate, violence, harassment, stalking, xenophobia, transphobia, biphobia, and/or drama or toxicity.
  • Membership can be revoked at the organizer’s discretion.

Additional Notes:

  • Some events allow a woman-identified guest, but if space is limited, we will note any restrictions in the event details. Please be courteous and follow the instructions provided in the event postings.
  • Most events are free, but some may have a door fee, which will always be noted in the event postings.
  • Inactive members may be removed by Meetup’s system. Members should check the platform periodically to stay active.

Looking forward to meeting you all!
Sophia A (Organizer)
Jin K (Co-Organizer)