Unity Palo Alto - A positive path for spiritual living

### Fall Program Week 4: LET THEM Chapters 7-10 - Emotional Reactions + Ending Comparison

Most adults throw tantrums because they never learned proper emotional regulation. Learn to respond to emotional outbursts with compassion while maintaining boundaries by imagining the eight-year-old version of the person.

Discover why making the right decision often feels terrible in the moment, especially when it impacts others emotionally.

Then address the comparison trap that steals your peace. Life's inherent unfairness can't be changed, but your response determines whether you stay stuck in comparison or use it as motivation.

Learn the difference between torture comparison (things you can't change) and teacher comparison (skills you can develop).

### Fall Program Week 5: LET THEM Chapters 11-13 - Mastering Adult Friendship

Adult friendship changes from a group sport to an individual pursuit, requiring intentional effort.

Research shows it takes 200+ hours to form close friendships, and most people lose 50% of their friends every 7 years. Understand the three pillars of friendship: proximity, timing, and energy.

Learn why some friendships naturally fade and how to navigate these changes with grace. Then discover how to create the best friendships of your life by being willing to "go first" - initiating conversations, making invitations, and showing vulnerability.

The best friends of your life might be people you haven't met yet, but you must stay patient through awkward beginning stages.

### Fall Program Week 6: Chapters 14-17 - Motivating Others + Supporting Struggling People

You cannot motivate someone else to change. Change only happens when they feel ready and choose it for themselves, making pressure counterproductive.

"The day someone changes is the day they decide they're ready - not the day you decide they need to."

Learn the ABC Loop for influence:

• Apologize and Ask
• Back Off and observe Behavior
• Celebrate progress while modeling Change.

Discover why rescuing people from natural consequences prevents necessary motivation to change. The most loving thing is often stopping rescue attempts.

Learn the difference between harmful help, healthy support, and emergency intervention. Effective support requires clear boundaries, especially around money.

### Week 7: Chapters 18-20 + Conclusion - Choosing Love + New Beginnings

This is where everything changes. Stop settling for relationships that drain you and start choosing people who celebrate you. Learn to see through actions, not potential, and finally trust what people show you about who they really are.

Discover how to have the commitment conversation that transforms relationships without ultimatums or manipulation. When relationships end, understand the science of heartbreak and why taking action accelerates healing faster than time alone.

Most importantly, step into your "Let Me Era" - the version of yourself that takes risks, lives authentically, and builds the life you've always wanted. Every ending creates space for something beautiful to begin.