About us
Conscious Girlfriend Academy is a global school and community for lesbians and queer women, meeting live on Zoom year-round, and hosting several in-person retreats each year. This is a place to make real friends, build community, and learn and practice skills for the healthy, happy relationship you want and deserve. (And yes, though we are not a dating site, some women do find love here, too.)
Combining cutting-edge neuroscience, relationship research and attachment theory with decades of lived lesbian/queer experience, the Academy provides a uniquely empowering dating and love education for lesbians ages 20s-80s. If you're ready to be done with heartbreak, falling for unavailable women, drama and pain, and discover the path to truly nourishing, joyful, lasting lesbian/queer love, we've got you covered.
We began with the Amazon-bestselling book, Conscious Lesbian Dating & Love, which has changed lives in 25 countries since it was published in 2015. Start reading the book free right here: https://www.consciousgirlfriendacademy.com/book
As demand grew, so did our program, becoming an online academy with weekly courses, groups and skill-building labs all year round. Communication, emotional intimacy, sexuality, compatibility, heartbreak healing, nervous system regulation, attachment, how to actually date as a woman-loving-woman of any age -- you can learn it all here, in programs designed to meet the unique needs of our community.
Lesbian relationships can be the best relationships on the planet -- but they can also be train wrecks, if you don't have the skills to both choose the right partner, and be the right partner. Here you'll get the clarity, confidence, mentorship and support to find and create the love of your dreams. While members often say they wish they'd found us years or decades ago, it is truly never too late.
Hear from some of our members:
“Now, from the Academy, I have a roadmap available to me to start me on the process of consciously dating, weeding out based on red flags and non-negotiables…. I have a toolbox to help me ascertain if someone is going to be a good fit… I have a boatload of new, conscious friends …I am more comfortable and confident being in the world.” – Marge, U.S.
“I am just so grateful for your teaching and guidance in getting through all the complexities of our triggers, trauma, longings for connection and the things that get in the way. Looking so forward to ongoing learning with you!" – JW, Canada
“In November 2018, I finished your 12-week Roadmap class. Prior to that I had been trying unsuccessfully to date for years, with over 100 first dates that never went anywhere. Your class made the difference. Six days later, I met Marci on a dating site. We dated for 15 months, then married. We’re an incredible match in so many ways that we can’t believe it ourselves… She is 68 and I just turned 71.” – Diana, U.S.
"I have found this class to be transformative. Can’t think of a better word to describe what I have experienced. I am definitely not the same woman who signed up for this three months ago!" – D., Australia
Check out our upcoming schedule of events here: https://www.consciousgirlfriendacademy.com/schedule
Learn more about our program here: https://www.consciousgirlfriendacademy.com/program
Read some of our happy love stories here: https://www.consciousgirlfriendacademy.com/lesbian-love-stories
Learn about our Conscious Lesbians 60+ group here: https://www.consciousgirlfriendacademy.com/https://www.consciousgirlfriendacademy.com/lesbians-over-60-support-group
Learn about our support for Later In Life Lesbians here: https://www.consciousgirlfriendacademy.com/coming-out-support-group
Check out our next live retreat here:
https://www.consciousgirlfriendacademy.com/lesbian-retreat
Prefer 1:1 support? See our Conscious Girlfriend Academy Certified Coaches here.
https://www.consciousgirlfriendacademy.com/coaches
Take a chance, check us out, change your life. Your lesbian/queer heart is worth it.
We are trans-affirming, diversity-celebrating, and provide scholarships where needed.
Upcoming events
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LGBTQ+ Healing From Chronic Pain, Fatigue, Long COVID, Migraines, IBS & More
·OnlineOnline44 attendees from 27 groupsHealing For Chronic Pain, Fatigue, Migraines, IBS, Long COVID & More:
The Empowering, Science-Based Way To Get Your Life Back
>REGISTER HERE on our website for this class (A Meetup RSVP along won't get you in) Registration costs $1.00 (trust and safety fee if you're new.)
https:/www.consciousgirlfriendacademy.com/healingWhy This Class?
At least 50 million Americans, and many more people worldwide, struggle with one or more of the above conditions, which:
-- Disproportionately affect women, and thus are very prevalent in the lesbian/queer community.
-- Have enormous negative impact on our quality of life, including our finances and our relationships.
-- Are poorly understood and rarely effectively treated by conventional Western medicine, and often not effectively addressed by naturopathic or Chinese medicine either.
-- Turn out to share surprising features which the newest brain science can actually help us address and resolve.Join us for this free* (if you've attended any of our paid classes before, or $1.00 trust and safety fee, if you're new to us) class in which two LGBTQ experts in the field will share their personal healing journeys, the brain science which helps them help others, and next steps for you or anyone else impacted by these chronic conditions.
Note: you must >register here on our website for this class.
https:/www.consciousgirlfriendacademy.com/healingChronic pain, including from documented physical causes. Fibromyalgia. Chronic Lyme Disease. Chronic Mold. Mast Cell Activation Syndrome. Long COVID. Chronic Fatigue Symptom/Myalgic Encephalitis. Chronic Epstein-Barr. Chronic migraines. Irritable Bowel Syndrome. Taken together, the toll these conditions take on our lesbian and queer lives is massive -- and changeable.
No, these conditions are not just "in your head." They are not your fault. And they can almost always be healed or substantially improved by the information our speakers, including Academy Director Ruth Schwartz, will share tonight.Ruth says, "After many years of up and down health, I was spending thousands of dollars each year on supplements and practitioners, and living a severely limited life. At my lowest point, I discovered the Curable app and the work of Dr. Becca Kennedy, founder of Resilience Healthcare. They outlined a radically different path to healing, and when I followed it, my life changed.
"That's why I invited Nida and Lexi, two experts in the field, to speak with me on April 22. We sincerely believe that what we have to share can make a huge difference for you."
Centering LGBTQIA2S+ lives, this class is also open to our allies, because we need to spread the healing word. >Register here on our website and feel free to share the link with others who need it. Registration costs $1.00 (trust and safety fee if you are new to Conscious Girlfriend Academy.) https:/www.consciousgirlfriendacademy.com/healing
Conscious Girlfriend Academy is the leading global resource supporting lesbians, sapphics, and other women-loving-women with the conscious dating and love tools we need... for the relationships we want and deserve. Learn more at www.consciousgirlfriendacademy.com
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Lesbian Attachment & Communication Healing Intensive
·OnlineOnline16 attendees from 26 groupsJoin this 5-part experiential intensive, not offered since 2024, because it is a heart saver! Join us to learn how to understand, heal from and prevent the leading cause of lesbian fights, breakups and pain.
An RSVP to this meetup group alone is not sufficient. Please click on this link to learn more and register for the 5 week course: https://www.consciousgirlfriendacademy.com/attachment-healing.
This event is cross posted in 26 other meetup groups and will have over 100 attendees. It will be a space where you can do deep growth and learning in community with lesbian and queer community.
Do You Recognize Any Of These Crazy-Making Situations?
"She went from saying 'This is the love of a lifetime,' to saying she wasn't ready for a relationship a week later."
"I feel pressured by how much my GF needs me. I don't want to be her whole world."
"I just want daily contact and a quick response to my texts -- why is that so hard?"
"I don't want to have to fight for alone time. I love her, but I can't give her what she needs."
"We booked a romantic vacation, and when we got there she said didn't want me any more."
"We keep breaking up and then she reaches out again, and I just can't let go."
"When my GF travels for work, I panic. I can hardly sleep or eat. What's wrong with me?"
"My GF is insisting I stop seeing my friends and break off contact with my exes."
"When I start getting close to someone, I'm always afraid I'm going to fuck it up."
"If someone is too into me, I feel smothered, but if she's unavailable, I get obsessed."
"I don't know why, but sometimes I just fall 'out of love' really fast."
The Surprising Truth:
Attachment wounding explains ALL of this.
Attachment is your brain's unconscious blueprint for bonding and connection. No one chooses to be "anxious," "avoidant" or "disorganized," attachment-wise -- but the closer a relationship gets, the more most of us fall into those painful states.
These reactions are programmed into your nervous system -- and hers -- from experiences so early you probably don't even remember them. Yet your attachment wounds affect all of your thoughts, feelings, behaviors and outcomes in love, and they play out even more intensely in lesbian relationships.
Here's the kicker. Your attachment style also impacts who you're attracted to. Most of us feel the most chemistry and fall in love the hardest when our attachment systems are strongly opposed. This explains a lot about why the most intense, blissful connections end up shattering us.
Plus, once your attachment wounds take hold, you're almost doomed to do and say things that make it worse. Even (or especially!) when you really love someone, the attachment gremlins mess it up.
But, here's the good news. Both your attachment blueprint and your painful relationship patterns ("gremlins") are changeable. This course will teach you how.
In just five weeks, you'll learn how to:- Recognize and re-script the hidden repetition compulsion patterns in your attractions, so you can stop getting hooked on the wrong women.
- Understand how attachment wounds are damaging your relationships, and how to interrupt the cycle to get back to connection.
- When you lean anxious: use these magic phrases to communicate in ways that bring her closer, rather than making her defensive or pushing her away.
- ***When you lean avoidant: ***use these magic phrases to help your GF calm down and feel connected, so you can take the space you need without having to shut down or break up.
- ***No matter which way you lean: ***The key steps to take to cultivate secure attachment inside yourself, so you can have greater peace and well-being whether you're single or coupled.
Whether you're single, in a relationship but taking the class on your own,
or taking it as a couple, this class will give you a path forward.An RSVP to this meetup group alone is not sufficient. Please click on this link to learn more and register for the 5 week course: https://www.consciousgirlfriendacademy.com/attachment-healing.
Conscious Girlfriend Academy is the leading global resource supporting lesbians, sapphics, and other women-loving-women with the conscious dating and love tools we need... for the relationships we want and deserve. Learn more at www.consciousgirlfriendacademy.com
If you'd like to book a free call to learn more about this class or our other offerings, you can set that up right here.
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