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Psychologist, author and leadership coach Jess Baker joins ConsciousCafe for an insightful and practical live session on what happens when compassion becomes a trap.
Many of us were never taught where empathy ends and self-neglect begins. We give because it feels right, because it comes naturally, because someone has to, and because somewhere along the way we learned that giving is what makes us good. But when caring for others comes at the cost of our own needs, energy and wellbeing, compassion can quietly turn into over-responsibility, guilt and exhaustion.
In this illuminating session, Jess will help you recognise the hidden patterns that keep you giving beyond your capacity, including the four irrational beliefs that often sit beneath compulsive helping. She will also explore the invisible work of caregiving, listening, space-holding and showing up, and why this deeply skilled contribution is so often unnamed, undervalued and unsupported.
Drawing on her award-winning book The Super-Helper Syndrome, Jess will guide you through five practical steps out of the Compassion Trap, helping you understand your own helping patterns, find your conscious boundaries, identify your needs, enrol your own support team, and turn some of your kindness back towards yourself.
This session is for anyone who finds themselves holding it all together for others, whether in family life, friendships, community, caring roles or professional work. You may be caring for an ageing parent, supporting adult children, carrying emotional responsibility in your relationships, or simply recognising that you are the person everyone turns to.
You will leave with language, insight and a compassionate framework you can use straight away, both for yourself and for the people in your life who may also be caught in the trap.
A copy of the recording is included in the ticket price.
Previous webinar attendees have said:
“I could have crawled through the screen and listened to Jess all night”
"Amazing and really deep session. It was truly thought provoking and honest and really powerful. Thank you"
"Jess’s presentation of the subject and the way she answered questions were incredibly insightful. She’s an absolute pleasure to listen to.”
"This was wonderful, very engaging and very insightful to understanding of trust and empathy with approaches that will really help. Theoretical and practical.”
