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# Bring One Family Conflict. Leave With a New Way Forward.
Do the same family conflicts keep coming back—no matter what you try?
Whether the conflict is with your child, parent, partner, sibling, in-law, or adult child, the Conflict Repair Café is a welcoming space where you can bring one real family conflict and discover a new way to navigate it—without giving up on what matters to you or the people you love.
Every family experiences conflict. You don't have to figure it out alone.
## What Makes This Different?
When conflict keeps repeating, it's natural to look for firmer boundaries, clearer consequences, or a better compromise.
These strategies rarely help because when the deeper dynamics of the conflict aren't clear, they often leave everyone feeling more frustrated and misunderstood.
At the Conflict Repair Café, we explore what is actually driving the conflict. Once that becomes visible, new possibilities often emerge that weren't available before.
People often arrive convinced there's only one possible solution. They leave seeing possibilities they didn't know existed.
## What You'll Experience
At each Café, you'll have the opportunity to:
• Bring one family conflict that matters to you.
• Share as much or as little as you choose—or simply observe.
• Watch live conflict coaching that often applies to many different situations.
• Discover practical next steps you can use in your own family.
• Connect with others who understand how hard family conflict can be.
Every Café is different, but people often experience moments of laughter, tears, learning, insight, and genuine connection.
My hope is that you'll leave with a little more lightness, a little more clarity, and a lot more possibility.
## Come by Yourself—or Bring the People Involved
You are welcome to attend on your own.
If the person or people you are in conflict with are willing to come, they are welcome too.
Sometimes meaningful change begins with one person. Sometimes it begins with a conversation shared together. Both are welcome.
If you'd like to see examples of my work, here are a few conversations:
Working with multiple family members
• How do I get my son to do chores?
• Can a six-year-old help decide how easy it is to access the axe?
Working with one family member
• Why are my kids determined to be miserable on vacation?
• How do I get my son to eat more slowly?
You can also learn more about my approach at [StopFamilyConflict.com](https://lisarothman.com/).
## Is This Café for Me?
This Café may be a good fit if:
• You keep having the same argument.
• You're exhausted by power struggles.
• You've tried many things and still feel stuck.
• You're worried a family relationship is getting worse.
• Your conflict feels too small for therapy—but too important to ignore.
• Your conflict feels overwhelming and you don't know where to begin.
• You're the only person in your family willing to come.
Come as you are. No conflict is too small, too big, or too messy.
## Frequently Asked Questions
Do I have to share?
No. Sharing is always optional. Many people learn simply by listening and reflecting on how the conversations relate to their own lives.
What if I don't want to share personal details?
You choose what to share and what to keep private. Even a small amount of information is often enough to uncover new possibilities.
What kinds of conflicts can I bring?
Anything involving family relationships: young children, teenagers, adult children, parents, siblings, partners, in-laws, or patterns from the past that continue to affect you.
What if people judge me?
Family conflict is part of being human. The Café is a confidential space grounded in empathy, curiosity, and respect—not blame or judgment.
What if my conflict is too small…or too big?
If it matters to you, it's welcome here. Everyday frustrations and long-standing pain can both become opportunities for meaningful change.
I've tried everything already. How will this be different?
You don't have to come believing it will work. Think of it as an experiment. Sometimes one new question or perspective is enough to begin shifting a pattern that has felt stuck for years.
Can I just observe?
Absolutely. Some people participate actively. Others simply listen. Both are welcome.
## What Does It Cost?
Your first Café is free.
If you return, I invite you to contribute an amount that supports both your financial sustainability and mine.
Most people give between $15 and $40, but if that amount would create financial stress or resentment, contribute what works for you—even if that's $0.
No one is turned away because of money.
## About Lisa
For more than twenty years, Lisa Rothman has helped families transform recurring conflicts into opportunities for understanding, collaboration, and lasting change.
Her approach is warm, practical, and deeply respectful of everyone involved.
If you'd like to learn more before attending, visit StopFamilyConflict.com.
I'd love to welcome you to a future Conflict Repair Café.
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Conflict Repair Cafe: Family Edition - Online
·OnlineOnline# Bring One Family Conflict. Leave With a New Way Forward.
Do the same family conflicts keep coming back—no matter what you try?
Whether the conflict is with your child, parent, partner, sibling, in-law, or adult child, the Conflict Repair Café is a welcoming space where you can bring one real family conflict and discover a new way to navigate it—without giving up on what matters to you or the people you love.
Every family experiences conflict. You don't have to figure it out alone.## What Makes This Different?
When conflict keeps repeating, it's natural to look for better communication skills, firmer boundaries, clearer consequences, or a better compromise.
Sometimes those strategies help.
But when the deeper dynamics of the conflict aren't clear, they often leave everyone feeling more frustrated and misunderstood.
At the Conflict Repair Café, we explore what is actually driving the conflict. Once that becomes visible, new possibilities often emerge that weren't available before.
People often arrive convinced there's only one possible solution. They leave seeing possibilities they didn't know existed.## What You'll Experience
At each Café, you'll have the opportunity to:
• Bring one family conflict that matters to you.
• Share as much or as little as you choose—or simply observe.
• Watch live conflict coaching that often applies to many different situations.
• Discover practical next steps you can use in your own family.
• Connect with others who understand how hard family conflict can be.
Every Café is different, but people often experience moments of laughter, tears, learning, insight, and genuine connection.
My hope is that you'll leave with a little more lightness, a little more clarity, and a lot more possibility.## Come by Yourself—or Bring the People Involved
You are welcome to attend on your own.
If the person or people you are in conflict with are willing to come, they are welcome too.
Sometimes meaningful change begins with one person. Sometimes it begins with a conversation shared together. Both are welcome.
If you'd like to see examples of my work, here are a few conversations:
Working with multiple family membersIf you're the only one coming from your family, no problem. Here's what that might look like:
Working with one family member
You can also learn more about my approach at StopFamilyConflict.com
## Is This Café for Me?
This Café may be a good fit if:
• You keep having the same argument.
• You're exhausted by power struggles.
• You've tried many things and still feel stuck.
• You're worried a family relationship is getting worse.
• Your conflict feels too small for therapy—but too important to ignore.
• Your conflict feels overwhelming and you don't know where to begin.
• You're the only person in your family willing to come.
Come as you are. No conflict is too small, too big, or too messy.## Frequently Asked Questions
Do I have to share?
No. Sharing is always optional. Many people learn simply by listening and reflecting on how the conversations relate to their own lives.
What if I don't want to share personal details?
You choose what to share and what to keep private. Even a small amount of information is often enough to uncover new possibilities.
What kinds of conflicts can I bring?
Anything involving family relationships: young children, teenagers, adult children, parents, siblings, partners, in-laws, or patterns from the past that continue to affect you.
What if people judge me?
Family conflict is part of being human. The Café is a confidential space grounded in empathy, curiosity, and respect—not blame or judgment.
What if my conflict is too small…or too big?
If it matters to you, it's welcome here. Everyday frustrations and long-standing pain can both become opportunities for meaningful change.
I've tried everything already. How will this be different?
You don't have to come believing it will work. Think of it as an experiment. Sometimes one new question or perspective is enough to begin shifting a pattern that has felt stuck for years.
Can I just observe?
Absolutely. Some people participate actively. Others simply listen. Both are welcome.## What Does It Cost?
Your first Café is free.
If you return, I invite you to contribute an amount that supports both your financial sustainability and mine.
Most people give between $15 and $40, but if that amount would create financial stress or resentment, contribute what works for you—even if that's $0.
No one is turned away because of money.## About Lisa
For more than twenty years, Lisa Rothman has helped families transform recurring conflicts into opportunities for understanding, collaboration, and lasting change.
Her approach is warm, practical, and deeply respectful of everyone involved.
If you'd like to learn more before attending, visit StopFamilyConflict.com.
I'd love to welcome you to a future Conflict Repair Café.2 attendees
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