
What we’re about
Here is a chance to meet thoughtful people who feel passionately about the deep and meaningful things in life. The group invites like-minded people to engage in lively discussion on a broad range of intellectual topics. Everyone is welcome - just bring your point of view and willingness to share it in a spirit of open mindedness, and a sense of humour.
If you are just looking for a good argument, this group is not for you. If you are craving some good conversation and want to communicate and learn from other people's perspectives, please join us. We attempt to:
- actively listen, consider and respond rather than react. Pauses in the discussion are valuable, giving participants time to reflect;
- keep an open mind and stay curious - seek first to understand before making assumptions and judging others;
- we seek to share our ideas and grow mutual understanding, rather than to convert others to our point of view;
- if possible, vary your content to mix first-hand (personal experience) with second-hand (facts/stats) knowledge;
- balance 'deep and serious' content with 'light and interesting' dialogue. We like to have fun too;
- stay invested in the conversation, even when you don’t agree with what is being said;
- we value your full presence and ask that all participants switch their mobile phones to “Airplane Mode” for the duration of the meetup. Using your phone as a notepad for ideas is fine;
- we are welcoming to new members and respectful of their ideas both in and around meetups.
The primary focus of this group is to meet face to face, either in real life or online – it is not an online messaging discussion group. Any online communication should be as part of the meetup preparation or follow-up.
We avoid topics that are based upon "belief" or "faith". There are other more suitable meetups if this is your area of interest. (For example, we would only ever discuss religion or spirituality in a sociological or psychological context.)
Please note that it is mandatory to order a drink and / or food to support the venue which is hosting us. We ask for a $1 donation at each meetup to cover Meetup and Zoom fees.
For online meetings: - make sure that you are sitting in a quiet place - if there is some unavoidable background noise, mute your microphone when you are not speaking
- enable the Do Not Disturb mode on your cellphone so that we don’t hear your messages and calls. - use a headset or headphones if possible - this will improve sound quality for everyone.
Because it is not fair to those on a waiting list if a person RSVPs 'Yes', but then does not show up, a 'Two Strikes' rule will be applied. What this means is that if a member fails to show up twice or payment is not received in advance for two online meetups, they will be banned from attending further D & M Meetups. However, when the organising committee considers the possible banning of a long-term member who has had an otherwise good attendance record, 'no shows' recorded prior to 2 years ago will be disregarded.
This group has been going for many years now and we are proud of the culture we have created together. We look forward to seeing you there.
Upcoming events
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Nostalgia
Little Turkish Cafe, 217 Karangahape Road, Auckland, NZNostalgia - Greek: “Nostos Algos” - Literal translation: “The pain of wanting to return home".
A working definition of nostalgia is a feeling invoked by recollections of particular circumstances (most commonly expressed as relating to a past period of time), giving rise to a longing for a life situation that the feeler does not currently experience. The ‘feeling’ aspect places nostalgia squarely within the subjective experience of the individual and may assist us in understanding its origin, its purposes and its effects.
Nostalgia allows an idealised reimagining of the past while filtering out the complexities and imperfections of the reality in which that past was lived.
Let’s explore the following thought prompts, each both at an individual and collective/societal level:
- What causes nostalgia? Subjective experience or collective zeitgeist?
- What purposes does nostalgia serve?
- How does nostalgia influence us positively and/or negatively?
- Is nostalgia something that we should strive to minimise or eliminate, or relish?
- How does nostalgia strengthen us?
- How does nostalgia leave us vulnerable?
What is your experience of nostalgia in your own life? If you feel comfortable doing so, think about some personal examples to share.
Below are a few links to some thought-provoking YouTube videos:
- https://youtu.be/-6FgxxB7jhk?si=MAbqhhADi_xpyYRU (Why Gen Z Misses a time they never knew)
- https://youtu.be/_RZ-w4hU8Dw?si=Cjg6Y0osG9MD6pQP (The world you grew up in no longer exists)
- https://youtu.be/coGfGmOeLjE?si=QwiA6KD2dy0ET0LS (Why do we feel nostalgia)
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CUSTOMS:
You must register and be on the “Attendees - Going” list to attend.
Minimum spend of $10 at the cafe on food and/or drink. This enables us to have free use of their private room.We meet UPSTAIRS at the Little Turkish Cafe.
Please arrive early to order food and/or drink before you join us. Several people arrive early and eat downstairs before the Meetup. You are welcome to join us.
Bring $1 to cover Meetup costs.
RSVP POLICY:
RSVPs and cancellations will be accepted up until 6 hours before the start of the meetup so that people who feel unwell on the day have time to change their RSVP and allow someone else to attend.Being registered to attend and not attending OR cancelling your attendance after 12:30pm on Tuesday will be considered a 'No Show'.
Members with two 'No Shows' will be banned from attending further D&M Meetups.This RSVP policy has become necessary due to the high number of last minute withdrawals and non-attendance. This unfairly causes people on the Waiting List to miss out. Thanks for your cooperation.
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