What we’re about
Authentic Relating Toronto: Where relating is ART
ART offers events, workshops and courses involving Authentic Relating, Intersubjective Meditation (aka Circling), and Dialogos.
Our intention is to deliver cutting edge practices and experiences that afford us (as individuals and a society) to address our various perennial problems. Sometimes we deliver this intention through a one-of casual drop-in community-style event, or a purpose-focused, closed-group fellowship, multi-month growth-oriented course.
Regardless of the type of event, we use a general underlying framework that affords growth and transformation through addressing what are known as 'states of consciousness', 'structures of consciousness' and 'shadow work'.
While most of our spaces focus on what is known as 'participatory knowing', meaning our events tend to be highly experiential and interactive and through practice we can expand this area of knowing. Some offerings also work on one or more of the other three 'ways of knowing', such as our perspectival (through integration and theory), propositional (theory) and procedural (trainings) ways of knowing.
What is Authentic Relating?
For us, Authentic Relating is a practice of 'authenticity in relationship' (any kind of relationship - familial, professional, intimate, etc.) Here the practice of 'authenticity' is moving more and more towards an outward expression that more accurately reflects our inner experience.
Therefore, as we're all at least a bit different, and we're practicing, there isn't really any 'right way' on how to relate.
Our spaces tend to allow participants to drop trying to come off a certain way, to explore/appreciate whatever arises, while allowing ourselves to 'mess it up'.
For many of our spaces, if we can manage to cultivate even just 1% more connection, transparency, and aliveness in our interactions, we're walking-the-walk.
Though, it's also understood and/or accepted that trying to be authentic all the time is (ironically) inauthentic to many of us.
You can read more about Authentic Relating on our website at authenticrelatingtoronto.com
What is Intersubjective Meditation (ART Circling)?
ART Circling is an organic, in-the-moment interpersonal process that’s equal parts art form, meditation, and group conversation — all designed to allow a visceral experience of connection and understanding of another person’s world, celebrating who and where they are right now.
It’s practicing using our genuine curiosity to better understand and become a connoisseur of another person’s world though present moment awareness while breaking through the assumptions and projections we have about each other.
Different than sitting on a meditation cushion by yourself, Circling is a relational practice. And though it works exquisitely in intimate relationships of all kinds, it can be applied in ALL areas of life because it’s so organic, non-analytical, effective, and fun.
You can read more about ART Circling on our website at circling.ca
What is Dialogos (Dialog-OS)?
In this case, Dialogos references a 'state' we can experience through dialog.
Dia = through, Logos = the word.
ART offers various practices that would be considered Dialogos Practices, practices in which the presence of the 'logos' may be experienced.
Merriam Webster defines Logos as 'reason that in ancient Greek philosophy is the controlling principle in the universe' and while that may sound a bit too new-agey or 'spiritual' to some ears, you can just as easily describe it as the experience of something like a 'collective flow state'.
An experience of getting into 'right relationship' together with whatever has our attention (usually the here-and-now/present moment of the connection between us).
You can read more about Dialog-OS on our website dialog-os.com
Some more about ART
ART has been running events, workshops and courses for over a decade now and in some of those years we have run over 100 in-person sessions within the calendar year.
You can use this group to stay up to date with future offerings once they are posted (online and in-person), or you could sign up for our newsletter on our website at http://circling.ca and there usually get a heads up on upcoming events before the events go live on meetup. Just so you know, we average 1-2 emails per month and you can, of course, unsubscribe at any time.
Upcoming events (3)See all
- Cleaning Up - An Introduction to the Shadow and Shadow Work (Special Event)West End Toronto - Location on Completed Registration, Toronto, ONCA$30.00
Effective advanced adult development can be described with the following phrase “Wake Up, Grow Up, Clean Up and Show Up”
"Waking Up" in this context can be distilled down simply as becoming aware there’s still more to learn.
"Growing Up" can be summed up as leaning into the process, creating a strong intention of introspection and practice to move through to higher developmental stages, towards that ‘more’ in ‘more to learn’.
And "Cleaning Up" is the process of healing or of coming into congruence with oneself. It is the stage this workshop points to as a key piece of Cleaning Up is discovering, acknowledging and working with our shadows (Shadow Work).
The shadow is defined as our unconscious behaviors, sometimes considered reactionarily instinctive or irrational. Unowned or unprocessed shadows are often projected onto others and they tend to represent an aspect of ourselves we do not (yet) accept.
From this place Ken Wilber and Dustin DiPerna present “Shadow Work” as one of the three foundational pillars required for a person or thing to be ‘whole’ via their “Towards a Deliberately Developmental Civilization” whitepaper. The document also offers the other two as being awareness of Structures of Consciousness (which ART offers through it’s courses) and States of Consciousness (which ART offers through just about every event we host). The theory is lack of comprehensive awareness in one, leads to fractures -- or to be somewhat hyperbolic, broken people and/or civilizations.
The only existing ART container with an intention to offer explicit shadow work is in Master Circle Level 2, and we have yet to hold that level 2 course yet. Aware of this gap in our ecology of practices currently available under the ART name, we’re looking to offer this workshop to the ART community as an introduction to the Shadow and Shadow Work.
Therefore, this workshop might be for you if you:
- If you feel like you’re well into your personal development journey but notice some areas where you feel stuck
- You feel ready to peel back and examine another layer of your experience
- Have no (or only a beginners) understanding of Shadow and Shadow Work
And as one might be able to determine, if we reserve this work for an advanced leadership course, the work might be fairly intense and/or confronting. As a Trauma Informed space you will have a lot of choice to the degree in which you participate, and as we may be dipping into what is unconscious for us, it’s important that you consider the following...
That this workshop might not be for you if:
- Have experienced Trauma and you are presently (recently have been) experiencing symptoms of that Trauma
- Are presently experiencing difficulty regulating yourself, or consider yourself prone to dysregulation.
What we’re offering in this workshop:
- Discuss the concept of “The Shadow” and "Shadow Work"
- Bring forward some awareness and practices to aid us
- Engage in a process to explore our shadow
- Offer an experience of Shadow Work practice (in a group)
- And then a debrief of our experience
And in closing, as we work to integrate our shadow(s), we’ll be better able to do the “Showing Up” part.
Of course... many of us will mistake our position in the queue from time-to-time where we will likely find ourselves in the seemingly necessary and unavoidable stage of “F@ucking Up”... at which time it’s likely appropriate to re-engage with some of these Cleaning Up tools we’ll touch on in this workshop.
Payment: To get on the RSVP list yourself, you must complete payment via paypal when RSVPing, if you do not want to use paypal, we can manually put you on the RSVP list if you send a $30 Interac EMT to firstname.lastname@example.org
Logistics: Doors @ 7, Start @ 7:10, Doors Closed @ 7:20
This event is led by Taylor.
- ART Presents - TIAMAT Tier 1West End Toronto - TBA, Toronto, ONCA$500.00
What is TIAMAT?
TIAMAT is a secular Ecology of Practices, borne from ritual, performance and theatre that leverages 4E cognitive science to facilitate the cultivation of flow, insight and rationality to afford wisdom and self-transformation.
TIAMAT (The Integrative Approach and Methodology of Active Transformation) does this through exercises that strengthen four cognitive mechanics:
Monitor and self-regulate emotion and behaviour in a context-sensitive manner that affords rationality
Somatic Awareness: Mind-Body
Notice and identify causal patterns between subjective experiences e.g., thought, sensation, emotion
Transjective Rationality: Mind-World
Promote cognitive flexibility between perspectives in concert with a social environment
Enactive Imaginality: Mind-Self
Consciously restructure cognition through deliberate engagement with the imaginal
TIAMAT is a "full-stack" DIME Ecology of Practices that is composed of three Tiers, each of them laying the foundations and scaffolding progressively into the next Tier.
Tier 1: Rituals for Aligning Cognition and Behavior Towards Self-Literacy
In Tier 1, you will be introduced to a series of psychophysical exercises that are designed to synchronize mental behavior (thinking, feeling, sensing, observing) with physical actions in relationship with self, other and world.
These exercises will start to bring awareness to casual patterns between conscious experience and observable behavior, i.e., "When I think/feel/sense/perceive X, I want to do Y." In order to monitor these patterns, you will be provided a set of Meta-maps that will allow you to shape behavior, track subtext and direct awareness.
Tier 1 will be conducted largely in fellowship with other participants. As each person comes into Tier 1 with a different intention, there is bound to be friction and challenge. As such, it is worth mentioning that this is NOT a 'safe space'. You can expect participant intentions to directly conflict with each other, in order to generate the differentiation necessary to practice healthy boundary-setting, conflict resolution and self-reflection. You can also expect to challenge existing behavioral patterns directly, sometimes in diametric opposition. This will feel uncomfortable and unnatural for a time, but is always in service of exploration and flexibility.
After Tier 1 and consistent independent practice, you should be able to:
- Map subjective experience through a set of frameworks
- Communicate subjective experience in a group from a multitude of perspectives
- Enter into serious play and track changes in subjective experience
- Begin developing the vocabulary to articulate general changes in affect
TIAMAT Tier 1 will be led by Ethan Kobayashi-Hsieh from 5ToMidnight International
Please Note: This offering of TIAMAT Tier 1 is also being included (at a bundled price) along with the Respond Network's Guide Development Program - Level 1 outlined here taking place the subsequent two weekends (Dec 1-3rd and 8th to 10th).
- ART Presents - Respond's Guide Development Program - Level 1West End Toronto - TBA, Toronto, ONCA$1,500.00
ART Presents - RESPOND's Guide Development Program (Level 1)
Due to description length constraints on Meetup, what follows is a truncated description. Please visit the the RSPND.network site for the full description.
Guide Development Program - Level 1
“What capacities would a ‘full-stack’ human possess?”
“What capacities are necessary to thrive in modern-day life?"
The result from asking these questions is the Guide Development Program (GDP), a multi-stage, comprehensive leadership development program.
While the “Guide” piece refers to what Respond has used to name one of the layers of members in the network (often facilitators of complex and transformational practices and courses), the goal of the GDP is to offer domain-general applicability. We expect ‘graduates’ of the full (all levels) GDP program to be regarded as possessing the necessary skills to lead (themselves & others) across many different contexts whether that’s managing a company, a team, facilitating a group process, or being a more effective parent and partner in a familial setting.
More about the Stack (Domains)
The domains are referenced in Respond’s: “A Theory of Wisdom Practice” article which is part of the meta-curriculum for Wisdom Practices researched by Respond in 2022-23. In it the article defines an ecology of wise practices touches into and integrates all of the four domains, Dialogue, Imaginal, Mindfulness and Embodiment.
The GDP program will start to address a fifth domain, Service.
We believe that being of service is also a necessary element in a well balanced ecology of life practice. As a result, the program is best suited to people who are in a position to engage with something ‘bigger than themselves’. In other words, being in a position to provide some kind of service. This could be team leadership, helping others with their personal development, or guiding/parenting children.
As a precursor to the GDP Level 1, participants will take part in More Wise, an online weekend experience that weaves theory and practice towards greater wisdom. You can read more about this course-within-a-course here.
The GDP Level 1 focuses on how to sense into and maintain one's individuality within a group context. You'll be exposed to exercises that foster your ability to discern what is "yours" and what is not. You can expect to be placed in challenging contexts that stretch and develop these ‘muscles’.
Bundle Option: TIAMAT Tier 1 (recommended)
TIAMAT is a secular Ecology of Practices, borne from ritual, performance and theatre to facilitate the cultivation of flow, insight and rationality to afford wisdom and self-transformation.
In the context of the GDP, TIAMAT Tier 1 (TT1) functions as a training container to build fluency with the skills that will be employed during the GDP 1. Think of TT1 as "shadow-boxing" and GDP 1 as "sparring with a live opponent". This is not to say that participants who do not take TT1 are disadvantaged. Someone with sufficient grounded experience in their own ecologies of practice can do just as well in the GDP Level 1. However, TT1 might still offer considerable value in terms of a diversity of perspectives and/or integration between courses.
Please see the solo event listing here for more on TT1.
More Wise: How to Practice for Wisdom (included w/GDPL1)
- Pre-Session: Read the two articles (est. 90mins)
- Dates (online)
- TBA - Late Oct.
TIAMAT Tier 1 ($250 optional add-on, €500/$500CAD value)
- Dates (in-person)
- Fri, Nov 24th - 6:30pm to 9:30pm
- Sat, Nov 25th - 2:00pm to 8:00pm
- Sun, Nov 26th - 10:00am to 4:00pm
GDP Level 1
- Dates (two weekends, in-person)
- Fri, Dec 1st & 8th - 6:30pm to 9:30pm
- Sat, Dec 2nd & 9th - 2:00pm to 8:00pm
- Sun, Dec 3rd & 10th - 10:00am to 4:00pm
- Integration Call (online)
- TBA - Late Dec (90-120mins)
There are no educational or experiential prerequisites for the Level 1. It is open to the public. It's designed to start from the ‘ground floor’ and scaffold up. However, to gauge fitment we ask that you fill out a short registration form, and we will setup a 15-minute zoom call with each participant.
Note: This course may not be for you if you identify with any of the following:
- Have unresolved Trauma and you are presently (or recently) experiencing symptoms of that Trauma
- Are presently experiencing difficulty regulating yourself, or consider yourself prone to dysregulation.
Note: If you are currently working with a mental health practitioner, we request that you discuss your potential participation in this course with them prior to registration.
This course is being led by Taylor Barratt & Ethan Kobayashi-Hsieh of Respond.