What we’re about
Enough with disconnection, alienation, and fear. Let's find different ways to be!
Humans have always known that touch can be healing. Let's use it, this power that we have, to begin healing each other. How? By coming together to create non-sexual, safe, consensual spaces where we can explore. It’s time to change the rules, to give people opportunities to re-learn the simplest things. Like that I’m ok. And that you’re ok. It’s about connection, grounding, and love. Come join us in one of the simplest most primal and also most radical activities around - platonic touch.
Why? Because consensual touch improves how we relate to other people and ourselves. It reduces stress, lowers blood pressure, heals old trauma, promotes positive attachment, and creates a sense of safety, wellbeing, and belonging. Without enough touch people tend to be lonely, afraid, stressed, and unhappy - sound familiar? Research shows that people can reduce each other's pain - even physical pain, but only when they touch. In our rapid advancement we have forgotten the simplest things.
Community Cuddles brings together people who might otherwise never meet to explore giving and receiving touch. It promotes a culture of authentic connection based on full honest consent. The first 60 - 90 minutes of each event is a structured workshop focused on knowing what you want, asking for it, and setting boundaries. And if on any given day you don’t want to touch - then don’t. You never have to touch anyone, ever, at any of our events. Self knowledge, communication, and touch weave the threads of community. It's about letting our common need for safe, non-sexual touch create connection. It's about getting connected before we try to problem solve. It's about trust, belonging, and empowerment.
Community Cuddles is for anyone curious about safe, consensual, non-sexual touch. Especially if you're nervous. How could you not be? Especially if you have been hurt in the past and you're not sure touch like this is possible but you hope it is and you want to find out but you might leave right after you get there. Yup. You are welcome here. This is about each of us moving from pain to healing and then celebration - together. Simple acts can change us as individuals and can change the collective. Join us in being that change.
Upcoming events
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Community Cuddle October 24th **NEW LOCATION: ARVADA**
True Self Sanctuary, 7985 Vance Drive Suite 206, Arvada, CO, USIn a world where we are more connected than ever through technology, we often forget the power of physical touch. Humans have always known that touch can be healing, and it’s about time we put that knowledge to good use.
Consensual touch has been proven to improve our relationships with others and ourselves. It can reduce stress, lower blood pressure, heal old trauma, and promote positive attachment. However, without enough touch, people tend to feel lonely, afraid, stressed, and unhappy - which is something that many of us can relate to. Research shows that people can reduce each other's pain just by touching.
This is where Community Cuddles comes in. It’s a space where people can come together to explore giving and receiving touch in a safe, non-sexual, and consensual way. The first 60-90 minutes of each event are a structured workshop focused on knowing what you want, asking for it, and setting boundaries. If on any given day you don’t want to touch, then don’t. You never have to touch anyone, ever, at any of our events.
Community Cuddles is for anyone who is curious about safe, consensual, platonic touch, especially if you're nervous or have been hurt in the past. It’s about moving from pain to healing and celebration together. This is a closed event, and people of all backgrounds, genders, ethnicities, races, spiritual or religious beliefs, sizes, and ages (18 and over please) who are feeling healthy and have no known exposure to illness are welcome.
Community Cuddles promotes a culture of authentic connection based on full honest consent. It’s about trust, belonging, and empowerment. So, come join us in exploring the power of touch and let’s heal each other one cuddle at a time.
Community Cuddles Itinerary
6:30 PM – Cuddlers arrive, help set up blankets and pillows, share snacks, get a feel for the space, and socialize.
6:45 PM – Welcome Circle. This part of the event will include practice setting boundaries and communicating around consent.
6:45 - 7:30 PM – Open cuddling! Per cuddle party rules, you MUST ask and get a verbal ‘yes’ before touching or cuddling with anybody at this event and you don't have to touch anyone ever.
9:30- 9:45 PM -- Closing Circle.
9:45 PM - 10:00PM Packing the cars, leaving no trace, and everyone has said their goodbyes or made plans to meet elsewhere.
BE SOBER: Do not drink or smoke before or at this event.
WHAT TO WEAR: Please be freshly showered and stay clothed in a minimum of shorts and a t-shirt for the entire event. Please do not wear anything that you consider sexy or risque – think elementary school slumber party.
WHAT TO BRING: You may bring snacks to share. Blankets, pillows, and anything else cuddly help make the space more comfortable. You are welcome to wear a mask if you choose. The only thing that you are required to bring is a clean and sober you.
TICKETS: Buy your ticket via the Eventbrite link. No need to print your ticket. Need help? Let Jen know by emailing relationshipdoulajen@gmail.com or texting 720.523.3545
COMMUNITY CUDDLES GUIDELINES
(based on the Rules of CuddleParty.com and Cuddlist.com)
1. You agree to keep this event non-sexual in both words and body language.
2. You will speak up or move if you are uncomfortable at any time, for any reason.
3. Clothes stay on for the whole event.
4. You do not have to touch anyone at a Community Cuddles event, ever.
5. You must ask permission and receive a verbal YES before you touch anyone. Please be specific in your requests.
6. If you’re yes, say YES. If you’re a no, say NO.
7. If you’re a maybe, say NO. You can always change your mind, in fact -
8. You have the superpower to change what you are dong at any time. You are encouraged to use it.
9. Tears, laughter, and all emotions are welcome.
10. Get your facilitator or assistant if you have a question or concern or if you need assistance with anything during the event.
11. Respect people’s privacy when sharing about Community Cuddles.
12. Keep the cuddle space tidy. No one likes to cuddle in a puddle!
CUDDLING WITH STRANGERS
Cuddling with strangers sounds weird to most people, and may sound scary. Many people start out nervous at a cuddle event. Most end relaxed and joyful, really, really glad they came.
Our Group Cuddle is a group cuddling event and we love it - it is NOT a cuddleparty.com official Cuddle Party. Please visit CuddleParty.com to find a list of currently scheduled Cuddle Parties.
Buy your tickets and we'll see you soon! (or Venmo @CuddleJen or cash!)
Event location has ample parking, access to cold water, hot tea, clean bathrooms, and requires a door code upon arrival. Door will be propped open.
1 attendee - $30.00
Community Cuddles Boulder
Private residence near the Valmont Bike Park, 3160 airport road, boulder, co, USConsensual touch has been proven to improve our relationships with others and ourselves. It can reduce stress, lower blood pressure, heal old trauma, and promote positive attachment. However, without enough touch, people tend to feel lonely, afraid, stressed, and unhappy.
This is where Community Cuddles comes in. It’s a space where people can come together to explore giving and receiving touch in a safe, non-sexual, and consensual way. The first 60-90 minutes of each event are a structured workshop focused on knowing what you want, asking for it, and setting boundaries. If on any given day you don’t want to touch, then don’t. You never have to touch anyone, ever, at any of our events.
Community Cuddles is for anyone who is curious about safe, consensual, platonic touch, especially if you're nervous or have been hurt in the past. It’s about moving from pain to healing and celebration together. This is a closed event, and people of all backgrounds, genders, ethnicities, races, spiritual or religious beliefs, sizes, and ages (18 and over please) who are feeling healthy and have no known exposure to illness are welcome.
Community Cuddles promotes a culture of authentic connection based on full honest consent. It’s about trust, belonging, and empowerment. So, come join us in exploring the power of touch and let’s heal each other one cuddle at a time.
Community Cuddles Itinerary
2:30 PM – Cuddlers arrive, help set up blankets and pillows, share snacks, get a feel for the space, and socialize.
2:45 PM – Welcome Circle. This part of the event will include practice setting boundaries and communicating around consent.
3:45 - 5:30 PM – Open cuddling! Per cuddle party rules, you MUST ask and get a verbal ‘yes’ before touching or cuddling with anybody at this event and you don't have to touch anyone ever.
5:30 - 5:45 PM -- Closing Circle.
5:45 - 7:00 PM - Time to chat and say goodbyes or make plans to meet elsewhere. There is often an informal dinner gathering after the cuddle. New people are welcome.BE SOBER: Do not drink or smoke before or at this event.
WHAT TO WEAR: Please be freshly showered and stay clothed in a minimum of shorts and a t-shirt for the entire event. Please do not wear anything that you consider sexy or risque – think elementary school slumber party.
WHAT TO BRING: Snacks to share. Blankets, pillows, and anything else cuddly help make the space more comfortable. Masks optional. The only thing that you are required to bring is a clean and sober you.
TICKETS: Buy your ticket via the Eventbrite link. No need to print your ticket. Need help? Let Kassandra know by emailing kassandra@kassandrabrown.org or texting 720-340-2246.
COMMUNITY CUDDLES GUIDELINES
(based on the Rules of CuddleParty.com and Cuddlist.com)
1. You agree to keep this event non-sexual in both words and body language.
2. You will speak up or move if you are uncomfortable at any time, for any reason.
3. Clothes stay on for the whole event.
4. You do not have to touch anyone at a Community Cuddles event, ever.
5. You must ask permission and receive a verbal YES before you touch anyone. Please be specific in your requests.
6. If you’re yes, say YES. If you’re a no, say NO.
7. If you’re a maybe, say NO. You can always change your mind, in fact -
8. You have the superpower to change what you are dong at any time. You are encouraged to use it.
9. Tears, laughter, and all emotions are welcome.
10. Get your facilitator or assistant if you have a question or concern or if you need assistance with anything during the event.
11. Respect people’s privacy when sharing about Community Cuddles.
12. Keep the cuddle space tidy. No one likes to cuddle in a puddle!CUDDLING WITH STRANGERS
Cuddling with strangers sounds weird to most people, and may sound scary. Many people start out nervous at a cuddle event. Most end relaxed and joyful, really, really glad they came.Our Group Cuddle is a group cuddling event and we love it - it is NOT a cuddleparty.com official Cuddle Party. Please visit CuddleParty.com to find a list of currently scheduled Cuddle Parties.
Buy your tickets and we'll see you soon!Event location is a private residence near Valmont and Airport Roads in Boulder. Exact location sent with ticket purchase.
1 attendee - $30.00
PARSE - Playground for Authentic Relational Skills Exploration Wheel of Consent
Private residence near the Valmont Bike Park, 3160 airport road, boulder, co, USWelcome to PARSE - the Playground for Authentic Relational Skills Exploration!
Join us on Sun, Nov. 23, 2025 at 2:30 PM in Boulder for an exciting event dedicated to honing your interpersonal skills in a fun and interactive setting.
We are focusing on Betty Martin's Wheel of Consent. This life changing work gets us out of tolerating, enduring, resentment, and meh into clarity, enjoyment, open-hearted fun (and deep growth). Personally, this is one of the keystone life-changing concepts I've encountered in my 25 years of personal and professional growth. Absolutely life-changing!
PARSE is all clothing on and non-sexual.
No previous experience is necessary.In November we will focus on the bossy massage where you get to ask for what you want and receive it over and over again. We will also look at
why we don't ask for what we want, why we don't set boundaries, and what we do instead. It's often delightful, confrontational, and illuminating.In October we explored the 3-Minute Game which focuses on consent, giving, receiving, touch, and clear communication. Developed by Betty Martin and Harry Faddis and played by thousands (or is it millions by now?) of people all over the world, this game is a game-changer for relationships. It can also be played with speaking and listening if you'd like to explore without touching.
In September explored the serve-accept dynamic in both talking and touch. All who participated got to ask "How would you like me to touch you for your pleasure?" Then take a sacred pause to feel your own boundaries, your own yes and no, and your own wholehearted willing.
In August we explored the take-allow dynamic in both talking and touch. Participants had the opportunity to ask "How would you like to touch me for your pleasure?".
The dynamics of take-allow and serve-accept are very different. Knowing the difference sets you free. Come play on the Wheel and find out for yourself.
At PARSE, you'll have the opportunity to engage in various activities and exercises designed to help you develop authentic connections with others. Whether you're looking to improve your communication skills, build trust, or simply meet new people, this event is the perfect place to do so.
Come ready to step out of your comfort zone, challenge yourself, and have a great time in the process. We can't wait to see you there!
Please visit Betty Martin's website at https://www.wheelofconsent.org to learn more. There are links to free video trainings, her book "The Art of Receiving and Giving" and live paid trainings. The event photo is taken from Betty's website.
I, your host Kassandra, have had the supreme pleasure of attending Like a Pro, the 5-day professional training on the Wheel of Consent, three separate times with Betty Martin. (Yes it's good enough to fly, pay, and take 5 days out of my life multiple times!) I've also attended her training for Wheel of Consent facilitators and taught this work to both groups and clients. I'm excited to share it with you!
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