ADHD Support Group - AMS

Why standard dating advice doesn't fit your brain, and what does.
Why does dating feel harder than it should when you have ADHD?

Partly because the standard advice was built for a different brain..

Over two hours we look at six ways ADHD tends to show up in dating.

For each one:

• what it looks like
• why your brain is doing it
• what it's good for
• and what to do about it.

Reply gaps. The uneven cadence in ADHD replies (ALL or nothing) can be confusing to potential partners. Helping potential partners understand your way of communicating is much easier than changing a lifelong pattern for you (and it works!)

The overwhelm. Apps, matches, small talk, scheduling dates can be super overwhelming (but don't need to be).

Hyperfocus. How intense new attraction gets and how to enjoy it without losing the rest of your life.

The rejection sensitivity. Dating with an ultra sensitive response to rejection (no matter how logically you might understand it) can be super tough. Learn ways to manage the RSD so the ups and downs of dating become less exhausting.

The week-six dip. Why the excitement drops (oh the pain of ADHD boredom) and how to tell settled chemistry from an actual mismatch.

Being known. Without understanding how your attention works, potential partners won't 'get' you in a way that will work long term. Communicating your own unique attentional profile, in a way that neuro-typicals can understand, is ESSENTIAL.

Who it's for: adults with ADHD, diagnosed or self-identified, single and dating or wanting to be. You won't be put on the spot.

Format: small group. Short segments with a proper break, and room to move around. Held in English.

Psychoeducational workshop, not therapy, and not a substitute for clinical treatment.

Facilitated by Kate D'Anvers, registered psychologist with 25 years experience working with couples and singles with ADHD, and Jonas Barre, communications expert. Co-founders of Amsterdam Dating School.

In this session we will go deep into the new framework that will be use for the space: HOPE, Healthy Outcomes from Positive Experiences

As this space has grown constantly in the last two years, this is the time to get together and refine it with your input.

Lana Jelenjev, Chairwoman of the neurodiversity foundation, Community Alchemist, Healing-centered ecosystems and HOPE facilitator, will join us to tell us more about the framework, how to use it, and what impact it can have in our experience in the space and most importantly, I our lives.

Here you can dive deep into HOPE if you feel like:
https://positiveexperience.org

The goal is to keep growing, but in a way that really serves all of us, and for that your input is fundamental.

This is the part 2 of a 3 parts series, and this is the structure:

August 19
Community feedback, glows and grows.

August 26
The new proposed working framework: HOPE, Healthy Outcomes from Positive Experiences

September 02
The philosophical backbone of the relational self: Ayni, Kapwa & more.

Alone, everything can be hard. Together, we can create the world we need and deserve... and have fun in the process.

Practicalities:
- Bring your own food and drinks, share if you feel like (no alcohol)
- I will open the door as close as possible to 18:30
(I'm time blind, I can be late but I'm trying my best)
- We aim to start the conversation by 19:00
- We finish around 20:30
- You can stay in the space and socialise until 22:00

In this session we will explore philosophical concepts that can explain and support what has been working in this space, and how we can use them intentionally in practical matters and everyday life.

I will present to you my reflections and knowledge around it, and I would love to hear your perspective, questions, and ideas.

The goal is to keep growing, but in a way that really serves all of us, and for that your input is fundamental.

This is the part 3 of a 3 parts series, and this is the structure:

August 19
Community feedback, glows and grows.

August 26
The new proposed working framework: HOPE, Healthy Outcomes from Positive Experiences

September 02
The philosophical backbone of the relational self: Ayni, Kapwa & more.

Alone, everything can be hard. Together, we can create the world we need and deserve... and have fun in the process.

Practicalities:
- Bring your own food and drinks, share if you feel like (no alcohol)
- I will open the door as close as possible to 18:30
(I'm time blind, I can be late but I'm trying my best)
- We aim to start the conversation by 19:00
- We finish around 20:30
- You can stay in the space and socialise until 22:00