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*Online Only During the COVID-19 Situation*

The pandemic is making everything feel more intense. Loneliness, coupled with the desire to connect and the inclination to examine the things about themselves that they struggle with, is proving to be quite challenging and draining. Get some support by talking about it with people who can relate to what you’re going through.

“I thought that if I could go through my divorce and separation and recreate my life, simultaneously, I would be fine. Sure... I have grief. But, I’m working through my grief. I need to figure out how to stay connected to my community, not feel so isolated, and figure out how to have some form of dating. Issues keep coming up and I need a place to keep addressing them.”

Have you considered the learning you do in your relationships? My big question for you this New Year’s is what did the relationship that just ended teach you? What type of partners you are attracted to? What dynamics are you most commonly involved in? If you are deciding to leave, separated, or trying to recreate your life after a long relationship has ended wouldn’t it be worth it to work on yourself and figure it out through the parts of the patterns you get involved in? Maybe it’s time to use the relationship as a tool to transform the way you get involved with people.

There are openings in the Berkeley support group and there’s also a new San Francisco lunchtime group starting as soon as there are five people ready to gather.

After and during a separation process, people are trying to figure out how to compartmentalize what they are going through and be more themselves. A group is a great space to practice in.

Get the support you need to move forward, and heal yourself.

My group, “Divorce: Healing and Moving On,” focuses on envisioning what members want their lives to be like so they can move forward and create the life and relationships they want. This group will become a safe place for you to share these feelings without fear of judgment, as most group members are in a phase of trying to recreate their lives.

It can take 2-3 years to recover from divorce. You need to create a new identity, discover who you are as a single person, find a sense of belonging within your social circle and your community, and sometimes adjust to single parenthood. Change takes many forms: moving on, living separately from their partners, going through a legal process, starting to date, re-establishing a social life, or getting used to being alone.

In this support group, members will gain strategies, learn to cope, and begin to heal by relating to others in similar situations. Facilitated discussion and sharing of experiences within the group will help them gain insight, acceptance and self-awareness. The group focuses on examining all relationships. Members observe when they take similar roles in their relationships, choose the same types of people, and recreate similar situations. One of the stages of healing is working on the harm that was done in the relationship as well as being accountable for one’s part in the dynamic. Once the trauma of the separation has been worked through, the deeper work begins. The focus is placed on the individual and their relationship with themselves.

If members have kids, they have to re-learn how to deal with exes, shift communication styles, and become more formal and distant. It may be hard to create new boundaries with exes. The fighting may continue, or one may need more distance while the other does not.

While the emotional upheaval is at its worst, members may be dealing with lawyers and court appearances. This just adds to feelings of frustration, fear and vulnerability. Having group support makes a huge difference because it helps members transform those negative feelings into strength.

Divorce is the starting point and our goal for the group is to transform who members will become. They will meet people who want the right kind of support so you can get through this part of your separation together.

Group Details:

• 12-week initial commitment (you may continue after 12 weeks)
• Each session is $75
• Co-ed membership
• Berkeley Group: 5:30pm-7pm - Wednesdays

Email Susan for more information and to set up your intake appointment: susanmreganmft@gmail.com

More information is also available on our website (http://solutionstherapyandmediation.com/).

Upcoming events (5)

Berkeley Divorce: Healing and Moving On

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There is currently an opening for interested males participants in our Berkeley group starting in June. All my support groups are co-ed. I find that being inclusive of both gender perspectives yields better results for group members. That means I try to maintain some balance in terms of the numbers of male and females in a group. If the group you are interested in is full and you would like to be notified about available spaces when they come available, you can sign up for notifications here http://solutionstherapyandmediation.com/ Do you need a space to talk about what you’ve been tolerating in your relationship that has to do with your own inabilities to communicate? Do you want a safe space to work on this? ~~ My group, Divorce: Healing and Moving On, focuses on envisioning what members want their lives to be like so they can move forward and create the life and relationships they want. This group will become a safe place for you to share these feelings without fear of judgment, as most group members are in a phase of trying to recreate their lives. It can take 2-3 years to recover from divorce. You need to create a new identity, discover who you are as a single person, find a sense of belonging within your social circle and your community, and sometimes adjust to single parenthood. Change takes many forms: moving on, living separately from their partners, going through a legal process, starting to date, re-establishing a social life, or getting used to being alone. In this support group, you will gain strategies, learn to cope and begin to heal by relating to others in similar situations. Facilitated discussion and sharing of experiences within the group will help you gain insight, acceptance and self-awareness. The group focuses on examining all relationships. Members observe when they take similar roles in their relationships, choose the same types of people, and recreate similar situations. One of the stages of healing is working on the harm that was done in the relationship as well as being accountable for one’s part in the dynamic. Once the trauma of the separation has been worked through, the deeper work begins. The focus is placed on the individual and their relationship with themselves. Remember- the disorientation of divorce can last a long time, and the process of finding your footing is not linear. There are days when you feel grounded and secure. Then a trigger can lead to a fresh wave of grief, anger and confusion. If you have kids, you have to re-learn how to deal with your ex, shift communication styles, and become more formal and distant. It may be hard to create new boundaries with your ex. The fighting may continue, or one of you may need more distance while the other does not. While the emotional upheaval is at its worst, you may be dealing with lawyers and court appearances. This just adds to feelings of frustration, fear and vulnerability. Having group support makes a huge difference because it helps you transform those negative feelings into strength. Divorce is the starting point and our goal for the group is to transform who members will become. You will meet people who want the right kind of support so you can get through this part of your separation together. Group Details: Co-ed membership Berkeley Group: 5:30pm - 7:00pm Wednesdays Intake therapy session required to join

Berkeley Divorce: Healing and Moving On

Location visible to members

There is currently an opening for interested males participants in our Berkeley group starting in June. All my support groups are co-ed. I find that being inclusive of both gender perspectives yields better results for group members. That means I try to maintain some balance in terms of the numbers of male and females in a group. If the group you are interested in is full and you would like to be notified about available spaces when they come available, you can sign up for notifications here http://solutionstherapyandmediation.com/ Do you need a space to talk about what you’ve been tolerating in your relationship that has to do with your own inabilities to communicate? Do you want a safe space to work on this? ~~ My group, Divorce: Healing and Moving On, focuses on envisioning what members want their lives to be like so they can move forward and create the life and relationships they want. This group will become a safe place for you to share these feelings without fear of judgment, as most group members are in a phase of trying to recreate their lives. It can take 2-3 years to recover from divorce. You need to create a new identity, discover who you are as a single person, find a sense of belonging within your social circle and your community, and sometimes adjust to single parenthood. Change takes many forms: moving on, living separately from their partners, going through a legal process, starting to date, re-establishing a social life, or getting used to being alone. In this support group, you will gain strategies, learn to cope and begin to heal by relating to others in similar situations. Facilitated discussion and sharing of experiences within the group will help you gain insight, acceptance and self-awareness. The group focuses on examining all relationships. Members observe when they take similar roles in their relationships, choose the same types of people, and recreate similar situations. One of the stages of healing is working on the harm that was done in the relationship as well as being accountable for one’s part in the dynamic. Once the trauma of the separation has been worked through, the deeper work begins. The focus is placed on the individual and their relationship with themselves. Remember- the disorientation of divorce can last a long time, and the process of finding your footing is not linear. There are days when you feel grounded and secure. Then a trigger can lead to a fresh wave of grief, anger and confusion. If you have kids, you have to re-learn how to deal with your ex, shift communication styles, and become more formal and distant. It may be hard to create new boundaries with your ex. The fighting may continue, or one of you may need more distance while the other does not. While the emotional upheaval is at its worst, you may be dealing with lawyers and court appearances. This just adds to feelings of frustration, fear and vulnerability. Having group support makes a huge difference because it helps you transform those negative feelings into strength. Divorce is the starting point and our goal for the group is to transform who members will become. You will meet people who want the right kind of support so you can get through this part of your separation together. Group Details: Co-ed membership Berkeley Group: 5:30pm - 7:00pm Wednesdays Intake therapy session required to join

Berkeley Divorce: Healing and Moving On

Location visible to members

There is currently an opening for interested males participants in our Berkeley group starting in June. All my support groups are co-ed. I find that being inclusive of both gender perspectives yields better results for group members. That means I try to maintain some balance in terms of the numbers of male and females in a group. If the group you are interested in is full and you would like to be notified about available spaces when they come available, you can sign up for notifications here http://solutionstherapyandmediation.com/ Do you need a space to talk about what you’ve been tolerating in your relationship that has to do with your own inabilities to communicate? Do you want a safe space to work on this? ~~ My group, Divorce: Healing and Moving On, focuses on envisioning what members want their lives to be like so they can move forward and create the life and relationships they want. This group will become a safe place for you to share these feelings without fear of judgment, as most group members are in a phase of trying to recreate their lives. It can take 2-3 years to recover from divorce. You need to create a new identity, discover who you are as a single person, find a sense of belonging within your social circle and your community, and sometimes adjust to single parenthood. Change takes many forms: moving on, living separately from their partners, going through a legal process, starting to date, re-establishing a social life, or getting used to being alone. In this support group, you will gain strategies, learn to cope and begin to heal by relating to others in similar situations. Facilitated discussion and sharing of experiences within the group will help you gain insight, acceptance and self-awareness. The group focuses on examining all relationships. Members observe when they take similar roles in their relationships, choose the same types of people, and recreate similar situations. One of the stages of healing is working on the harm that was done in the relationship as well as being accountable for one’s part in the dynamic. Once the trauma of the separation has been worked through, the deeper work begins. The focus is placed on the individual and their relationship with themselves. Remember- the disorientation of divorce can last a long time, and the process of finding your footing is not linear. There are days when you feel grounded and secure. Then a trigger can lead to a fresh wave of grief, anger and confusion. If you have kids, you have to re-learn how to deal with your ex, shift communication styles, and become more formal and distant. It may be hard to create new boundaries with your ex. The fighting may continue, or one of you may need more distance while the other does not. While the emotional upheaval is at its worst, you may be dealing with lawyers and court appearances. This just adds to feelings of frustration, fear and vulnerability. Having group support makes a huge difference because it helps you transform those negative feelings into strength. Divorce is the starting point and our goal for the group is to transform who members will become. You will meet people who want the right kind of support so you can get through this part of your separation together. Group Details: Co-ed membership Berkeley Group: 5:30pm - 7:00pm Wednesdays Intake therapy session required to join

Berkeley Divorce: Healing and Moving On

Location visible to members

There is currently an opening for interested males participants in our Berkeley group starting in June. All my support groups are co-ed. I find that being inclusive of both gender perspectives yields better results for group members. That means I try to maintain some balance in terms of the numbers of male and females in a group. If the group you are interested in is full and you would like to be notified about available spaces when they come available, you can sign up for notifications here http://solutionstherapyandmediation.com/ Do you need a space to talk about what you’ve been tolerating in your relationship that has to do with your own inabilities to communicate? Do you want a safe space to work on this? ~~ My group, Divorce: Healing and Moving On, focuses on envisioning what members want their lives to be like so they can move forward and create the life and relationships they want. This group will become a safe place for you to share these feelings without fear of judgment, as most group members are in a phase of trying to recreate their lives. It can take 2-3 years to recover from divorce. You need to create a new identity, discover who you are as a single person, find a sense of belonging within your social circle and your community, and sometimes adjust to single parenthood. Change takes many forms: moving on, living separately from their partners, going through a legal process, starting to date, re-establishing a social life, or getting used to being alone. In this support group, you will gain strategies, learn to cope and begin to heal by relating to others in similar situations. Facilitated discussion and sharing of experiences within the group will help you gain insight, acceptance and self-awareness. The group focuses on examining all relationships. Members observe when they take similar roles in their relationships, choose the same types of people, and recreate similar situations. One of the stages of healing is working on the harm that was done in the relationship as well as being accountable for one’s part in the dynamic. Once the trauma of the separation has been worked through, the deeper work begins. The focus is placed on the individual and their relationship with themselves. Remember- the disorientation of divorce can last a long time, and the process of finding your footing is not linear. There are days when you feel grounded and secure. Then a trigger can lead to a fresh wave of grief, anger and confusion. If you have kids, you have to re-learn how to deal with your ex, shift communication styles, and become more formal and distant. It may be hard to create new boundaries with your ex. The fighting may continue, or one of you may need more distance while the other does not. While the emotional upheaval is at its worst, you may be dealing with lawyers and court appearances. This just adds to feelings of frustration, fear and vulnerability. Having group support makes a huge difference because it helps you transform those negative feelings into strength. Divorce is the starting point and our goal for the group is to transform who members will become. You will meet people who want the right kind of support so you can get through this part of your separation together. Group Details: Co-ed membership Berkeley Group: 5:30pm - 7:00pm Wednesdays Intake therapy session required to join

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